MY BF broke up with me and i need support!

I am sorry that happened you to :giveheart:. I am sorry to say this, but from the sound of it he seems to be a guy that really didn't care about you. The first indication was the fact that you said he was trying to change you. He should appreciate you for who you are, not for what he is trying to make you into.

I personally don't like when people take pictures of me but I always ask for them to delete it afterwards, or notify them in advance. For him to be upset over that was unnecessary and over dramatic. Based on the fact that he hide in the bathroom (:perplexed) while you were in the house, on top of his actions at his friend's house, shows that he is very immature and is no where close to being a man. He did you a big favor.

Do not beat yourself up, you did nothing wrong :huggle:.
 
Sorry to hear that. It sound like you want an explanation. That's understandable. At least you have the option of moving back home.
 
He broke up with you for taking a picture? :huh: He is not stable, and he just did you a favor. This has nothing to do with you sweetie. You can now go on and find a good man
 
I don't even know where to start with this one. Did his friend have a warrant out or something? That's the only way I could see it being that serious. Since you said he's in law enforcement, I'd assume his friends aren't criminals, so, yeah, I'll cosign that :huh:.

Also, how long were y'all together before you decided to move?

eta: I feel like there's a lot missing from this story.
 
Sorry but he doesn't sound like a man worth keeping. I know it will be hard but you have to find a way to move on.
 
sweetvi said:
I have not called him nore has he but I'm supposed to go by his place to pick up my jack. I'm so nervous.... I don't want to cry or beg him when I see him.
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Umm, you don't need to pick up your jack. Let it go or tell him to mail it to you. If not, in the grand scheme of things it really isn't that important.
 
^^^ Right? a phone jack, a car jack, jack in a box?

OP you are sooooo better off whatever the jack is move on and buy a new one...
 
I can understand how you feel. He doesnt sound like he's wrapped too tight but when your heart is in something, you see what you want to see, not what really is. I think he's doing you a favor. Open your eyes and ears to what is happening now...the red flags are only flowing back and forth trying to get your attention, dont let them yoke you up and choke you later...

Interpret it this way:

I am too insecure with myself to love you or anybody the right way. I cant make decisions when it comes to my love life because I care waaaay too much about what others think. You must get away from me now because I will only hurt you worse later on. I'm giving you an out...TAKE IT!
 
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Umm, OP, he's a douche. A freaking picture? C'mon son.

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Keep your head up, OP.
 
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You are obviously very upset and with good reason. He sounds very irrational. Maybe he wants out of the relationship and went about it poorly. Anyway you don't need this. This type of thing is probably going to happen again and again. Do you really want to deal with this drama time and time again? I think he did you a favor.
 
Well, I saw a few red flags with this post. He picked on your appearance, started fights for little things, hid in the bathroom after breaking up with you? He definitely does NOT sound like a winner. Ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who doesn't appreciate you for who you are. Do you want a man who is overly obsessed with the opinions of others? Also, if you're aware that he's let go of good women with little to no reason, what does that say about him? Trust me, if you were to marry him, you would be miserable.

Not to be offensive, but I hear law enforcement types have the highest incidences of domestic violence. Just wanted to point that out.
 
ThatJerseyGirl said:
Before I even pull out my newports, what da hell is a jack?
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arosieworld said:
^^^ Right? a phone jack, a car jack, jack in a box?

OP you are sooooo better off whatever the jack is move on and buy a new one...
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Honey Bee said:
:lachen: A (cell) phone, I believe. I really had to rack my brain for that one though, cuz I haven't heard it in ages.
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I assumed it was a jacket, but I just copied what she wrote. At any rate, I don't think it is something that needs to be retrived and if he doesn't mail it, she can charge it to the game and be out. Not saying that this is a violent relationship, but a lot of women go back to get "some mundane possession" and end up dead. A Jack, whatever it is can be replaced I am sure about that.
 
I'm really sorry that this happened. I have to say, though, that his behavior is odd at best. My impression, like the others, is that he couldn't have been that great for you. You also said that he has a history of breaking up with great women for dumb reasons because of his own issues. That right there might be your answer. I know you invested a good amount of time, so I'm sure it will take a minute to be able to move on; but I hope you know that from what it sounds, you probably are better off.
 
sweetvi said:
Yeah. Because this is not the first time he tried to break up with me .... This time he went through with it and even deleted me from his facebook..... To show he is serious....

You guys are really lifting my spirits... Lol. It is a car jack for my tires....
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Well, if he's done this mess before, why are you still with him? How much more are you going to put up with? What is up with you?
 
sorry, girl. forget that loser and on to the next one.

also, I hear a lot of bad stories about guys in law enforcement. they are almost always crazy in some way.
 
I agree with the others who are saying that something is off with that fellow. If he's acting this way over taking a photo, what's next when he's mad at something even more serious? You are better off, OP.
 
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He seems really really REALLY image conscious. Tooo concerned about what people think about him. That had to have been exhausting :nono:

You don't even need someone like that
 
In my experience, guys usually start with that, "YOU LEFT THE CAP OFF OF THE TOOTHPASTE AGAIN?!?!?!" erratic behavior when they have found someone else and see nothing but fault with you and pick apart each and every thing you do. Move on, leave the jack. You may decide to beat his as s with it if you return.
 
sweetvi said:
It is a car jack for my tires....
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:lachen::lachen: You know, I did think it was weird for you to use that term cuz 'jack'= phone is mostly a regional usage iirc.

ART11 said:
In my experience, guys usually start with that, "YOU LEFT THE CAP OFF OF THE TOOTHPASTE AGAIN?!?!?!" erratic behavior when they have found someone else and see nothing but fault with you and pick apart each and every thing you do. Move on, leave the jack. You may decide to beat his as s with it if you return.
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Hun, trust me, he did you a huge favor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You deserve to be with a man who accepts you the way you are. Theres no way that he should have told you that you don't know how to act in public over a simple picture. Is he serious..and he didn't know what to tell his friend when he asked what was up with the pic...he should have stuck up for you and told his friend that his woman likes to take pictures and that he needed to chill out because it wasn't that serious. It sounds like he is the type who will make you feel bad about yourself, and trust me, we can't have that for you. I would leave him where the good Lord split him, and forget about my car jack and get a new one. If he call, i wouldn't even answer the phone. You can do bad all my yourself, or with a new man who will appreciate you for who you are, and who will not make you feel bad about yourself!
 
he sounds like a d-bag. you shouldn't waste a tear on that loser. sorry this happened to you though. but you are so much better off.
 
The other ladies have already said it but this guy sounds like a major d****bag and he did you a huge favor. I would've ended it when he started making comments about how your stomach needing to be flatter and telling you what to wear. You're much better off and deserve someone who won't pull this kind of immature ish.
 
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