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To a night club if your husband did not want you to.
I'm asking because a cousin of mine who i am close enough then others is having a 30th birthday party at a club. He does not want his wife in a night club. I have never in my 28 years been to a night club. She wants me to go and support her (her words) Now my and her relationship has been i'll say one sided and at times i feel like just cutting her off. It was one of those she was under minding my happiness at one time i would make a statement about something small and she would reply negative. Anything i had to say that was good about my home life she was silent on the phone but if there was anything negative there was a big reaction. Example we where taking all the kids all 7 on a lil family vacation to kings dominion. For a few days ( than ages 19 on down to 4 ) she made no reply not a have a good time or anything. When i told her we where not going her reply was a loud GTFOAH there have been a lot of these types of situations. Our relationship has not been peaches she has burned me a few times over money and such and the only reason why i have not let her go is because she is blood.
But husbs wants me to stay home he does not go to clubs either only time is new years which those i don't go to (with his company) this year was his last I did tell him he could go this year.
now we are newly married but we have been together 13 years if we where not married i would more than likely go.
Because of the years invested i don't want my marriage to end because of a party. But i'm pissed because he is making me choose in a way. Truthfully i don't want to go because of where she is having the party. At first it was in the county but now it is at a club in the city. Which there where 3 murders across the street last year alone. Now because of my husbands field of work he is familiar with this club and area so he says that drug dealers and yo boys attend it. The club is also 21 and over not 25 and over like the club she first selected.
Now she knows without me telling her that this will cause a problem in my marriage if i go. I would sit here and type the ups and downs she had past 4 almost 5 years with her baby daddy but why. I'll just say it's one of those don't seek advice from someone who has never had a drink of water in there life. If you want married advice go to someone who is married or money advice get it from someone with a nice bank account or at least good investments.
My thing with her is one of those if i do something she has to go do it. (sometimes behind my back)
1 thing i never understood. When i first was talking about going to school and becoming a medical assistant. My kids where only either 1 and 2 years old. My cousin made every excuse in the book why I would not be able to handle doing the 1 year school. But than she went to the same school and applied but she did not tell me. She only told me when she failed the intro exam did not tell me she was going or anything. But the kicker is she has 3 kids her youngest is the same age as my youngest so both our kids where infants but she told me all these different reasons but i guess they did not apply.
It's like if you get something done before her she gets pissed or depressed.
I guess this is a vent and question thread lol
sorry this is so long.
I should also add that if she had a dinner at a resturant or something there would be no issue. Hubs would not care but clubs are not his thing.
I'm asking because a cousin of mine who i am close enough then others is having a 30th birthday party at a club. He does not want his wife in a night club. I have never in my 28 years been to a night club. She wants me to go and support her (her words) Now my and her relationship has been i'll say one sided and at times i feel like just cutting her off. It was one of those she was under minding my happiness at one time i would make a statement about something small and she would reply negative. Anything i had to say that was good about my home life she was silent on the phone but if there was anything negative there was a big reaction. Example we where taking all the kids all 7 on a lil family vacation to kings dominion. For a few days ( than ages 19 on down to 4 ) she made no reply not a have a good time or anything. When i told her we where not going her reply was a loud GTFOAH there have been a lot of these types of situations. Our relationship has not been peaches she has burned me a few times over money and such and the only reason why i have not let her go is because she is blood.
But husbs wants me to stay home he does not go to clubs either only time is new years which those i don't go to (with his company) this year was his last I did tell him he could go this year.
now we are newly married but we have been together 13 years if we where not married i would more than likely go.
Because of the years invested i don't want my marriage to end because of a party. But i'm pissed because he is making me choose in a way. Truthfully i don't want to go because of where she is having the party. At first it was in the county but now it is at a club in the city. Which there where 3 murders across the street last year alone. Now because of my husbands field of work he is familiar with this club and area so he says that drug dealers and yo boys attend it. The club is also 21 and over not 25 and over like the club she first selected.
Now she knows without me telling her that this will cause a problem in my marriage if i go. I would sit here and type the ups and downs she had past 4 almost 5 years with her baby daddy but why. I'll just say it's one of those don't seek advice from someone who has never had a drink of water in there life. If you want married advice go to someone who is married or money advice get it from someone with a nice bank account or at least good investments.
My thing with her is one of those if i do something she has to go do it. (sometimes behind my back)
1 thing i never understood. When i first was talking about going to school and becoming a medical assistant. My kids where only either 1 and 2 years old. My cousin made every excuse in the book why I would not be able to handle doing the 1 year school. But than she went to the same school and applied but she did not tell me. She only told me when she failed the intro exam did not tell me she was going or anything. But the kicker is she has 3 kids her youngest is the same age as my youngest so both our kids where infants but she told me all these different reasons but i guess they did not apply.
It's like if you get something done before her she gets pissed or depressed.
I guess this is a vent and question thread lol
sorry this is so long.
I should also add that if she had a dinner at a resturant or something there would be no issue. Hubs would not care but clubs are not his thing.
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Don't feel obligated just because she's family.
