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I stuck with twist after my bc and they stuck up but
I did them small and folk thought they were cute.
Maybe invest in wigs or get some extensions until
you gain a length you like
 
Hey Girl, when I was at TWA stage with my peanut head and my big features. I wore a wig for about 6 months. Then when I had enough hair to grip for braiding, I wore braid extensions for about 1.5 years consistently until my hair grew to where it is stuck now between SL and APL. many women don't enjoy the twa stage, but you don't have to be depressed. there are many ways to hide your hair and fake it til you make it while growing out twa.
 
I wouldn't call it depressed but I did have a moment. I looked in the mirror and thought I looked ugly. I threw a little tantrum and then hid my hair until it got to a length I could play around with. I can't speak for every one but I do know that it happens to quite a few people.
 
you only have 3 inches of hair and its getting warm, why not co wash and wash and go daily or every other day. not only is that how i gained most of my length but IMO it looked better than twists on that short amount of hair.
 
I have a TWA right now (look at siggy), and I absolutely LOVE it....everybody else loves it on me too. Although my hair was almost MBL when I cut it, I don't miss it. I needed a change. I was just READY when I BC'ed (after 3 month transition). I think you NEED to be ready, or you'll be shocked and depressed.

As others have stated, maybe you should get a wig and wear that for a while until your hair gets to the length that you desire.
 
I wore lots of scarves and headbands at first. There will be a few more awkward phases as you grow your hair out so don't let it get you depressed, just remember what you're aiming for and it will be worth it
 
Nayna said:
I wouldn't call it depressed but I did have a moment. I looked in the mirror and thought I looked ugly. I threw a little tantrum and then hid my hair until it got to a length I could play around with. I can't speak for every one but I do know that it happens to quite a few people.
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Yeah, this happened to me the first time I bc'd. I eventually relaxed... and then I bc'd again, and then I relaxed again. :look:

Op, if you want it, stick with it. I hear it only gets better. :yep:
 
I've had the same problem. That's why I decided to just wash n go until summer is over.:ohwell: I figure it will be a medium fro by then.:lol:
 
Congrats on going natural girl! I transitioned for a little of 9ms when I choped and the length shock was huge. So much so that I threw in some kinky twists. But after I took them out my hair was still shorter than I would have liked it to be.

The one thing that helped me out a lot was learning how to do a puff. Not sure if you can (There were no pics provided) but some extentions, wigs and braids are all options if you're not into rocking the 2 strands, twist outs and a puff with a cute head band.
 
get a big bow like taren did! i was about *this* close to pickin up some shears! she rocked the hell outta that bow!
 
There are lots of ways to get through this:

-wear head bands. that will keep the front of your hair down and push it back a bit, while the rest of your hair is wild and curly.

-Also wearing clips in front works too, to tame the front area.

-If any of my twists were ever to big (no such thing, i love big hair) i would bobby pin those areas closer to my scalp to make the top of my head "smaller'

-flat twist the front of your hair or corn row the front of your hair, and let the rest of your hair be free...

- use a heavier leave in product to weigh more of your hair down, so it hangs more... a thicker leave in cream than you're used to...

-try a half wig with more length, which will hang more, (you can blend the front of your natural hair into the half wig)


style your hair at night, and wear a headscarf to bed, close to your scalp, squishing all the twists flat.

in the morning, you steam, fluff and untwist your hair to get the style you like again,
this is the same thing i'd do for Second Day Hair...

YOUTUBE!
lots more styling options there!
 
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Everything isnt for everybody..Just because your hair is "natural" doesnt mean everything will look good..just like when ur relaxed every style doesnt look good. Do you have any friends that know how to install extensions?.. If so put in some extensions or weave until your comfy with your length
 
I think a good bit of us go through this; I certainly did.
I never felt ugly exactly, but I'm tall/thinnish and felt like I looked like a q-tip.

I decided to wear full sew-in weaves for most of my 2 years natural. When I reach full APL (or more APL than not), I'll wear it out more. I tend to take breaks in the summer and wash a lot. I do wear my hair out sometimes and I still take care of my hair even with the sew-in. This has helped me to retain length and I still feel good.

It's funny b/c... even though I felt sad about my hair before, it was really about length. Going natural stretched me in a particular way; it's been a positive, emotional experience.

It's like... You feel ugly and then you realize you're not. :)
 
I felt a little awkward as I wasn't use to my hair being so short. I started wearing weaves and have been doing so since my BC. I am making great progress by doing this, but when i take my hair down I don't know what to do since I am not use to doing my natural hair.
 
EtherealEnigma said:
I think a good bit of us go through this; I certainly did.
I never felt ugly exactly, but I'm tall/thinnish and felt like I looked like a q-tip.

I decided to wear full sew-in weaves for most of my 2 years natural. When I reach full APL (or more APL than not), I'll wear it out more. I tend to take breaks in the summer and wash a lot. I do wear my hair out sometimes and I still take care of my hair even with the sew-in. This has helped me to retain length and I still feel good.

It's funny b/c... even though I felt sad about my hair before, it was really about length. Going natural stretched me in a particular way; it's been a positive, emotional experience.

It's like... You feel ugly and then you realize you're not. :)
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Yes Girl, this is exactly how I feel. Can't wait to have a lovely head of hair like urs:yep:
 
I had a stage where I felt like this. I wore comb coils which you can see in my siggy. I had two wigs which I switched between. Then I had corn row extensions for a while. Then I wore box braids. I alternated all those styles. Then I wore kinky twists and fell in love with those. After about 9 months twists on my own hair were looking better.

I have seen some of the ladies on the board with some beautiful twists with their TWAs.

That feeling passes and you will find a style that fits you.
 
When I was at that length, I was able to wear a few different styles. It wasn't the length I wanted, but I werked what I had baby! Even though I aspire to grow my hair as long as I can, I've honestly never felt more beautiful than when my hair was this short!

I wore various headbands.
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Experimented with finger waves.
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Two strand flat twists in the front.
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With finger coils in the back.
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Slicked down edges.
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Slicked down completely! :lol:
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Back shot.
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Fluffed out mini-puff with another headband!
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With really short hair, it might seem that you have no styling options, but just a little variation can create a different look! :yep: Two strand twists aren't the end all be all. Use this time to experiment with your hair and see what you can create! :D
 
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you probably need to make them smaller. i just wore my coolio esque twists until they grew past the ugly stage.
 
I hate super short hair on me ( didn't stop me from BCing 3 times though). The shortness makes me feel unfeminine, and i got all paranoid and wore a lot of makeup and lots of big ol' dangly earrings and dresses to try to make myself feel more girly.

What I did during the in between stage is really just lots of headbands and hair clips. It helped me feel more pretty. It was never really a texture issue for me ( ETA Clarify: never a being natural issue), but just what kind of length I am used to. I found I felt much much much much MUCH better once I hit chin length (stretched), and from zero ( i had a centimeter of hair) it takes less than a year to get there. By five months I could make a slightly retarded but good enough looking puff ( but the trick is to use an elastic headband and not actually make a pony tail just push it back till it rests on your head kind of like a halo, just enough to make a puff piled up on your head.

here are a few pics from my most recent BC first picture is around 4 months post chop, next two are 5 months, last is 6 months. Sorry for the size.

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