Opalsunset
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Hi ladies! It's been a while since I've been on this board, so it's really exciting to be back! <3
So, I have been talking to this cute black/dominican guy who works at my job. I'm 23 and he's 21. From the moment I met him, I was attracted to him, but I was involved in a complicated "relationship" which just ended recently. I first started noticing my co-worker, when he seemed to be extra "nice" to me - he would offer me food on our break, would be concerned about me during work, and tries to help when I would move anything heavy or cumbersome. Every chance - he would ask when would I be working again, and gladly tell me when he was scheduled, and how he hoped we would be able to work the same days. We would strike up a conversation, which I noticed he would randomly ask about my relationship and this guy in my life (who was white) Well, I left my phone out and I asked him to just keep an eye out for it while I was in another area of the store. My wallpaper was of me and the guy I used to see - That same night, my co-worker randomly goes "I feel like you would date a white guy, is he white?" when I said he was he got really defensive and goes "I knew it! Your a traitor! Girls like you are traitors, I just had a feeling! " blah blah blah. (Typical Sagittarius guy) Well, Im pretty sure he saw the picture, but in any case I explained how things were not going too well, and that besides him, I never even dated outside my race - So then he goes on to apologize, and tells me he feels bad for even bringing it up.
After a while, the topic of the guy in my life, and requests for more details (his name, where he lived,when was the last time I saw him, ect) would come up quite often, until we were officially, not together anymore - which then my co-worker assured me I would meet someone better, maybe even someone at our store or closer to where I live (Which he does in comparison to the other guy) . We started talking more these last two weeks, and literally would find the most random things to ask each other or talk about, simply to see each other during the day. He compliments me often, and as an outspoken Sagittarius man, who doesn't give our compliments often - I felt that was kind of huge. He told me I'm the nicest girl he's ever met, and i'm always happy - and he's never met anyone that was always as happy and cheerful as I am. He also, remembers anything and everything I tell him about myself - (and he definitely asks as many questions as he possibly can) He's even asked about my hair..Hmm.
I eventually got up the courage to ask him to attend a music event with me, and we are going for two days Saturday and Sunday - we are both taking days off - and I even asked for his number to text him the information. We texted back and forth a little after that, and the next time I saw him, he even brought up again how excited he was to go to this event with me. He eagerly gives me a tight hug at the end of the day, and when I arrive to work, our conversations always linger a bit longer than they should during work and I've caught him a few times even staring at me, and then would smile. Everything seemed to point to a mutual interest, except that he casually mentions during one of our brief conversations his girlfriend, which up until now I didn't realize existed. But I continued to talk to him, simply as a friend and co-worker, but it still all puzzles me, because he's barely mentioned much more about her than the two conversations we had recently. He also always seems so excited to see me - He started his shift the other day and I asked where he would be working, he told me where, and I commented that his particular shift would suck just because it is so isolated - He then smiles and goes "Well, i'll get to see you!" He also is still attending this event with me, and he just asked to add me to Facebook - last night we spent five hours chatting about everything from our families to our favorite foods - even though we had work today, and the last time I saw him - he hugged me real tight, and then touched my shoulder lightly, gave it a gentle squeeze while telling me to get home safely and he'll message me.
So this all brings me to the question, Is he into me, or just being friendly? Is it all in my mind? And what should I think since he doesn't really talk about his relationship (he's been listed to be in a relationship for about a month on Facebook, but that is all I know so far)
Any thoughts are appreciated!
So, I have been talking to this cute black/dominican guy who works at my job. I'm 23 and he's 21. From the moment I met him, I was attracted to him, but I was involved in a complicated "relationship" which just ended recently. I first started noticing my co-worker, when he seemed to be extra "nice" to me - he would offer me food on our break, would be concerned about me during work, and tries to help when I would move anything heavy or cumbersome. Every chance - he would ask when would I be working again, and gladly tell me when he was scheduled, and how he hoped we would be able to work the same days. We would strike up a conversation, which I noticed he would randomly ask about my relationship and this guy in my life (who was white) Well, I left my phone out and I asked him to just keep an eye out for it while I was in another area of the store. My wallpaper was of me and the guy I used to see - That same night, my co-worker randomly goes "I feel like you would date a white guy, is he white?" when I said he was he got really defensive and goes "I knew it! Your a traitor! Girls like you are traitors, I just had a feeling! " blah blah blah. (Typical Sagittarius guy) Well, Im pretty sure he saw the picture, but in any case I explained how things were not going too well, and that besides him, I never even dated outside my race - So then he goes on to apologize, and tells me he feels bad for even bringing it up.
After a while, the topic of the guy in my life, and requests for more details (his name, where he lived,when was the last time I saw him, ect) would come up quite often, until we were officially, not together anymore - which then my co-worker assured me I would meet someone better, maybe even someone at our store or closer to where I live (Which he does in comparison to the other guy) . We started talking more these last two weeks, and literally would find the most random things to ask each other or talk about, simply to see each other during the day. He compliments me often, and as an outspoken Sagittarius man, who doesn't give our compliments often - I felt that was kind of huge. He told me I'm the nicest girl he's ever met, and i'm always happy - and he's never met anyone that was always as happy and cheerful as I am. He also, remembers anything and everything I tell him about myself - (and he definitely asks as many questions as he possibly can) He's even asked about my hair..Hmm.
I eventually got up the courage to ask him to attend a music event with me, and we are going for two days Saturday and Sunday - we are both taking days off - and I even asked for his number to text him the information. We texted back and forth a little after that, and the next time I saw him, he even brought up again how excited he was to go to this event with me. He eagerly gives me a tight hug at the end of the day, and when I arrive to work, our conversations always linger a bit longer than they should during work and I've caught him a few times even staring at me, and then would smile. Everything seemed to point to a mutual interest, except that he casually mentions during one of our brief conversations his girlfriend, which up until now I didn't realize existed. But I continued to talk to him, simply as a friend and co-worker, but it still all puzzles me, because he's barely mentioned much more about her than the two conversations we had recently. He also always seems so excited to see me - He started his shift the other day and I asked where he would be working, he told me where, and I commented that his particular shift would suck just because it is so isolated - He then smiles and goes "Well, i'll get to see you!" He also is still attending this event with me, and he just asked to add me to Facebook - last night we spent five hours chatting about everything from our families to our favorite foods - even though we had work today, and the last time I saw him - he hugged me real tight, and then touched my shoulder lightly, gave it a gentle squeeze while telling me to get home safely and he'll message me.
So this all brings me to the question, Is he into me, or just being friendly? Is it all in my mind? And what should I think since he doesn't really talk about his relationship (he's been listed to be in a relationship for about a month on Facebook, but that is all I know so far)
Any thoughts are appreciated!
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