Nice Girls Finish Last

Livingmylifetothefullest

Livingmylifetothefullest

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"Nice girls finish last", do you agree with this? If not, can you explain why you feel the way you do? I'm a nice (to keep from listing all qualities, I just picked one adjective) girl and I know other females who are the same but we for some reason constantly keep getting passed over for the _________ I think you can figure what I was going to say :yep:
 
I don't think it's true. what exactly are you trying to win? Clearly the man is not in a position to want and/or appreciate you so why not focus on the ones who do? And I've noticed that nice girls overlook nice guys too.
 
No, I don't believe that this is true.

But I don't necessarily like the definition of "nice" as it is often used in this cliche.
 
I don't think it's true. It's all about your mentality. Can't "win" if you have a defeated mindset.
 
No I dont believe this, nor do I believe nice guys finish last. But it is as you say, it depends on your definition of nice. I know a lot of nice girls who were classified as "*****es" because they did not allow themselves to be treated badly. This is not to say all "*****es" are nice girls misunderstood.

But every guy I know who would whine about being nice and that nice guy finished last was a doormat.

I think I am nice, but for the most part people know not to mess with me.
 
I guess it would depend on how you look at it.

-in high school, nice girls get picked last to go to the prom, etc because guys know the nice girls are not giving up ____ just for the fun of it.

-at the club, nice girls get overlooked because they are usually not wearing the highest heels or showing off all the goodies

but when it's time for these same men to pick WIVES/steady girlfriends- the wise men pick the nice girls. So, who really "finished" first? The unnice girls who were initally picked first or the nice girls who were chosen later?
 
asuperwoman said:
I guess it would depend on how you look at it.

-in high school, nice girls get picked last to go to the prom, etc because guys know the nice girls are not giving up ____ just for the fun of it.

-at the club, nice girls get overlooked because they are usually not wearing the highest heels or showing off all the goodies

but when it's time for these same men to pick WIVES/steady girlfriends- the wise men pick the nice girls. So, who really "finished" first? The unnice girls who were initally picked first or the nice girls who were chosen later?
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This is kinda of what I meant but makes more sense. Overall, I give off a reserved demeanor, dressed not half naked, etc. but I feel like no matter what I do, men go for the other girls. Just something I've noticed.
 
I do not believe in the notion of "nice" girls...

Perhaps, you mean girls that play by a certain set of life rules..*shrugs* Perhaps...:look:

Colors within the lines....:blush::look:

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asuperwoman said:
I guess it would depend on how you look at it.

-in high school, nice girls get picked last to go to the prom, etc because guys know the nice girls are not giving up ____ just for the fun of it.

-at the club, nice girls get overlooked because they are usually not wearing the highest heels or showing off all the goodies

but when it's time for these same men to pick WIVES/steady girlfriends- the wise men pick the nice girls. So, who really "finished" first? The unnice girls who were initally picked first or the nice girls who were chosen later?
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You know, I hear this a lot, and it's true to a degree, but I don't necessarily like this dichotomy... because often times, the "nice" girl might get the guy, but only after he ran through a bunch of "not nice" girls while sowing his wild oats.

So what was really won here by the so-called nice girl? A reformed male garden tool? Sorry, but if that's what's considered finishing first, I'll pass!

I consider myself a nice girl, but my "niceness" is determined by my own personal standards. While these guys are running through "unnice" girls until they're "ready" for me, they'll be sorely disappointed to see that this "nice girl" has not been nicely waiting for them! :D
 
Nice girl Finish Last is a true statement if you mean by nice a woman who doesn't stand up for herself, puts everybody's well being above hers and doesn't trust her own desires and wishes enough to act on them. Yeah, this nice girl will finish last allright.
 
:amen: I agree with everything you stated below.....and its true.

I went to the club with a girlfriend of mine and she was showing the cha-chas. I was cute but more modestly dressed compared to her. ALL THE GUYS were checking her out, making suggestive comments, dancing with her, buying her drinks, etc.

BUT when the guys approach me it was with RESPECT.

asuperwoman said:
I guess it would depend on how you look at it.

-in high school, nice girls get picked last to go to the prom, etc because guys know the nice girls are not giving up ____ just for the fun of it.

-at the club, nice girls get overlooked because they are usually not wearing the highest heels or showing off all the goodies

but when it's time for these same men to pick WIVES/steady girlfriends- the wise men pick the nice girls. So, who really "finished" first? The unnice girls who were initally picked first or the nice girls who were chosen later?
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Bunny77 said:
While these guys are running through "unnice" girls until they're "ready" for me, they'll be sorely disappointed to see that this "nice girl" has not been nicely waiting for them! :D
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I agree. Usually once I discover a guy use to be a dog, or slept with over a certain number of women. I'm not interested in him.
 
