This isn't that author dude, is it?
Oh, and to answer your question about the Five Love Languages, I haven't read the book, but from what I've heard, I've learned a lot.
Even on a non-romantic level, I've gained so much. For example, my mother REALLY likes gifts on special days (birthday, Christmas, Mother's Day, etc.). ESPECIALLY cards.
One time we had a Mother's Day dinner a week early because my brother was in town from Connecticut. I gave her a gift then and she was happy. So I thought my job was done, right?
Why did she get mad that I didn't have a card for her???
The gift was a bigger thing to me than the card, but no, she wanted a card and was upset that there was no card on Mother's Day or in the package that had the gift in it.
I used to just huff and puff and think, "Oh come on! It's the thought that counts!" But you know what? That's important to HER and that's HER love language. Since she is a wonderful mother overall, I will always make sure that she has a card on those special days, even if she loses them one day later.
So back to you... you like affection and a man who cares about you should want to show you that. And in turn, you will show your love to him in the ways that are important for him.