Muslim Women, Please Educate Me On Your Hair...

[Sianna]

Thanks for this thread and thanks to the ladies that responded. I've been wondering about this too but I had no one I could ask. It has been very insightful and enlightening reading all of your responses!

 

[kaytee89]

Thanks, ladies for answering. I've always wondered about this, but never had anyone to ask. Are there no Nation of Islam ladies on here? I would love to hear from you too.

 

[jshor09]

I find this very interesting.

 

[jwhitley6]

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I truly appreciate your input ladies. I'm so happy to learn about your hijab and niqab, etc....new to me. I also love the encouraging tone of this thread. No one is being judgmental or proclaiming how a sista should cover but are showing love and respect...breath of fresh air!

I'm curious to hear from Nation of Islam ladies if there are any here. I don't know if the differences in teachings lead to different covering practices.

I'd like to add, I'm really impressed with your humility. I would personally find it difficult to cover often and I know it's due to vanity on my part...this actually gives me something to think/pray about. I'm Christian by the way.

 

[Eritreladiee]

Honestly, I think hijab is the best protective style out. I wore hijab for a good portion of last year and basically what I did was cornrow the top half of my hair back and then bun. I'd cowash every day and take out the cornrows for a shampoo twice a week. A good 6 months of that and my hair was in awesome shape.

 

[vainღ♥♡jane]

this is the coolest thread! ♥

 

[curlicarib]

Hey ladies. About 1/3 of my family is Muslim and those ladies are some of the most beautiful (inside & out), humble, admirable and inspiring women I know. There is something about Islam that instills a serenity in women that I've never observed elsewhere. Anyway, I wanted to let you ladies know that I really admire your belief system and how you stick with your traditions - especially at this time.

 

[arosieworld]

This is a great thread! Thank you all for answering

Just a random point I wanted to make: There are some Muslim sistahs I see on campus with some gorgeous Hijab's!!! They got their patterns and textures down to a science! I love it! And I love this thread, I'm always down for the different cultures in the diaspora getting to know each other better!

You don't happen to go to a rather super large school in Columbus, do you?

OT: GO BUCKEYES!!!!! O-H...........I-O

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Okay I'll ask. Do you get hot in this hijab (sweaty hair?), or is it made specifically to be light weight. I've always wondered this because the summers can be sweltering for anyone. Wondered if that causes any problems with the hair during these months (sweaty hair, breakage, dryness, etc from wet hair rubbing against your scarf/hijab...am I saying that right? THe scarf wrapped around the hair is considered the hijab?) Forgive my ignorance and thanks in advance. I love to learn about everything and everyone. Thank you for sharing.

 

[jwhitley6]

Oh, another thing...are you relaxed or natural, and do you go to salons or mainly care for your hair at home? Do they have special salons for Muslim women only where you live? Sound like a good business idea if they don't.

 

[arosieworld]

If I may add a few questions....What age do things change? I haven't seen babies or very young girls in hijab's, is that just because of of their age or have I just not seen them? Also at what age does a women wear mostly black? Are you allowed to cut your hair short, are any ladies rocking a short Hallie do underneath?
Thank you, I love that I can ask these questions an not offend others with my lack of knowledge.

 

[hannan]

Oh, another thing...are you relaxed or natural, and do you go to salons or mainly care for your hair at home? Do they have special salons for Muslim women only where you live? Sound like a good business idea if they don't.

I'm natural and you can usually ask a salon if they can take you to a back room. I'm sure they have salons like that where I live but I just ask my mom to trim my hair.

If I may add a few questions....What age do things change? I haven't seen babies or very young girls in hijab's, is that just because of of their age or have I just not seen them? Also at what age does a women wear mostly black? Are you allowed to cut your hair short, are any ladies rocking a short Hallie do underneath?
Thank you, I love that I can ask these questions an not offend others with my lack of knowledge.

