okange76
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Background: This couple I know lives in Virginia and have dated on and off for eight years. She pushed for marriage and he dragged his feet so she dumped him after six years and moved across the country to Texas to live with her sister and start a new life. All through the relationship she had endeared herself to his family. She went through his phone, collected phone numbers after meeting his family and would call his siblings and cousins often just to say hi. She finally met his Dad when he came to visit and she would call him once in a while even after he went back to the village. VA’s mum is deceased and VA is super tight with his dad. Sometimes VA would go visit his sisters in Delaware and be surprised to find her there. She would go without telling him.
Two Years Ago: After remaining single for about a year and a half, VA went to visit his cousin in New York and met one of his cousin's BFFs and was totally feeling her. VA’s sisters called ex-GF and told her that VA had met someone he was super excited about. Ex-GF quit her high paying job in Texas on the spot, shipped her belongings, her car and bought a plane ticket. VA found out when she called him to pick her up from the airport and she immediately moved into his house. They had never lived together before and she’s been performing wifely duties diligently ever since. She got comfortable and assume d that all was well since he let her stay and he was getting all the benefits so he settled in comfortably. He stopped communicating with BFF immediately because he didn’t want to be messy. All this happened exactly a month after meeting BFF.
Present Day Situation: She still has no ring and has been calling VA’s Dad crying. VA’s Dad is calling VA and putting pressure because he is living with someone’s daughter. Her own father chastised her for moving in with him in the first place with no clear expectations. He's also putting pressure for obvious reasons as a father. When VA was asked, he said he never told her they would get married and he never told her to quit her job either and move back with him. She had nowhere to go so he let her stay. She is now calling VA’s cousin in New York so that he can plead with VA to marry her. NY had spoken to her once but had never given her his number. She got it from VA’s phone. She is crying to NY about giving VA 8 yrs. of her life with nothing to show for it and she just turned 39 and he is 40. She has also never found another job that pays as much as the one she quit in Texas. VA comes home from work and locks himself in his office and barely sits down to watch TV with her. She has to follow him to the office to get some attention. Whenever she brings up marriage, VA says he still has stuff he needs to accomplish and is not ready. She has threatened to leave several times and each time he calmly tells her that if she’s not happy, there’s the door. She still hasn’t left.
NY is in a tight spot because it was he who introduced his BFF to VA. VA and NY are first cousins who were raised together. They are pretty much brothers at this point.
Word on the street is that VA is waiting for her to leave so that she doesn’t claim that he played her and kicked her out. He is going after NY’s BFF who he met 2 years ago who still happens to be single when all this drama is over. He is actually talking marriage if everything works out between them. Not sure how NY will handle this because BFF was super disappointed when VA pulled all the way back.
NY went to high school with my brother so I've known him forever. I was also there when BFF was spotted at a lovely Thanksgiving Dinner Party. Very pretty lady, well accomplished and well put together. NY has known BFF from when they were teens. I have kept my mouth shut and stayed out of the drama with my ears open listening diligently to all the hot gossip from NY. It’s urban chick lit come to life.
Peanut Gallery, Thoughts on this situation?
Two Years Ago: After remaining single for about a year and a half, VA went to visit his cousin in New York and met one of his cousin's BFFs and was totally feeling her. VA’s sisters called ex-GF and told her that VA had met someone he was super excited about. Ex-GF quit her high paying job in Texas on the spot, shipped her belongings, her car and bought a plane ticket. VA found out when she called him to pick her up from the airport and she immediately moved into his house. They had never lived together before and she’s been performing wifely duties diligently ever since. She got comfortable and assume d that all was well since he let her stay and he was getting all the benefits so he settled in comfortably. He stopped communicating with BFF immediately because he didn’t want to be messy. All this happened exactly a month after meeting BFF.
Present Day Situation: She still has no ring and has been calling VA’s Dad crying. VA’s Dad is calling VA and putting pressure because he is living with someone’s daughter. Her own father chastised her for moving in with him in the first place with no clear expectations. He's also putting pressure for obvious reasons as a father. When VA was asked, he said he never told her they would get married and he never told her to quit her job either and move back with him. She had nowhere to go so he let her stay. She is now calling VA’s cousin in New York so that he can plead with VA to marry her. NY had spoken to her once but had never given her his number. She got it from VA’s phone. She is crying to NY about giving VA 8 yrs. of her life with nothing to show for it and she just turned 39 and he is 40. She has also never found another job that pays as much as the one she quit in Texas. VA comes home from work and locks himself in his office and barely sits down to watch TV with her. She has to follow him to the office to get some attention. Whenever she brings up marriage, VA says he still has stuff he needs to accomplish and is not ready. She has threatened to leave several times and each time he calmly tells her that if she’s not happy, there’s the door. She still hasn’t left.
NY is in a tight spot because it was he who introduced his BFF to VA. VA and NY are first cousins who were raised together. They are pretty much brothers at this point.
Word on the street is that VA is waiting for her to leave so that she doesn’t claim that he played her and kicked her out. He is going after NY’s BFF who he met 2 years ago who still happens to be single when all this drama is over. He is actually talking marriage if everything works out between them. Not sure how NY will handle this because BFF was super disappointed when VA pulled all the way back.
NY went to high school with my brother so I've known him forever. I was also there when BFF was spotted at a lovely Thanksgiving Dinner Party. Very pretty lady, well accomplished and well put together. NY has known BFF from when they were teens. I have kept my mouth shut and stayed out of the drama with my ears open listening diligently to all the hot gossip from NY. It’s urban chick lit come to life.
Peanut Gallery, Thoughts on this situation?
and she found him anyway. That was his last resort cuz home girl was just not getting that he's just not that into her. Should he have waited 20 years to tell her? No but better late than never.
