Maybe try hair sticks, or a fancy bun. But there are many other ways to reach your goals than just bunning all the time.. Hair should be enjoyed, it shouldn't be a cause for depression.
ITA! I have decided that if styles make me feel sad, I should not be wearing them. My happiness is not based on something as frivolous as hair. Sure we want to reach goals, but there should be other cute ways of achieving this. I have now started to wear buns since my hair has grown out. What I have noticed is that I love to wear my buns positioned up instead of near the back. Sometimes minor changes make a whole lot of difference.