Some girls choose not to wear it, some do. The ones that do are encouraged to wear it during/after puberty. Some women put their children in it early to get them used to wearing it.

Women wear black, I think, just to be on the safe side in terms of modesty. Like HijabiFlyGirl said, hijab is meant to detract attention and not many people will be noticing black in comparison to green or pink.

Hair's allowed to be cut. Shaving the head is not.

 

[hannan]

d-e-l-e-t-e-d.

 

[Striving4perfection86]

Oh, another thing...are you relaxed or natural, and do you go to salons or mainly care for your hair at home? Do they have special salons for Muslim women only where you live? Sound like a good business idea if they don't.

I'm transitioning.....i've never been a person to let people i my hair even before i became muslim, i'd get a press and that was about it...but now i'm older i can do that for myself. They do have muslim hair salons near me but i've always preferred to do my own hair with a couple exceptions...like when i was heavily pregnant.
Also about the nation of islam.... they really kinda leave a sour taste in my mouth, the ones i've seen and heard about seem to be V pro black with the ' we are the chosen ones every1 else are evil' kinda mentality, believin they r superior to other races. please any1 correct me if i'm wrong. As black as i am i know that isn't what islam is about, islam teaches equality and justice among people of different races and cultures.

 

[Nix08]

Great thread - you learn something new every day

 

[Minty]

Okay I'll ask. Do you get hot in this hijab (sweaty hair?), or is it made specifically to be light weight. I've always wondered this because the summers can be sweltering for anyone. Wondered if that causes any problems with the hair during these months (sweaty hair, breakage, dryness, etc from wet hair rubbing against your scarf/hijab...am I saying that right? THe scarf wrapped around the hair is considered the hijab?) Forgive my ignorance and thanks in advance. I love to learn about everything and everyone. Thank you for sharing.

hey luckiest..yes wearing hijab in the summer can be a test. I think it is more a test of one's patience than anything else. The vast majority of ladies have summer wear. My scarves in the summer are very fine silk, rayon or smooth polyester. They tend to be super thin and some a bit transparent so I wear a small square thin silk scarf underneath and then wrap the larger scarf around my head.

Its a learning curve definitely, for instance, I know I can't wear any type of cotton or thicker type of poly, or even tightly woven silk as I will suffocate.

I don't get sweaty hair and I'm so grateful for that.

If it's going to be a monster day outside I will cw and wetbun for that day and then take the band out sometime later that day to let the bun dry.

I usually wear a small scarf underneath my hijab (you got it right in your question) to protect my edges and hair line in summer and winter). I don't really suffer dry hair, but I'm always worried about getting product stains on my scarves.

 

[Minty]

Oh, another thing...are you relaxed or natural, and do you go to salons or mainly care for your hair at home? Do they have special salons for Muslim women only where you live? Sound like a good business idea if they don't.

I've been both, but I like my hair relaxed - makes for a smooth hijab laydown . I used to go the salon all the time but it is such a chore. The salons were not solely for muslim women, just the stylist would be hijabi friendly - but eventually a man would always come in that piece and stay. I mean I think it is odd for a man to sit in the salon waiting for his lady friend . Or a man would come in and the stylist would say "oh he's okay, he's gay, or he's my brother/uncle/father" nono: (are you for real?)

Or I would sit in her chair with the drape over my head looking crazy waiting for the dude to leave (SMH) thinking to myself

Non muslim women don't get why it's a big deal - I say its like taking your bra off in public.

I am a hairstylist now...

 

[Minty]

If I may add a few questions....

What age do things change?
Women will encourage young girls to wear it, but it becomes incumbent at the age of 'awareness' - or puberty. Generally this is between 10 -14 Some get started by wearing it a few days out of the week, or when going to the masjid/mosque.

