SvelteVelvet
Well-Known Member
I wish you all the best in whatever decision you pray for. Before anyone says I do or you become engaged, or you are choosing a move in stage please know that marriage/relationship takes more than love.
Make sure you both know basic information about each other like these for example?
How is your credit? Pull reports for each of you to discuss.
How do you handle your money?
Can I see your checkbook, savings, IRA, 401K?
Are you going back to school?
Do you want children? If so how many?
Do either of you have children from previous relationships?
How is the relationship with the other parent?
If their are no children and the other person does not want any children, can the other handle that? Because no means no forever.
Who will handle the finances in the home or paying the bills?
What faith will we both be under?
What are our goals as a couple?
What are our goals as individuals?
How infuential are the family members on each of you?
If you are serious about each other then all these discussons and discovery should be included. None of these areas as well as others should be off limits for discussion.
Wishing you happiness and blessings.
Thanks! We've discussed the bulk of all those things already, with exception of a few that are on my list of things to discuss before any major steps are made. I've lived with a man before and being much older and wiser now, there is no way I'd jump into another situation like that blind and I'll be sure he knows where I stand on everything before those steps too.