TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
I think I stand in the minority here, but I wanted some additional opinions. I got into a healthy debate this afternoon with some female counterparts about this topic.
As I approach 35, I am coming to realize that my long term ambitions no longer include a ring and "til death do us part". I have had so many women tell me "When the right man comes along, you will change your mind...", and he hasn't come along. I find that the older I get, the more OK I am with that.
Some of it may have to do with the fact that I am divorced, but even when I was married, I did it because I thought that was expected of me. I was completely miserable during the entire marriage.
Don't get me wrong. I am not a bitter, man-hating woman. It's just that the longer I stay single, the more comfortable I become with myself and the more set in my ways I become. I even get a little antsy when thinking about a "committed" relationship if it involves co-habitation.
I like my space, I like doing things my own way, I like my freedom. I always felt marriage was "confining" in some way.
Besides, most of the married people I know don't necessarily want to be married anymore. They want to save face with the church or stay together for the kids or they need the financial stability of a dual income house.
Me? I am thankfully financially stable on my own and don't feel validated by the presence of another person in my life. I have truly found that place where I am content "doing me" and wouldn't feel the least bit slighted if it ended up being "just me" for good. I have a wonderful support system of great friends that fulfill me, and I don't feel like being single leaves a particular void in my life...
Am I an oddball here or do other women echo the sentiment that marriage is not a desire?
PS I am SOOOOO mad at Brad and Angelina for getting engaged! They were my "go to" couple for being happily un-married.
As I approach 35, I am coming to realize that my long term ambitions no longer include a ring and "til death do us part". I have had so many women tell me "When the right man comes along, you will change your mind...", and he hasn't come along. I find that the older I get, the more OK I am with that.
Some of it may have to do with the fact that I am divorced, but even when I was married, I did it because I thought that was expected of me. I was completely miserable during the entire marriage.
Don't get me wrong. I am not a bitter, man-hating woman. It's just that the longer I stay single, the more comfortable I become with myself and the more set in my ways I become. I even get a little antsy when thinking about a "committed" relationship if it involves co-habitation.
I like my space, I like doing things my own way, I like my freedom. I always felt marriage was "confining" in some way.
Besides, most of the married people I know don't necessarily want to be married anymore. They want to save face with the church or stay together for the kids or they need the financial stability of a dual income house.
Me? I am thankfully financially stable on my own and don't feel validated by the presence of another person in my life. I have truly found that place where I am content "doing me" and wouldn't feel the least bit slighted if it ended up being "just me" for good. I have a wonderful support system of great friends that fulfill me, and I don't feel like being single leaves a particular void in my life...
Am I an oddball here or do other women echo the sentiment that marriage is not a desire?
PS I am SOOOOO mad at Brad and Angelina for getting engaged! They were my "go to" couple for being happily un-married.