preciouslove0x
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Nevermind. Mods please delete this thread. Thanks for all of your help everyone.
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First off, it's not your fault. You were under the influence and he took clear advantage of you.
Secondly, not only do you need the morning after pill..you need to get tested. (not sure if it's too late for a rape kit, but if not, that should be done as well)
Lastly, charges need to be pressed. I understand you are dealing with other things in your life, but that will pretty much be the best "revenge"(that you are currently contemplating)
I am sorry this happened to you.
IA with everything MsDee14 said. Also, you should cut out your pro-rape guy friend from your life.
((Hugs))
I think it is my fault. Actually I know it's my fault. I'm not going to play victim. I should have never been there. Its my responsibility to keep myself safe and not anyone else's. The faster I own up to it the quicker I can get over it. Im sorry for wasting everyone's time. Ill ask the mods to close this thread.
ok... now for a little tough love for after you do all of the steps posted above. Before I begin, I am in now way excusing the behavior of your room mate or the boyfriend, they are dead wrong.
However, you need to take responsiblity for your role in this situation... you drank too much, were "in the clouds" and that left you open to a compromising situation. You are responsible for that and only that. Be honest with yourself and own it. Then let it go. My fear is that you will feel some guilt about the situation and replay what you coulda, shoulda, woulda done until it comsumes you. When the bottomline is you made a mistake, like all of us have, hopefully you have learned a valuable lesson, and there is no reason to hold onto it so it impacts the rest of your life. The only reason I bring this up is because at some point you are going to need to forgive yourself so you can focus on taking necesarry actions against your assailants (i'm side eyeing your roommate) and get the proper care you need.
Take care of yourself... I'll keep you in prayer
I think it is my fault. Actually I know it's my fault. I'm not going to play victim. I should have never been there. Its my responsibility to keep myself safe and not anyone else's. The faster I own up to it the quicker I can get over it. Im sorry for wasting everyone's time. Ill ask the mods to close this thread.
As if she isn't feeling bad enough!!!
Thank you MsDee. Some people cannot just focus on just love for a moment. To the poster who posted the tough love, do you really think she did not feel responsible, and silly, and foolish? She practically begged for no judgment. She needed our comfort and that was what she was getting. She will likely beat herself up over this for years to come. I don't know what else to say.
OP, your response is very typical, almost everyone blames themselves no matter what the circumstances. That is why almost everyone needs therapy following trauma. I am so sorry you are going through this. PM us if you need to.