Okay....Golden, honey, I don't know what you have decided yet....but I need you to know something....sometimes....and I know this is a much debated topic on LHCF....but sometimes, a lot of times....people who were once a couple, do not just cut off all contact when they cease to become one.
I am friends with some of my exes and if I needed the business support of one, I could get it....without having to give up the nooky or stroke his ego....he would do it just on the strength of having known me well as an upstanding person that he can trust and he would help out purely as a supportive friend. People do this all the time. I know many people here won't agree but sometimes I feel as though the vibe on this board is so ANXIETY FILLED
when it comes to our men and their interactive relationships with the world that we are standing with our finger on the trigger and a meat cleaver in the other hand just WAITING on a brother to even say "HI" to another woman.
Truth is...and you know this being a business owner yourself....when you are running your own ****, you gotta network and you gotta hustle and that starts with the relationships you have established and building leads from there. I wouldn't just assume that his assistance means he's also loving her, poking her nor even checking her out like that. He wants to marry you! He didn't marry her!
I also need to ask, how did you come about this info? Were you digging for it or did you come across it in your own work? You don't want him thinking you are that insecure that you are digging for **** on his old girlfriends.
Now, I understand your concern that he didn't mention it....THAT would irritate the hell outta me that a) he didn't mention it because b) he thinks I am so insecure that I cannot handle this news....it's the caution, the secrecy, that would make me suspicious....This secrecy could be based on past relationships where he has learned that women flip out at the mention of other women or it could be something you yourself taught him by your own past behavior with him.
I have experienced this with my SO and I had to let dude know..."I'm a grown *** woman and I network TOO! And, I am not gonna hesitate to mention to YOU who I met, talk to, work with or whatever...male or female because I have nothing to hide and I do not expect you to loose your sense of security so show me the same respect and mention your dealings without fear to me as well!" So, that's what we do....but I learned that he was used to insecure women who break down at the mere insinuation that he even saw another woman walking down the street....perhaps your fiancee has that perspective.
Anywho, I wouldn't jump to the cheating/unfaithful conclusion. And, I also would ask him about it and let him know he is free to mention and discuss this sort of thing with you and that YOU will do the same when you are networking with your prospects as well!