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So in my freshman year of college, I met my friend (C) and we hit it off immediately to the point where we're still close friends to this day. Around the same time I started dating J, who I married two years later. Ever since the beginning, C has always had a big crush on J. It's become a bit of a running joke between the three of us. This whole thing has bothered me a little bit since the beginning, but I'm able to rationalize it. It's just a joke.
So C has wanted kids ever since I've known her. She's always said that she's going to spend her early years making as much money as she can so that she can effectively spend the rest of her time as a mother. In sophomore year she got a job as a traveling salesperson, and made her fortune. Now she's back, and she's decided to have her first child. I always assumed that she wanted to get married, or at least have a long term partner before doing something like this. But it turns out I was incorrect. She has asked J to be a sperm donor in her IVF treatment.
I feel very conflicted about this. On the one hand, I know that this is something that C has wanted for the longest time and I don't want to shoot her down. On the other hand, the fact that she's had a crush on J for years frames this in a different perspective. She wants him, and no one else. Suddenly the joke stops being funny. J once drunkenly admitted to me that he'd sleep with her almost immediately if I ever gave him a hall pass. I know it was just him joking around while drunk, but I've always believed that a drunk person's words are a sober person's thoughts. I know he'd just be jerking off into a cup and that's it, but it still feels weird to me. They're having a baby together if I say yes.
J has said that he won't do it without my approval first. I don't know what to tell him. Am I being paranoid, or is there more to this?
So in my freshman year of college, I met my friend (C) and we hit it off immediately to the point where we're still close friends to this day. Around the same time I started dating J, who I married two years later. Ever since the beginning, C has always had a big crush on J. It's become a bit of a running joke between the three of us. This whole thing has bothered me a little bit since the beginning, but I'm able to rationalize it. It's just a joke.
So C has wanted kids ever since I've known her. She's always said that she's going to spend her early years making as much money as she can so that she can effectively spend the rest of her time as a mother. In sophomore year she got a job as a traveling salesperson, and made her fortune. Now she's back, and she's decided to have her first child. I always assumed that she wanted to get married, or at least have a long term partner before doing something like this. But it turns out I was incorrect. She has asked J to be a sperm donor in her IVF treatment.
I feel very conflicted about this. On the one hand, I know that this is something that C has wanted for the longest time and I don't want to shoot her down. On the other hand, the fact that she's had a crush on J for years frames this in a different perspective. She wants him, and no one else. Suddenly the joke stops being funny. J once drunkenly admitted to me that he'd sleep with her almost immediately if I ever gave him a hall pass. I know it was just him joking around while drunk, but I've always believed that a drunk person's words are a sober person's thoughts. I know he'd just be jerking off into a cup and that's it, but it still feels weird to me. They're having a baby together if I say yes.
J has said that he won't do it without my approval first. I don't know what to tell him. Am I being paranoid, or is there more to this?
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with a quickness. Do not let her back into your life. Not even for a prayer.