LHCF2009 said:
This is kinda of what I meant but makes more sense. Overall, I give off a reserved demeanor, dressed not half naked, etc. but I feel like no matter what I do, men go for the other girls. Just something I've noticed.
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I hear what you're saying OP. :yep:

You know, back in the past I used to laugh and say to myself: "What!???! Nice girls don't finish last!! Please!" But now the older I've gotten, and based on what I've been through with some guys and have seen in relation to my "nice" friends, I have come to believe that the "Nice girls" DO finish last. :(

This may just be my "woe is me" voice inside of me, but I believe that the girls who are modestly dressed, or who are genuinely NICE people DO get passed over by the guys...INITIALLY. How is it that I'm a pretty nice woman, I'm attractive, I have my head screwed on tight, I have things going for me, but yet...I'm STILL single. :nono: Yet, some other friends of mine that I know who dress more provacatively, or who have emotional issues, or who are straight up rude end up getting more guy attention...and some of them have actually ended up married!!

Even my nice girl friends, ones with great personalities who would love to be in a relationship are often overlooked and passed over by most guys. :ohwell:

One thing I will say however is that I don't think Nice girls ALWAYS finish last. :nono: I know my sister and her guy friend (now her husband! ;) ) were always just "friends". He was actually interested in another girl for the longest time! She never really gave him the time of day however. She treated him badly, they always fought, etc. She was moody, and felt like she was a little "princess". :rolleyes: Meanwhile, my sister was always nice, always accepting and supportive of her guy friend.

Later on down the line, her guy friend came to realize that sometimes the witchy "high-maintenance" girls aren't "all that". :rolleyes: I think he married my sister not only because he was in love with her, but because he saw that she was a "nice girl". She was someone who was classy, you could bring her home to "mama", and she was genuine.

So...I don't think nice girls always finish last...but sometimes they have to wait a little longer to find guys of substance. Once guys are through "playing the field", and are ready to settle down and be serious, I think they end up with more of the "nice girls". :yep:
 
I don't know but I am amazed at how many men are into crazy and neurotic women...I've even had a couple tell me they know its wrong but they really like their women with a side of crazy.....
 
ambergirl said:
I don't know but I am amazed at how many men are into crazy and neurotic women...I've even had a couple tell me they know its wrong but they really like their women with a side of crazy.....
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I have heard this too from men about unstable women. Reasons range from it being a challenge to thinking these women will be...um... crazy in bed.
 
SpeechieGirl said:
I have heard this too from men about unstable women. Reasons range from it being a challenge to thinking these women will be...um... crazy in bed.
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Yep.

This is why women should just be them and not worry about whether they're "nice" enough or "slightly crazy" enough to get a man.

Check for a man who's checking for a person like you, whether you're nice, nasty or somewhere in between.

No matter what, you will then finish first.
 
Its funny this is a post here because my girlfriends and i always have this conversation.
I am considered the nice girl in the group and i deserve more and all the stuff they tell me.

But i feel if you have a man you should treat him real good of course they laugh at me about certain things i do that they will never do and all that crap. Ladies they are sure right about everything they said because i am always the one to lose the relationship battle.

One of them told me Kerry be a ***** and see how far it gets you and it was the best advice i ever took because i dont take anybody crap anymore i nip all foolishness in the butt ASAP and if you cant give me what i want to make this relationship work then you gots to go. I figure be nice but be a ***** the same time.

Moral of this Long story is nice girls do finish last because they always get passed over for trash
 
Nice girls (and guys) definitely finish last. Not always, but most of the time. :ohwell: I don't know why people are acting brand new in here! :lol:
 
It sounds like "nice girl" is being equated to "pushover" in this thread.

If that's the case, then I agree, a "nice girl" will finish last.

A girl who stands up for herself never will.
 
gabulldawg said:
Nice girls (and guys) definitely finish last. Not always, but most of the time. :ohwell: I don't know why people are acting brand new in here! :lol:
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I guess it's because I'm a nice person, and I feel like all of my friends are nice people, and we ain't finishing last, so from my personal perspective - nothing brand new, just trying to understand where this new perspective is coming from.

*shrug*
 
Kerryann said:
Its funny this is a post here because my girlfriends and i always have this conversation.
I am considered the nice girl in the group and i deserve more and all the stuff they tell me.

But i feel if you have a man you should treat him real good of course they laugh at me about certain things i do that they will never do and all that crap. Ladies they are sure right about everything they said because i am always the one to lose the relationship battle.

One of them told me Kerry be a ***** and see how far it gets you and it was the best advice i ever took because i dont take anybody crap anymore i nip all foolishness in the butt ASAP and if you cant give me what i want to make this relationship work then you gots to go. I figure be nice but be a ***** the same time.

Moral of this Long story is nice girls do finish last because they always get passed over for trash
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I treat a man well if he treats me well first.

A man doesn't automatically get treated well by me just because he's a man.
 
I'm sure everyone has a differing definition of nice, and that will be where some of the discrepancies are....
 
LHCF2009 said:
This is kinda of what I meant but makes more sense. Overall, I give off a reserved demeanor, dressed not half naked, etc. but I feel like no matter what I do, men go for the other girls. Just something I've noticed.
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Then I guess the question is, do you WANT the kind of men that go for all style and no substance?

Stop being on some "no matter what I do" stuff and be on some "you" stuff. The man that will be attracted to you FOR YOU is the one you want.

Oh, and just because you stand up for yourself and don't take any bs from a guy doesn't make you a b. And having decorum and being demure doesn't make you "nice" either.
 
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