Knowing where your SO is

[Blessed_Angel]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?

Yes I do; just like he has to know where I am at all times. And that is why we trust each other!

Do you care?

Of course; we both do.

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?

Yes, of course, but he doesn't go to clubs anymore.

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?

This hasn't happened; but if it did...we'd have a long and serious talk!

 

[SilentRuby]

Could care less, as long as he's safe

 

[glamazon386]

Sometimes I wonder where he is when we're not together but it's no biggie. He usually lets me know anyway.

 

[Syrah]

I picked "would appreciate him telling me...". It's not that I"m tripping on where he's going on who he's going with, but I'd like to know.

...plus I don't see how you end a conversation with "yea babe/sweetheart/sugarbooty, we can't hook up tonight because I've got plans". Where ya goin? "Out". What?!

 

[DarkHair]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?
- not at all times (like work)

Do you care?
- yes I do care, but he is a grown man. As long as his is safe.

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?
- YES!! These fools around here are runnin around killing folk in and out of the club, so yes.

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?
- I fuss about it and become REALLY nice. See \/

We have this thing about us. We call each other and let the other know that we have made it to the destination, when we are leaving, and when we've made it home. Now when I am out shopping, its a whole nother story.

 

[Syrah]

...wanting to know where your man is at doesn't mean you don't trust him. And him wanting to know where you're at doesn't mean he doesn't trust you.

Sometimes you just want to know. And there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[DarkHair]

...wanting to know where your man is at doesn't mean you don't trust him. And him wanting to know where you're at doesn't mean he doesn't trust you.

Sometimes you just want to know. And there's nothing wrong with that.

from what I am told, its called common courtesy.

Think of it this way, if something happens to him and its all on the news, you won't know if he is involved or not. Then when you get wind of it, you'll look like a fool for not knowing where he was.

 

[JustKiya]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?
No.

Do you care?
It depends on what time it is.

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?
Yes.

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?
I don't think he ever has, and if he did, I would have just told him that I'd like to know.

The only reason I like to know is because - well, I love him. And I won't front, I worry. And some of the clubs/hangouts that his boys like to go to are a lil hood, and he's not the best driver, so - it's like this. He usually gets home from work by 8:30. He calls me (of his own) if he's going to be more than an hour after that. He's almost never home when I get home from work, so I rarely do the same. If we do go out, we are either home by 1am, or we call the other around 12:30 or so to let them know we won't be home.

It's not a matter of trust at all, it's just - hell, I need to know when I need to report him as a missing person, you know? And if he was supposed to be home at 8:30, and it's 11pm, and I haven't heard from him - oh, there are gonna be words when he walks in the door.



I swear to gods, speak of the devil, he JUST called me to let me know he was going over to one of his boys houses after work.

 

[Nola Darling]

I want to know where FH is at all times because I get worried. I like to know that he's safe.

 

[SouthernTease]

I sometimes wanna know...

but I don't want to be a mother...

he can tell me if he wants...

but I try not to make a big deal about it

 

[moonglowdiva]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?
NO!
Do you care?
NO!
Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?
If he's at a club then he is literally out of my hair
What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you? I don't care if he goes to a club or not. I'm not loosing any sleep over the situation and I hope he hade a grand ole time.

This is just my 2 pennies. I enjoyed participating in your poll.
~ttfn.

 

[NYAmicas]

I must know because if he strolls through that door a minute later than expected, he gets:

 

[Spongie Bloom]

To be honest i couldnt care where my SO is as long as he is having fun as long as him being gone doesnt impinge on our alone time then its all good, i dont need him to ask for my permission or to report to me. He asks me more than i ask him

 

[2Cute!]

Out of respect, we just tell eachother where we are going and what time we expect to be home. I would have issues if he just left and said nothing and returned home whenever he wanted.

To me, that would be disrespectful.

 

[vestaluv1]

I used to NEED to know where my so was at ALL times!When we got on one page,meaning I trust him and he is about to be my husband,it didn't even matter where he went and 99% of the time once I stopped the constant nagging,he told me where he was going and what he was doing.Now I don't even ask or care because I know he isn't doing me wrong.And he wasn't before I just had a lot of "issues".If proven otherwise,then I will have to kill him and he is aware of this.

