IMFOCSD
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Well after 4 months of going strong and holding on..it finally came to an end. It started off fine, communication was great & we missed each other. As time went on he became distant and the phone calls started decreasing & I used to have to tell him to call me more & he did but it wasn't consistent, we averaged about twice a day for a few about 5-10 mins & I would send him e-mails but would get no response. I am a very dedicated person in a relationship & I have a tendency to hold on tight. I went to visit him a couple times and i felt the distance and the change...he was not "into me" like he used to be or he was not as affectionate as he used to be. I noticed some "red flags" in some of the things he said to me. We were talking & I asked him if there was something he wanted to tell me seeing as how he was being so different & unattached...he was acting funny towards me. His response was that I was the most insecure woman he had ever met, he said some other things but what really stuck out was when he said that there were other women he loved more than me 
....What? I knew who he was talkin about. I looked at him like he was crazy & his response "what did I say?"
I knew then something was def wrong. I finally returned home & the communication picked back up until a few weeks went pass and then the communication decreased again. We made plans for me to come see him again a month later & things were cool but I could still feel something. He was doing good financially & things were going better for him...so we are riding through Texas ( I am so in LOVE with Texas) and he says.." I had to have talks with myself to stay faithful to you so I ask him to explain himself...he says...well when you a attractive dude women be on you & a man aint never satisfied...they always looking for something better....
Another "red flag" I am a "time will tell" kind of woman so i just made up in my mind to just sit back & see how things played out. The plans we made were still in effect, we still talked about how much "we" could not wait for me to move, we were both telling each other "I love you", he was helping me inquire about jobs...I sent him my resume to his e-mail & he even went to office max & bought me some rose colored resume printing paper. When I returned home the 2nd time he was calling me every morning before he went to work ( 5am) & even while he was at work. Eventually that stopped..we probably talked like once a day for a few minutes...I admit his work schedule was hectic (5am - 11pm) all I asked was that he call me before he went to bed just to say I love you, goodnight, i miss you...something..he made promises to call me but broke many of them. I called him 1 morning to say hi and asked him why he doesn't call me & he said he would start calling me..the next day ( Friday Dec. 11th 1:30pm) was the last time I talked to him. We said our I love you's & talked about me getting a job down there and that was it...he stopped calling me all together. I had been sending e-mails checking on him and calling..he was never home. 1 day i called & he did not want to even get the phone. I was crushed. I started blaming myself & feeling bad & crying. Now...a week later I a have more strength & I realized that I was a good woman to him & that his decision to stop calling me was not my fault. I feel good even though sometimes I can't believe how things ended..before he moved to Texas he was down & out and i was there for him when nobody else was...he was always up under me and showed me so much, love attention & affection. What does not kill you makes you stronger. I fell so in love with Texas & I am still moving there...just me & my kids in a different city from where he lived...I have no clue whats up with him. I don't need a man..I am ready to be alone and get myself together..I have found my inner strength & i am not going to let ANYBODY stop me from doing what I want to do.
Thanks for listening ladies...sorry for such a long thread
eta: I would appreciate it if any negative responses not be posted, we all make mistakes and learn from them and I am learning from one of may mistakes i have made & I realize that it is time for me to find out who I am ..alone...thanx
....What? I knew who he was talkin about. I looked at him like he was crazy & his response "what did I say?" I knew then something was def wrong. I finally returned home & the communication picked back up until a few weeks went pass and then the communication decreased again. We made plans for me to come see him again a month later & things were cool but I could still feel something. He was doing good financially & things were going better for him...so we are riding through Texas ( I am so in LOVE with Texas) and he says.." I had to have talks with myself to stay faithful to you so I ask him to explain himself...he says...well when you a attractive dude women be on you & a man aint never satisfied...they always looking for something better.... Another "red flag" I am a "time will tell" kind of woman so i just made up in my mind to just sit back & see how things played out. The plans we made were still in effect, we still talked about how much "we" could not wait for me to move, we were both telling each other "I love you", he was helping me inquire about jobs...I sent him my resume to his e-mail & he even went to office max & bought me some rose colored resume printing paper. When I returned home the 2nd time he was calling me every morning before he went to work ( 5am) & even while he was at work. Eventually that stopped..we probably talked like once a day for a few minutes...I admit his work schedule was hectic (5am - 11pm) all I asked was that he call me before he went to bed just to say I love you, goodnight, i miss you...something..he made promises to call me but broke many of them. I called him 1 morning to say hi and asked him why he doesn't call me & he said he would start calling me..the next day ( Friday Dec. 11th 1:30pm) was the last time I talked to him. We said our I love you's & talked about me getting a job down there and that was it...he stopped calling me all together. I had been sending e-mails checking on him and calling..he was never home. 1 day i called & he did not want to even get the phone. I was crushed. I started blaming myself & feeling bad & crying. Now...a week later I a have more strength & I realized that I was a good woman to him & that his decision to stop calling me was not my fault. I feel good even though sometimes I can't believe how things ended..before he moved to Texas he was down & out and i was there for him when nobody else was...he was always up under me and showed me so much, love attention & affection. What does not kill you makes you stronger. I fell so in love with Texas & I am still moving there...just me & my kids in a different city from where he lived...I have no clue whats up with him. I don't need a man..I am ready to be alone and get myself together..I have found my inner strength & i am not going to let ANYBODY stop me from doing what I want to do.Thanks for listening ladies...sorry for such a long thread
eta: I would appreciate it if any negative responses not be posted, we all make mistakes and learn from them and I am learning from one of may mistakes i have made & I realize that it is time for me to find out who I am ..alone...thanx
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girl I don't even wanna think about a man...not even Mr. Right 
So keep your head up and move forward
