Lovely!
Do you realize what that thing costs, young lady?!!!!!!
Not sure actually. Arcadian, any idea? Cushion cut natural yellow diamond mounted in platinum with a brilliant cut diamond frame and diamonds mounted in platinum down the shoulders. GIA Certificated diamond. Colour: Fancy Intense Clarity: IF Weights: 4.69ct/0.96ct
I'm guessing almost $100,000.
For just the intense yellow diamond alone is $89,000!
http://www.icestore.com/search/yellow_diamond_detail.asp?ID=2024
Girllllll.....you'll be waiting a few more years for that!
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Lol girl just wait... Last thing you want to do is pressure him into doing it. And your right y'all are young, do you have cars+car payments, student loans, careers?
Me and my bf have been together 8 years tomorrow, have 2 children, live together and all and aren't married. Not because we don't want to, we've had the convo many times but because we are working towards goals and have bills = I paid my 2012 Acadia Denali off but his 2010 cadillac has a few thousand left on it, my schooling is paid for but he still has over 10,000$ to pay... We just got pre approved for a home loan and are working towards that.
Point is don't push for the engagement and marriage because you think that's the next step. Create a solid foundation for you guys to come back to after your honey moon. Our dream is to get married out of the country which will cost $$$... That's what we want so until we can do it the way we want we're going to keep working on our short term goals.
I hate to see people with huge expensive rings and lavish weddings but come home to renting their place, no car or one that's barely working, etc. I'd rather spend my money on more then just a memory
I have to respectfully disagree with this. If you are looking for a partnership in marriage, no need to individually do as much as you can then save enough for a dream wedding. If you have children with a man and he is not your spouse, if something tragic happens to him and he dies, you wont even have a say in how his funeral goes down. I know that's a morbid example but there are way more benefits to marriage than financial status and having cars paid off. This situation may have worked for you but in a bigger picture that's not the most ideal situation.
Browndilocks I understand where you are coming from but like the op we met when we were young, I was 17 he was 18 and we dated all throughout college and had our daughter who just turned 3 in our last year of school. We've really only been in "The real world" together for a couple of years, I'm 26. My situation isn't ideal but the op's isn't either, IMO, were ahead of the game as far as knowing each other, living together, going to school, etc... I was saying it because the op doesn't even live in the same city as her bf but is hoping for engagement. I feel instead of her worrying about "The Ring" she should be focused on the short term goals like living in the same city, paying down student loans/ car payments, get some sort of foundation under their feet as one, a unit, before worrying about marriage. And going to the courthouse is cool for some just to have the paper but it's not what we want, I'm very blessed that I am very close with his immediate family and in the case that something were to happen and they flipped on me he works for the state, has life insurance where I am the primary beneficiary, our children are secondary and both of our names are on both vehicles and every bill we have. Right now we're saving for the wedding we want in the future but still a unit.
FoxxyLocs I am 100% with you on the kids, OP most definitely wait a few years until after your married for the babies, that just happened to be the situation we found ourselves in and did what we thought was best. I do however this they should atleast be living together before they get married. They may find that the distance is what kept them together, living with someone, especially when your young can be challenging
Don't just keep waiting. Ask him where he sees the relationship going and in what timeframe. This is why I think women should keep more than one man around to have more options.
Hmmm. I would be pissed to find out he has other options so I'll never do that to him. I don't want anyone else. I want him.
Browndilocks I understand where you are coming from but like the op we met when we were young, I was 17 he was 18 and we dated all throughout college and had our daughter who just turned 3 in our last year of school. We've really only been in "The real world" together for a couple of years, I'm 26. My situation isn't ideal but the op's isn't either, IMO, were ahead of the game as far as knowing each other, living together, going to school, etc... I was saying it because the op doesn't even live in the same city as her bf but is hoping for engagement. I feel instead of her worrying about "The Ring" she should be focused on the short term goals like living in the same city, paying down student loans/ car payments, get some sort of foundation under their feet as one, a unit, before worrying about marriage. And going to the courthouse is cool for some just to have the paper but it's not what we want, I'm very blessed that I am very close with his immediate family and in the case that something were to happen and they flipped on me he works for the state, has life insurance where I am the primary beneficiary, our children are secondary and both of our names are on both vehicles and every bill we have. Right now we're saving for the wedding we want in the future but still a unit. FoxxyLocs I am 100% with you on the kids, OP most definitely wait a few years until after your married for the babies, that just happened to be the situation we found ourselves in and did what we thought was best. I do however this they should atleast be living together before they get married. They may find that the distance is what kept them together, living with someone, especially when your young can be challenging