mellipoo143
New Member
Hello all,
If you don't want to read my life story, skip the last 2 paragraphs; I really need your help!
Let me introduce myself, as this is my first ever post on LHCF!! My name is Melanie, I'm 20 y.o. and I've been natural for 2.5 years. In this amount of time, given how fast my hair grows, I should have at least 12 inches of hair on my head (after trims). However, I can never seem to get past my current length of 6 inches.
A little background on my hair journey. In my early teen years, my mom gave me a couple no-lye kiddie relaxers and my hair started breaking off severely. My grandmother started taking me to get it done professionally (Affirm Lye relaxer, strength unknown) and over the years, my hair grew beyond SL! I never had a problem with breakage and my hair was very full (although my hairdresser always relaxed both the old AND new growth!) I was the envy of all my friends
Then, around my 17th birthday, I decided to bleach my hair at home, except I never rinsed out the bleach after initial application. About two weeks later, I went to the salon to have my hair touched up. Biggest mistake of my life!!! As I took down my rollers, I saw my hair had broken off at the root in chunks all over my head! Fortunately, I have a generous head of hair so it wasn't super obvious, but it looked terrible to me! I decided from that point on that I would go natural, and return to a relaxer when my hair had grown out to its original length.
With time, I fell in love with my natural hair and vowed never to relax again. I love my thick and healthy 4a curls but, in over 2 years, my hair has never returned to its former length. I recognize my mistake: in the past I have trusted friends and professionals alike to style my hair, and each time I experienced a major setback that requires me to cut off 1-3 inches of hair to correct the damage. I have since vowed NEVER to let anyone touch my hair again; if my hair is going to be damaged, I would rather it be by my own hand.
Anywho, I have decided to texlax now (80-85% straight). I've been frustrated with the state of my natural hair for a while now and I tried to fight the feeling, but I know that relaxed hair will suit my face and lifestyle better. By this time next week, my hair will be texlaxed, but I can't decide which relaxer I should use!! I want to go back to the Affirm Lye collection, but I'm not sure whether to use the Original formula in Mild strength or the Fiberguard formula in Normal. I've already looked through all the threads/posts about these two relaxers, but I haven't been able to come to a consensus. Any advice, recommendations?
Also, should I self-relax or go to a professional? I've already identified the salon and stylist I would use (great reviews), but then I'd be breaking my vow (see above). Also, I plan on relaxing every 3-4 months and it's almost $100/visit - expensive for a college budget! If I did it myself, one $100 kit from offline would last me the whole year. BUT, it's a virgin relaxer and it'd be a darn shame if I under- or overprocessed all that hair on my first try. I really could use some good, sound advice right about now! Thanks!
If you don't want to read my life story, skip the last 2 paragraphs; I really need your help!
Let me introduce myself, as this is my first ever post on LHCF!! My name is Melanie, I'm 20 y.o. and I've been natural for 2.5 years. In this amount of time, given how fast my hair grows, I should have at least 12 inches of hair on my head (after trims). However, I can never seem to get past my current length of 6 inches.
A little background on my hair journey. In my early teen years, my mom gave me a couple no-lye kiddie relaxers and my hair started breaking off severely. My grandmother started taking me to get it done professionally (Affirm Lye relaxer, strength unknown) and over the years, my hair grew beyond SL! I never had a problem with breakage and my hair was very full (although my hairdresser always relaxed both the old AND new growth!) I was the envy of all my friends
Then, around my 17th birthday, I decided to bleach my hair at home, except I never rinsed out the bleach after initial application. About two weeks later, I went to the salon to have my hair touched up. Biggest mistake of my life!!! As I took down my rollers, I saw my hair had broken off at the root in chunks all over my head! Fortunately, I have a generous head of hair so it wasn't super obvious, but it looked terrible to me! I decided from that point on that I would go natural, and return to a relaxer when my hair had grown out to its original length.
With time, I fell in love with my natural hair and vowed never to relax again. I love my thick and healthy 4a curls but, in over 2 years, my hair has never returned to its former length. I recognize my mistake: in the past I have trusted friends and professionals alike to style my hair, and each time I experienced a major setback that requires me to cut off 1-3 inches of hair to correct the damage. I have since vowed NEVER to let anyone touch my hair again; if my hair is going to be damaged, I would rather it be by my own hand.
Anywho, I have decided to texlax now (80-85% straight). I've been frustrated with the state of my natural hair for a while now and I tried to fight the feeling, but I know that relaxed hair will suit my face and lifestyle better. By this time next week, my hair will be texlaxed, but I can't decide which relaxer I should use!! I want to go back to the Affirm Lye collection, but I'm not sure whether to use the Original formula in Mild strength or the Fiberguard formula in Normal. I've already looked through all the threads/posts about these two relaxers, but I haven't been able to come to a consensus. Any advice, recommendations?
Also, should I self-relax or go to a professional? I've already identified the salon and stylist I would use (great reviews), but then I'd be breaking my vow (see above). Also, I plan on relaxing every 3-4 months and it's almost $100/visit - expensive for a college budget! If I did it myself, one $100 kit from offline would last me the whole year. BUT, it's a virgin relaxer and it'd be a darn shame if I under- or overprocessed all that hair on my first try. I really could use some good, sound advice right about now! Thanks!