Also at what age does a women wear mostly black?
Wearing black is not an indicator of age, but more an indicator of
a. - cultural norms and customs
b. - desire for greater modesty, or their personal style
c. - following their interpretation of specific Islamic texts

Are you allowed to cut your hair short, are any ladies rocking a short Hallie do underneath?
Yes we are allow to cut our hair short, but not bald.

Thank you, I love that I can ask these questions an not offend others with my lack of knowledge.

Thank you for asking.

 

[jwhitley6]

I've been both, but I like my hair relaxed - makes for a smooth hijab laydown . I used to go the salon all the time but it is such a chore. The salons were not solely for muslim women, just the stylist would be hijabi friendly - but eventually a man would always come in that piece and stay. I mean I think it is odd for a man to sit in the salon waiting for his lady friend . Or a man would come in and the stylist would say "oh he's okay, he's gay, or he's my brother/uncle/father" nono: (are you for real?)

Or I would sit in her chair with the drape over my head looking crazy waiting for the dude to leave (SMH) thinking to myself

Non muslim women don't get why it's a big deal - I say its like taking your bra off in public.
Ok...that's an interesting perspective! I've always thought of it as something you do out of obligation rather that something you'd feel "naked" without. I'm really learning something today.

I am a hairstylist now...

Also, you mentioned not wanting product stains on your scarves...I can't image how many of the ladies here could do it successfully with all the juices and berries we put in our hair. I use minimal juice and I still mess up scarves and pillowcases.

 

[*Belle*Femme*]

I have been a lurker on this website for years and finally registered today and this is the first forum that I am posting in.
Well I am muslim and do not wear a hijab. I will get there one day through the grace of Allah, but my mom wears a hijab.

I know when I go and pray on Fridays, I wear the hijab and the niqab and for the most part im ok in the summer. Currently my hair is in a weave, using a weave as my transitioning method and its working great for me.

 

[Nix08]

I've been both, but I like my hair relaxed - makes for a smooth hijab laydown . I used to go the salon all the time but it is such a chore. The salons were not solely for muslim women, just the stylist would be hijabi friendly - but eventually a man would always come in that piece and stay. I mean I think it is odd for a man to sit in the salon waiting for his lady friend . Or a man would come in and the stylist would say "oh he's okay, he's gay, or he's my brother/uncle/father" nono: (are you for real?)

Or I would sit in her chair with the drape over my head looking crazy waiting for the dude to leave (SMH) thinking to myself

Non muslim women don't get why it's a big deal - I say its like taking your bra off in public.

I am a hairstylist now...

NO WONDER YOU ALWAYS HAVE EXCELLENT ADVICE

 

[*Belle*Femme*]

I'm transitioning.....i've never been a person to let people i my hair even before i became muslim, i'd get a press and that was about it...but now i'm older i can do that for myself. They do have muslim hair salons near me but i've always preferred to do my own hair with a couple exceptions...like when i was heavily pregnant.
Also about the nation of islam.... they really kinda leave a sour taste in my mouth, the ones i've seen and heard about seem to be V pro black with the ' we are the chosen ones every1 else are evil' kinda mentality, believin they r superior to other races. please any1 correct me if i'm wrong. As black as i am i know that isn't what islam is about, islam teaches equality and justice among people of different races and cultures.

Yes I agree with the bolded. I am a sunni muslim and I dont knock nation of islam as i am pro black as well. But they tend to mix islam with politics and pro-blackism (i made this word up). Islam in its purist form is about peace and tolerance for everyone. Jews included lol. I admire that the nation of islam wants for black people to rise and be successful in this land that is oppressive to blacks and muslims, but I think that can be taught in a different way that is seperate from the religion. Just my two cents

 

[Minty]

great observation jwhitley. Hijab is an obligation, one that most Muslim women believe are obligated before God to wear as He advised us and all women before us from among the Christians and Jews before them to "cover their adornment." And it is from this knowledge that I feel naked if I do not have it on, naked before God who sees me - not my physical form but the heart that my physical body encompasses.

