so i got ripped a NEW one after a work meeting today. my boss tells me she wants to put me up for a promotion but tells that my hair is "unprofessional" and that it "doesn't make me look my best with my hair slicked back" and that she needs me looking a certain way and "feeling confident" before she "moves forward with the (promotion) process." she went onto tell me how beautiful my hair looked when i wore it down at a company MLB event and "why don't i wear it like that all the time??" we have a corporate dinner tomorrow night and they (parents + boss) are mad that i'm not going to "press my hair" instead choosing to wear a bun.
so, i run home to mommy and daddy and what happened? my parents co-signed: "that crunchy bun doesn't flatter your face..." "your roots stick up" "...you used to wear your hair down more often do that." blah, blah, blah...
another co-worker: "....well, it looks okay to me, but..."
right now i'm SO FRUSTRATED i could cry. am i making too much of all of this? am i not seeing something? i know i look better with my hair down and straightened but i'm not sure how to keep my hair healthy, keep my body healthy and keep myself and my hair looking its best at the same time! right now i'm just mad.
Just out of your curiosity is your boss black?
In all honesty, buns are the most conservative and professional style there is. Since when are you forced to wear your hair straight if you're not working in a "lookism" type industry?
I would take the advice of the posters that say to invest in a half wig or something. Then I would consult with an attorney on if what they've said to you is even legal.
I know your feelings are probably hurt op but your boss is propably right, especially if your parents agree.
We're all judged by our looks. There's nothing new about that. I don't think buns everyday is professional, I think it's lazy. As a matter of fact, you should be looking your best to meet with clients. I think it's unprofessional to meet with clients with your hair like that, especially if you have edges sticking out everywhere.
I know you can think of something more creative than buns op. Good luck girly.
wow. These reasons are exactly why I shifted my career away from business. I could tell while I was studying and when I did a few internships that as a black woman, I would have to put up with so much bs and compromise way too much. I understand that it's the "way it is", but "the way it is", is wrong, eurocentric and highly discriminatory. I just couldn't see myself going through all that, especially with natural hair. What a hassle. As long as I am clean and my hair is combed, and I am good employee, no one should fix their mouth to tell me that I HAVE TO rearrange everything for my hair. YIKES!I've been wearing half wigs, the only reason my hair is out today is because we have a meeting and my hair is long than the stupid half wig...I was told stop with the braids and buns. I'm just playing the game until I move on smh
I know your feelings are probably hurt op but your boss is propably right, especially if your parents agree.
We're all judged by our looks. There's nothing new about that. I don't think buns everyday is professional, I think it's lazy. As a matter of fact, you should be looking your best to meet with clients. I think it's unprofessional to meet with clients with your hair like that, especially if you have edges sticking out everywhere.
I know you can think of something more creative than buns op. Good luck girly.
I must say I'm very intrigued by all this especially as I will be interviewing shortly myself. I tend to protective style so ponies, buns, wigs are what I often sport.
I don't think the OP should compromise her career/livelihood for hair it's just not that serious imo. Surely there's got to be a happy medium.
It would be helpful if folks could post pics of the hairstyles that they consider professional, particularly protective ones.