... ! ALRIGHTYTHEN!

 

[vestaluv1]

Out of respect, we just tell eachother where we are going and what time we expect to be home. I would have issues if he just left and said nothing and returned home whenever he wanted.

To me, that would be disrespectful.

I agree ! Its not exactly like his just a room or flatmate... .

 

[adf23]

DH normally tells me where he is. It doesnt matter to me one way or the other cause I trust him and I enjoy spending time alone.

 

[princessnad]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?
No, but he always voluntarily tells me and I like it that way. We are kinda the joined by the hip type... not because of trust issues, we are just best friends.

Do you care?
If he didn't tell me and it was always this way, I wouldn't care but since we have been doing this for 2 years now, it would be strange if it changed. He even tells me what he has for lunch most days...
I guess we are weird.

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?
See above. I wish he would go out on his own a little more though. When he is out he sends me update texts periodically. I'm sure his friends are like *ummm*

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?
I would wonder why he didn't want to tell me, but I wouldn't think anything of it trust wise.



I voted that I would appreciate him telling me but it's not a big deal... but I could just as easily pick all of them and have them all be true in some way or another.

 

[DMJ's Mom]

90% of the time I'm kicking him out the house to chill with the boys the other 10% he asks me to go with them. We are both home bodies so its not as though he goes out showing his a** when he's out. After the first couple times of him telling me where they were going I told him I didn't need to know but to let me know when he got home safely and we haven't had any problems

 

[Vinyl]

Okay I must admit I'm worried because SO hasn't gotten home yet and it's past the time he normally gets here... but it's because we had an argument recently and I'm worried he's avoiding/losing interest in me. It's like oh no... he never does this... what'd I do?

So I guess for me it's "depends."

 

[VettaVetta]

He tells me or calls and I say okay vice versa never a big deal I trust him completely.

 

[ScorpionQueen]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?

no

Do you care?

I care for safety reasons but not to keep tabs

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?

mine doesn't do clubs/bars

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?

I would think it's strange but I wouldn't make a big deal about it

 

[gabulldawg]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times? Not really. I pretty much trust him and doubt he would do me wrong. Like me, he is also a home body, so 99% of the time he is at home (or work) when we aren't together.



Do you care? Yes I do care, but I don't want to make a big deal out of it. We aren't married, so he's not required to tell me anything. The funny thing is that he's usually the one asking me what I'm doing when we are apart, so I often use that time to ask him back.

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?

As far as I know he doesn't go very often, but when he has gone he has let me know ahead of time.

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?

I know of one time where he didn't tell me he went out. That was toward the beginning of our relationship (we had only been dating maybe 3 or 4 months). He had casually mentioned it in a conversation we were having. I didn't make a big deal out of it. I have been out a couple of times without telling him as well.

 

[Renewed1]

If my SO is my boyfriend, I chose the later. But as my husband I would need to know where he is at all times and I'll do the same. It's about respect.

 

[newbiemom]

MY DH always tells me where he is. We were like that even while dating. He would not go out without consulting with me first to a club or bar. He doesn't really go to those places with out me. He likes to know where I am also and I don't mind it.

 

[TayMac]

As my SO, I like for him to tell me but it's no a big deal and he usually does tell me. If I was married, please do tell me out of respect but I'm not gonna grill you about it.

 

[NYLegalNewbie]

This is what I actually like about my boyfriend - he doesn't leave me wondering where he is or what he's doing. He tells me without me having to ask. I think that's the way it should be on both ends.

 

[-Kąditty-]

DH and I let each other know our whereabouts. We are usually together anyway so it is very rare that we have to inform the other. Just how we have rolled since the beginning.

 

[Sade']

I look at it like this...people are gonna tell you what they want you to know. I don't make assumptions about where I think my husband is. If I want to know I ask him. I'd like to know where he is at all times but I won't nag or investigate. He goes to bars with his friends on Friday nights. That's his release and I respect it. I'm fine with being in the house but I get out with my girls occasionally. I trust that where ever he say that he is that's where he is period. I do care where he is b/c there r certain places where married men just shouldn't be and if I found out that he was someplace and didn't tell me that's cool esp if he hadn't planned on going and just ended up there. But if he flat out lied....I'd be on an episode of SNAPPED.

The End.