My hijab is my protection. I was not born Muslim and so I had a very full life before Islam - I know the difference in my actions before contrasted to after and I owe a great deal to the hijab, the physical piece of material as well as the behavioral modification that automatically develops as a result. The two go hand in hand.

I also shy away from wearing see through clothing, jeggings, or tight clothes.

 

[ChristmasCarol]

Thanks to all the ladies who are answering questions many of us have always wondered about.

 

[hannan]

great observation jwhitley. Hijab is an obligation, one that most Muslim women believe are obligated before God to wear as He advised us and all women before us from among the Christians and Jews before them to "cover their adornment." And it is from this knowledge that I feel naked if I do not have it on, naked before God who sees me - not my physical form but the heart that my physical body encompasses.

My hijab is my protection. I was not born Muslim and so I had a very full life before Islam - I know the difference in my actions before contrasted to after and I owe a great deal to the hijab, the physical piece of material as well as the behavioral modification that automatically develops as a result. The two go hand in hand.

I also shy away from wearing see through clothing, jeggings, or tight clothes.

MashaAllah, I'm so glad hijab brought that change in you. If there's anything non-Muslims need to know about hijab, it's that it's not only about the outerwear.

Even men have to hijab but that's a whole other conversation

 

[brg240]

Non muslim women don't get why it's a big deal - I say its like taking your bra off in public.

I am a hairstylist now...

I remember hearing another woman saying that about her head covering.
Do you work at a salon aimed at Muslim women, a regular salon, or do hair at your or people's houses?

great observation jwhitley. Hijab is an obligation, one that most Muslim women believe are obligated before God to wear as He advised us and all women before us from among the Christians and Jews before them to "cover their adornment." And it is from this knowledge that I feel naked if I do not have it on, naked before God who sees me - not my physical form but the heart that my physical body encompasses.

I always wonder about that. I know I should dress modestly as a Christian but I wonder if I should wear a head covering as well. I do know some Christian women do it. I'd have to pray and research before I did that though.

this is a really interesting thread

 

[Iamhim]

Salaam Alaikum ladies...does anyone know if there is an off-topic thread for Muslimahs? I'm not sure if the search feature is working, but I couldn't find one. I know these is a forum for our Christian LHCFers, it would be nice to have one for the Muslimahs as well.

 

[Minty]

Salaam Alaikum ladies...does anyone know if there is an off-topic thread for Muslimahs? I'm not sure if the search feature is working, but I couldn't find one. I know these is a forum for our Christian LHCFers, it would be nice to have one for the Muslimahs as well.

you could create one in the off topic thread.

 

[Naturae]

I am not Muslim I am Christian but I enjoyed reading this thread!

I am sooo sorry OP to hijack this thread But i have a Question to Muslimahs who cover:
Where online do you guys purchase your hijab and jilbab? I am a very modest dresser by nature and because I believe that as Christians we need to not wear things that would be disrespectful or cause another man to fall into sin. My body should only be revealed to my husband, and for 8 years I have been struggling with trying to find the ONE store that sells modest clothing. For my wedding dress for instance, it was a gorgeous sleaveless gown but because if my modesty I wanted to cover up, so i purchased a pure white leotard with long sleeves to wear under it. It was beautiful and looked like part of the dress but it took me 6 months to come up with that idea. As we all know, most places, especially here in the U.S. market "if you got it flaunt it" and "sexy sells" type of clothing. I never show cleavage, tops with the back out, sphagetti straps, tank tops, short shorts, mini skirts, etc. But it's hard finding clothes that meet my strict level of dress. I never compromise, so i end up wearing turtlenecks in summer some times... LOL!!
Can any of you ladies help?

 

[Minty]

I dont buy hijabs online. Its the only thing I won't purchase online. I need to see, touch and examine the material. The nuance of the color shading is important to me as well, as not every black is 'black.' I do buy clothes online.

I could help you find appropriate clothing online - pm me. Try shukronline