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[AmilLion]

What should I do?

I met this guy, cot dam he's fine as hell too

Anyway, I met him probably on a Thursday evening, and you he called me back about a week and some change later. He left me a voice message on my cell, but I wasn't sure who it was, so I called back. We talked for a minute and then he was like, it's up to you now to show interest, I showed interest. I'm thinking WTF. U wait like a week to call me, then you hit me with something like that. I don't care how fine you are, you just played yourself. So anyway, last night he calls me and he's like whats up, when am i going to see you. I told him, that i would call him back later today.

What do you think? Do you think I overrated?

 

[KinksnCurlz]

Personally, I think you might have overreacted just a tad. I don't think it would be wrong for you to return his call. You guys can probably hook up later and you might even find that he's an okay guy. Don't play relationship games (ie. he called me too late, so im not gonna call him back until next week, yadda yadda yadda). Just call the brother and see what he's about. You might actually this is personality is 'cot damn fine as hell too'

 

[ComfortablyNumb]

I don't think you overreacted. He played himself, you should tell him he played himself and move from their, meaning go ahead and go out with him if you want to.

 

[AmilLion]

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Personally, I think you might have overreacted just a tad. I don't think it would be wrong for you to return his call. You guys can probably hook up later and you might even find that he's an okay guy. Don't play relationship games (ie. he called me too late, so im not gonna call him back until next week, yadda yadda yadda). Just call the brother and see what he's about. You might actually this is personality is 'cot damn fine as hell too'

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Not that fact that he called me late, I was thinking, why are you gonna tell me, you showed interest and now it's my turn. Seems a little childish imo....i dunno....but that's a first for me.

 

[KinksnCurlz]

Yea, that was a little childish but i have a quick question, did you both exchange numbers or did he just give you his?

 

[aqualung]

Some guys are not so very smooth on the phone. Sometimes it's easier to interact in person.

When he hinted that the ball is in your court, I think he was trying to see whether you are interested in him without asking you outright (common rejection evasion maneuver for the timid). It just came out wrong. Anyway, he asked you out directly on the 2nd call. You should get to know him, if only for the eye candy.

Pretty boys, as a rule, are used to women working hard to get them. He was prolly expecting you to show more effort than you have.

 

[JenJen2721]

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We talked for a minute and then he was like, it's up to you now to show interest, I showed interest.

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He sounds a little cocky to me. What was the point of him saying that?

 

[AmilLion]

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We talked for a minute and then he was like, it's up to you now to show interest, I showed interest.

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He sounds a little cocky to me. What was the point of him saying that?


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Thats what i thought. But I sweat no one, i don't care how good ya look.

I gave him my number, we didn't exchange numbers on the initial meet.

 

[Guest]

No, you did not over-react! He's no good. Get rid of him. He's a mind/game player.

 

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Personally, I think you might have overreacted just a tad. I don't think it would be wrong for you to return his call. You guys can probably hook up later and you might even find that he's an okay guy. Don't play relationship games (ie. he called me too late, so im not gonna call him back until next week, yadda yadda yadda). Just call the brother and see what he's about. You might actually this is personality is 'cot damn fine as hell too'

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Not that fact that he called me late, I was thinking, why are you gonna tell me, you showed interest and now it's my turn. Seems a little childish imo....i dunno....but that's a first for me.

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Exactly. You know he's childish and that's why you're here asking for affirmation.

Get rid of him. Don't come back to us 3 months from now talking about he's a dog!

You are on notice! He's NO GOOD!

 

[Guest]

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We talked for a minute and then he was like, it's up to you now to show interest, I showed interest.

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He sounds a little cocky to me. What was the point of him saying that?


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Thats what i thought. But I sweat no one, i don't care how good ya look.

I gave him my number, we didn't exchange numbers on the initial meet.

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And you giving him your number was enough interest initially.

Maybe he expected you to drop your panties on the spot if he's that fine, and I'm sure he knows it!

 

[shelli4018]

He made a mistake. The only thing he's guilty of is making an awkward remark. Other than that one faux pas how was the conversation?

 

[KinksnCurlz]

Than I can understand his comment about the ball being in your court (or whatever he said

). Since you didn't have his number, and he called you, he was just letting you know that he made the first step, so now he wants to c if you are interested. And I agree with Shelli, it was an awkward comment and i am sure he meant nothing by it.

 

[Sindeee]

It's not that he played himself because he didn't. Men like a chase. They like to know & like the feeling of a women being interested in them. From what I've read & his lackadaisical response to you, he likes playing this role that he's the aggressee & not the aggressor. You have to remember men have big ego's & they are always looking for someone to stroke that ego, especially when that someone is new. That's exactly what you are...NEW!

YES, I'd have to agree & say that his approach after a one week wait is a little immature but some men just don't know how to conversate albeit they want to be in a relationship.

Sindeee

 

[cutebajangirl]

I don't think you over reacted. He just showed his true colors too early, whatever happened to party manners. Even if it is just immaturity, who wants to deal with that ?

 

[notsomebody]

I think you overreacted. I mean if it bothered you why didn't you ask him about it? To me it Honestly sounds like he was trying to find out if you were into him before he started trying to get something going. Since you gave him your number, it sounds even more probable that he was trying to find out your interest in him.
That also explains the waiting a week to call you. If he was nervous about whether or not you were going to be into him, he was probably debating back and forth on what to even say to you.

I am not saying that he is a prince in disguise and jump while you have the chance.
But I am saying that you can't completely discard someone you just met because of a nervous comment made during an awkward conversation.
Call him back and see how the next conversation goes before completely writing him off.

 

[Supergirl]

Very good Amillion,

"Sweat No One." (I like that)

Make sure the guy pursues you, not the other way around.