cinnamin316
Active Member
Hello, I dont normally share alot on the forum but i need some outside advice on this guy i'm kind of talking to. Sorry its kind of long 
Ok so I've known this guy since elementary school. We've always kept in touch and in high school we took things a little further than friends. Well after the incident he stopped talking to me, so i stopped talking to him. Bascially one day he tried to apologize to me and i cut him off saying my current boyfriend told me not to speak to him. He gets mad at me and choses to ignore me whenever we see each other in the street (He'll say hi to my mother but would ignore me). Ok so 5 years passed and we started saying "hello" when we see eachother, nothing big. But about a month ago he sees me standing outside waiting for my mother and we spark up a conversation and exchange numbers again. So he calls me the next day and we talk for a while. It seemed like every 5 minutes he was apologizing for what happened when we were in high school. He asked me if I would give him a second chance to be a friend to show me that he's matured. Ok so blah blah blah we chat on the phone and text occasionally. We talked about how I have been celibate for 2 years and I wanted to wait until I was in a commited relationship to do anything. Well he comes to my house one day and one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together. We had both agreed before hand that we wouldnt have sex for a while because I told him I get emotional and needy. He actually told me that he appreciated me telling him upfront so he would know what to expect. But after it happened I literally cried for a good hour. I was so disappointed in myself for not sticking to my rules. I actually felt dirty.
So after our hook up he ends up going through alot of drama and was stressed but he did manage to call me i guess like every other day. (I didnt initiate any calls). So this past monday he wants to hang out, so he stops by and we have a good time (No sex just laughing and joking around).So before he leaves I ask him if he looked at me differently since I had sex with him. He said that he's known me for so long he already knows what type of person I am. So then I eventually told him that it couldnt happen again. He asked me why and I told him because I felt dirty. He looked at me and said "Why? Nah we gotta talk about this, I'll call you after my basketball game". Well....no call. I texted him on tuesday to ask how the game was and his response was "fine" He always answers me with short responses but he'll call in a minute and talk forever. So wednesday night I called him and left a message that I was sorry for just blurting out what i said and that I wanted to explain why I said that. I told him to call me when he got a chance and he hasnt called yet. So right now I dont know what to think. We arent in a relationship or anything and he told me he is talking to some chick but he always makes it a point to say he is not "with" her. So I havent called or texted him since, well I actually deleted his number from my phone so I wouldnt get tempted. So should I wait it out or suck it up and move on.
(I didnt mention it earlier but he popped back into my life at a very bad time, I've been really depressed/talking to a therapist)
Ok so I've known this guy since elementary school. We've always kept in touch and in high school we took things a little further than friends. Well after the incident he stopped talking to me, so i stopped talking to him. Bascially one day he tried to apologize to me and i cut him off saying my current boyfriend told me not to speak to him. He gets mad at me and choses to ignore me whenever we see each other in the street (He'll say hi to my mother but would ignore me). Ok so 5 years passed and we started saying "hello" when we see eachother, nothing big. But about a month ago he sees me standing outside waiting for my mother and we spark up a conversation and exchange numbers again. So he calls me the next day and we talk for a while. It seemed like every 5 minutes he was apologizing for what happened when we were in high school. He asked me if I would give him a second chance to be a friend to show me that he's matured. Ok so blah blah blah we chat on the phone and text occasionally. We talked about how I have been celibate for 2 years and I wanted to wait until I was in a commited relationship to do anything. Well he comes to my house one day and one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together. We had both agreed before hand that we wouldnt have sex for a while because I told him I get emotional and needy. He actually told me that he appreciated me telling him upfront so he would know what to expect. But after it happened I literally cried for a good hour. I was so disappointed in myself for not sticking to my rules. I actually felt dirty.
So after our hook up he ends up going through alot of drama and was stressed but he did manage to call me i guess like every other day. (I didnt initiate any calls). So this past monday he wants to hang out, so he stops by and we have a good time (No sex just laughing and joking around).So before he leaves I ask him if he looked at me differently since I had sex with him. He said that he's known me for so long he already knows what type of person I am. So then I eventually told him that it couldnt happen again. He asked me why and I told him because I felt dirty. He looked at me and said "Why? Nah we gotta talk about this, I'll call you after my basketball game". Well....no call. I texted him on tuesday to ask how the game was and his response was "fine" He always answers me with short responses but he'll call in a minute and talk forever. So wednesday night I called him and left a message that I was sorry for just blurting out what i said and that I wanted to explain why I said that. I told him to call me when he got a chance and he hasnt called yet. So right now I dont know what to think. We arent in a relationship or anything and he told me he is talking to some chick but he always makes it a point to say he is not "with" her. So I havent called or texted him since, well I actually deleted his number from my phone so I wouldnt get tempted. So should I wait it out or suck it up and move on.
(I didnt mention it earlier but he popped back into my life at a very bad time, I've been really depressed/talking to a therapist)
You don't need someone like that.
