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I guess I am thinking of Standards differently. I am talking about those few things that you absolutely won't give in on. Standards are not usually long lists of things- those are likes and dislikes. As for my High Maintenance comment- you yourself said that she doesn't intimidate men, she frightens them. That in itself is not a sign of high standards, its a sign of high maintenance. Dumping a guy because he was late to pick her up once with out hearing him out- high maintenance. Dumping a guy because he refuses to do something to better himself- high standards.
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Yep! Right on target.
I hate to admit this, but, I'm sort of guilty of something similar.
The only thing is I was already with my boyfriend when I began my "training" camp. LOL!
I used to hate him always being late to pick me up, so I complained, like women do, and of course he continued doing things HIS way until I began penalizing him.
Since we've been together on and off for almost 10 years, if he didn't like the "penalty" he knew where the door was. Ha!
So, one day he was late more than 15 minutes. I decided all dates would have a grace period of 15 minutes. He was late about 20-25 minutes. No phone call or anything. Okay, if you're going to be more than 10-15 minutes late, use your cellphone. That's why you have it.
So not only did I penalize him for being late, he was also penalized for being inconsiderate. So when he finally arrived, I told him our date was cancelled. He had been warned BEFORE to picke me up on time or call to let me know he's on his way if he's going to be late.
It was so funny because he lives an hour away! LOL! Oh well. Guess what? He was never LATE again.
Hhhhmmm, I think to myself. I may be on to something. LOL!
I decided I didn't like him coming over to visit me wearing his work clothes. Sometimes he likes to come by before going to work or after getting off.
I told him his work clothes smell and it's a turn off. Before you come over, you need to put on street clothes. Well, one day (I guess he forgot the new rule-LOL!), he appeared wearing his work clothes. He didn't even get into my apartment! LOL!
Uh-uh-uh, YOU are not dressed appropriately. I asked you not to wear your work clothes over here, so you can either go and change your clothes and come back or we'll do this some other day!
My mother thought it was a riot! Guess what? He only wears regular clothes to come visit!
Anyway, just something funny I thought I'd share. He's well trained now. Same thing with opening car doors. Ha! Worked like a CHARM!
So CH, in a way, he was a fixer upper but I was about 28-29 then. No way would I start training men at my age (34). He better know from jump to open doors and not to wear smelly clothes, but when you've been with someone a long time, you tend to let things slide and I decided to put him "back on track"