This is kinda of what I meant but makes more sense. Overall, I give off a reserved demeanor, dressed not half naked, etc. but I feel like no matter what I do, men go for the other girls. Just something I've noticed.
I hear what you're saying OP.
You know, back in the past I used to laugh and say to myself: "What!???! Nice girls don't finish last!! Please!" But now the older I've gotten, and based on what I've been through with some guys and have seen in relation to my "nice" friends, I have come to believe that the "Nice girls"
DO finish last.
This may just be my "woe is me" voice inside of me, but I believe that the girls who are modestly dressed, or who are genuinely NICE people DO get passed over by the guys...
INITIALLY. How is it that I'm a pretty nice woman, I'm attractive, I have my head screwed on tight, I have things going for me, but yet...I'm STILL single.
Yet, some other friends of mine that I know who dress more provacatively, or who have emotional issues, or who are straight up rude end up getting more guy attention...and some of them have actually ended up married!!
Even my nice girl friends, ones with great personalities who would love to be in a relationship are often overlooked and passed over by most guys.
One thing I will say however is that I don't think Nice girls ALWAYS finish last.
I know my sister and her guy friend (now her husband!
) were always just "friends". He was actually interested in another girl for the longest time! She never really gave him the time of day however. She treated him badly, they always fought, etc. She was moody, and felt like she was a little "princess".
Meanwhile, my sister was always nice, always accepting and supportive of her guy friend.
Later on down the line, her guy friend came to realize that sometimes the witchy "high-maintenance" girls aren't "all that".
I think he married my sister not only because he was in love with her, but because he saw that she was a "nice girl". She was someone who was classy, you could bring her home to "mama", and she was genuine.
So...I don't think nice girls always finish last...but sometimes they have to wait a little longer to find guys of substance. Once guys are through "playing the field", and are ready to settle down and be serious, I think they end up with more of the "nice girls".