Knowing where your SO is

[SouthernTease]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?

Do you care?

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?

 

[Taliah]

I do, but I don't let him know it. I make him check for me twice as much as I check for him.
I voted busy doing my own thing. Relationships are big business.

 

[itismehmmkay]

I find that when I chill out and keep my own self busy, he'll tell me himself.
So I voted the last one: I care, but I don't trip about it and let it fall naturally.

 

[somethingdifferent]

Well, I would want to know (not because he can't go). He likes to know my whereabouts and I like to know his. However, he and I can go to the club/bar. So, I voted "would appreciate."

 

[Vinyl]

Honestly, I don't care. Maybe it's because my SO doesn't really leave the house much. But usually he'll text me and go "Mind if I see movie tonight?" or something if he isn't going to be in that night.

 

[NikStarrr]

I pretty much always know because he lets me know. Never had to make a big deal of it... Also, I would find it odd if he went to a club (not a bar, but club) and didn't tell me--but I don't see how he could really do that anyway since we live in the same house. haha

 

[Cichelle]

My DH just keeps in touch with me. I don't ask him to report to me. Neither one of us goes our own way without letting the other know. Part of this is the fact that we have a young daughter who has special needs. But in general we let each other know out of basic consideration for one another.

 

[Allandra]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?
No.

Do you care?
No, just as long as he's safe.

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?
He doesn't go to bars / clubs.

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?
n/a

 

[*~*Afrolicious*~*]

He volunteers this information on the rare occasions he does go out and calls me while out lol

 

[treybaby2005]

I used to NEED to know where my so was at ALL times!When we got on one page,meaning I trust him and he is about to be my husband,it didn't even matter where he went and 99% of the time once I stopped the constant nagging,he told me where he was going and what he was doing.Now I don't even ask or care because I know he isn't doing me wrong.And he wasn't before I just had a lot of "issues".If proven otherwise,then I will have to kill him and he is aware of this.

 

[lurkersincejan]

Honestly, I don't care. Maybe it's because my SO doesn't really leave the house much. But usually he'll text me and go "Mind if I see movie tonight?" or something if he isn't going to be in that night.

same thing here, we are both home bodies and usually when we do go out its as a family or to handle business for a short period of time

 

[drasgrl]

I know because he's always with me (most of the time anyway). He hates clubs and doesn't really drink so I know he doesn't go to those places. If he's not with me he's in school or with one of his school friends but he's going to Iraq soon so he won't be hanging out with him too much longer. Otherwise I trust him so I don't care.

 

[Christina Dior]

I used to NEED to know where my so was at ALL times!When we got on one page,meaning I trust him and he is about to be my husband,it didn't even matter where he went and 99% of the time once I stopped the constant nagging,he told me where he was going and what he was doing.Now I don't even ask or care because I know he isn't doing me wrong.And he wasn't before I just had a lot of "issues".If proven otherwise,then I will have to kill him and he is aware of this.

 

[FlowerHair]

I pretty much know where he is all the time. If not, I can always call if I'm curious. LOL!
I trust him 100% so I don't worry about that.
It's nice to be home alone sometimes

When I'm not home he's calling me with all kinds of questions He just wants to check on me...

ETA He goes to bars maybe once a month at the most to chat with friends and so on. He's drunk maybe once or twice a year. So we're the same when it comes to going out etc.

 

[Encore]

We just alway keep in contact wen u goes to a bar or club we will text randomly just to check up and when we leave we call and let the other know. Not because we have to we just do. I don't really trust all of his friends but I trust that he will make the right decisions he know what he has and wouldn't risk losing it...also just like treybaby2005 said...I will have to kill him. As long as there is no disrespecting the relationship. its all good

 

[MD_Lady]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?

No.

Do you care?

No.

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?

Yes, but only because that's information that we generally share with one another (especially since going to a bar or a club is not a common occurance with either of us).

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?

Unless it's a strip club (which we agreed that neither of us would attend) probably nothing. The only time I might say something is if he knew he was going, but made an effort to deliberately hide it (in which case I'd want to know why he felt the need to lie).

 

[LovinLocks]

Well, um, the current DH is wheelchair/walker bound so I pretty much know where he is 99.9% of the time.

This made me think of something . . . perhaps with me my feelings for the person may have much to do with my wanting to know. Which may speak to certain insecurities perplexed). This husband could go anywhere and never tell me, I wouldn't blink an eye. It's speaking to where I am emotionally and mentally these days in re. SO relationships, i.e., marriage where I am concerned.

 

[Mai Tai]

I really do not need to know where my SO is all the time because he is very trustworthy, and I have too many other things to do besides being his personal GPS. I am very lucky though, because my SO takes it upon himself to let me know where he is when I'm not around.

 

[dlewis]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times? No, but we are both good about telling each other where we are.

Do you care? no/ sometimes

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs? We are to old for bars/clubs. People only go to bars for one things and if he wants to be there he doesn't want to be here with me and his kids.

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you? I'm not even gonna say

 

[dlewis]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times?
No.

Do you care?
No, just as long as he's safe.

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs?
He doesn't go to bars / clubs.

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?
n/a

that's cute

 

[tilati]

My DH just keeps in touch with me. I don't ask him to report to me. Neither one of us goes our own way without letting the other know. Part of this is the fact that we have a young daughter who has special needs. But in general we let each other know out of basic consideration for one another.

Same here

 

[QT]

Do you need to know where your SO is at all times? No, he tells me either way, we have a great line of communication

Do you care? Of course that's my hubby

Do you feel SO should tell you when he's going to bars/clubs? He tells me so I wont be worried.

What do you do if you find he's gone to bar/club and didn't tell you?

Did you have fun erplexed

 

[CheLala13]

I said I need to know, but I don't make him tell me. It's natural. We spend most of our days together or texting/calling/IMing one another, so I ALWAYS know where he is and vice versa. I wouldn't kill him or anything.

 

[Divine_Order]

I appreciate it when he does it, but he doesn't have to. It's something that we both do anyway....let each other know where we are going. It's not because we "have to", but I think it's a nice gesture.

 

[Allandra]

that's cute

Girl, you know how I am.

 

[DayStar]

my SO tells me every detail of his life .. and im happy he thinks that he should. I tell him if im making a major trip and keep him up to speed aswell...so far so good.

 

[DayStar]

you sound just like him...he hates the club scene and doesnt like when i go to clubs

and the skrip club is a whole notha story.....

People only go to bars for one things and if he wants to be there he doesn't want to be here with me and his kids.

 

[dlewis]

you sound just like him...he hates the club scene and doesnt like when i go to clubs

and the skrip club is a whole notha story.....

Why you going to the strip club when he can strip for you?

 

[DayStar]

...that would be fun.....but he said he aint wearing no thong...its GEY

Why you going to the strip club when he can strip for you?

 

[dlewis]

...that would be fun.....but he said he aint wearing no thong...its GEY

I agree with him . But there are other ways.