BroadstreetBully
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We all know how women feel about a grown behind man who doesn't have his own place. It's not sexy, and where are we going to go to get some alone time
? However, I've come across a few stories shared by men who felt like they were being unfairly judged because they were living at home. I'm going to provide a few real-life scenarios and I want to know what you all think.
Scenario A: Guy has his own place, is financially stable and makes around $50,000 a year plus bonuses. He gets accepted into a graduate program that will train him in a field where he is guaranteed a starting salary in the 6 figures. The program is about 12 months long and the school is back in his hometown. He makes the decision to move back home for that time to pursue his studies. He'll save money this way, especially since he's going a year without a salary. Naturally, once he graduates he will find a new job and have his own place once again. You meet him right when he starts graduate school. Would you give him a chance?
Scenario B: Single guy has his own place, job, car, etc... when his father passes away suddenly. His mother is left living alone and distraught. Upon seeing his mother in this condition, he decides to move home, temporarily, to take care of his mother and help her sort out a few things. While he lives at home he is helping to pay bills (but still has plenty of spending money left over) so his mother can save more in order to move to another city where most of her family reside. Once she moves, he inherits the house (which is very nice). She is about 5-7 months away from her move and you meet him during this time. Do you give him a chance?
Scenario C: Man comes from a family where it is customary for the children to live at home until they get a career/married as his older siblings did the same. He just finished up his doctorate and is looking for his future wife. He still lives at home, but because he lives at home and his education was paid for, he has no debt and he has impressive savings. He is starting his new career and meets you during this time. He explains to you that he comes from a family of property owners and does not believe in renting, therefore, his first place away from home will be a home he owns. He plans on house hunting once he has been working his job for about 6 months. Would you give him a chance?
None of these guys are lying or exaggerating. They really have these plans set in place. They are great in ever other way for you. Do you deal with months to years of a guy not having his own place if he still comes off as a responsible man with serious goals in his future and little to no debt? Let's assume that these relationships have serious potential. Do you hang it there or seek out a guy who has more independence at the moment?
? However, I've come across a few stories shared by men who felt like they were being unfairly judged because they were living at home. I'm going to provide a few real-life scenarios and I want to know what you all think.Scenario A: Guy has his own place, is financially stable and makes around $50,000 a year plus bonuses. He gets accepted into a graduate program that will train him in a field where he is guaranteed a starting salary in the 6 figures. The program is about 12 months long and the school is back in his hometown. He makes the decision to move back home for that time to pursue his studies. He'll save money this way, especially since he's going a year without a salary. Naturally, once he graduates he will find a new job and have his own place once again. You meet him right when he starts graduate school. Would you give him a chance?
Scenario B: Single guy has his own place, job, car, etc... when his father passes away suddenly. His mother is left living alone and distraught. Upon seeing his mother in this condition, he decides to move home, temporarily, to take care of his mother and help her sort out a few things. While he lives at home he is helping to pay bills (but still has plenty of spending money left over) so his mother can save more in order to move to another city where most of her family reside. Once she moves, he inherits the house (which is very nice). She is about 5-7 months away from her move and you meet him during this time. Do you give him a chance?
Scenario C: Man comes from a family where it is customary for the children to live at home until they get a career/married as his older siblings did the same. He just finished up his doctorate and is looking for his future wife. He still lives at home, but because he lives at home and his education was paid for, he has no debt and he has impressive savings. He is starting his new career and meets you during this time. He explains to you that he comes from a family of property owners and does not believe in renting, therefore, his first place away from home will be a home he owns. He plans on house hunting once he has been working his job for about 6 months. Would you give him a chance?
None of these guys are lying or exaggerating. They really have these plans set in place. They are great in ever other way for you. Do you deal with months to years of a guy not having his own place if he still comes off as a responsible man with serious goals in his future and little to no debt? Let's assume that these relationships have serious potential. Do you hang it there or seek out a guy who has more independence at the moment?
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) and then moved to another city (where I lived at the time) and got his own place. I saw the negative affects of his decision. Sure he had little debt because his student loans were paid off but he had no concept of independence. Within a year of living there (we were broken up by then) he was down and out. His savings were gone because he lost his job and had to use his savings to maintain. Most of his issues were caused by poor decisions. For example, he lived in an expensive apartment complex where he was paying close to $1000 monthly for a studio apartment. That is considered pretty expensive in that city. He could have rented a larger place for 1/2 of that but according to him "they weren't nice enough
." So I can definitely see why some women judge men who are still living at home at a certain age. I need a guy who can be independent but would give all three guys a chance.
I thought of the same thing!
