Natasha009
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I have a friend who is in a long distance relationship. She's in one of the services, and met her bf in Europe, but for obvious reasons she travels around. They are committed to making it work and have talked marriage.
They seem really happy and trust has never been an issue (she's a good friend and tells me EVERYTHING, so she would have told me any bad stuff).
His best female friend has just gotten back from South America where she was for over a year (we'll call her J), and they hung out this week. He dated J when they were like 15- 17ish (and they had a WILD sexual relationship), he thought she was his first love, until she broke up with him. He says it was just childhood love not real love like he feels for my friend, and that he considers my friend his first love. Anyway, his best girl friend J has been dating his best guy friend (B) for the past 3 yrs (they lived together too) but they broke up over the summer. My friend has had a problem with the way he describes J, always putting her on a pedestal like she's perfect, he only says good stuff and overall she just doesn't feel comfortable with there relationship b/c even though it's years later (there all 25), she's still a girl he had a sexual relationship with.
My friend has never met J or even seen a picture of her. So she was like "take a pic monday when u hang out and send me a pic of her so I can finally see what she looks like". Well when he sent the pic, all heck broke loose
J was in his room sitting on his bed, fully clothed and all, but my friend is like "why is she in your bedroom???" She is beyond mad. He lives in a HUUUGE house, its so big it has 4 sets of steps (yeah, that big) so for them to be hanging out in his room to her is unnaceptable, he has 3 living rooms, including one with a pool table and big giant tv (the obvious choice to hang out in you would think).
They were supposed to come to Greece with me and my fiancee, but she has canceled them going and basically broken up with him. He keeps calling me telling me she's over-reacting, and I do feel bad for him, b/c he is a really nice guy and he really does seem to love her 100%. He says why would he take the pic and send it to her if antything was happening, but she says he was just to dumb to realize. He also says he was just making music (he has a studio set up in the corner of his room) but she's not having it. She feels why would you make music when you haven't seen your friend in a year?
I don't know what to tell them!! I want them to work out, but then I really don't know what to say about the situation to either one of them to help.
They seem really happy and trust has never been an issue (she's a good friend and tells me EVERYTHING, so she would have told me any bad stuff).
His best female friend has just gotten back from South America where she was for over a year (we'll call her J), and they hung out this week. He dated J when they were like 15- 17ish (and they had a WILD sexual relationship), he thought she was his first love, until she broke up with him. He says it was just childhood love not real love like he feels for my friend, and that he considers my friend his first love. Anyway, his best girl friend J has been dating his best guy friend (B) for the past 3 yrs (they lived together too) but they broke up over the summer. My friend has had a problem with the way he describes J, always putting her on a pedestal like she's perfect, he only says good stuff and overall she just doesn't feel comfortable with there relationship b/c even though it's years later (there all 25), she's still a girl he had a sexual relationship with.
My friend has never met J or even seen a picture of her. So she was like "take a pic monday when u hang out and send me a pic of her so I can finally see what she looks like". Well when he sent the pic, all heck broke loose
J was in his room sitting on his bed, fully clothed and all, but my friend is like "why is she in your bedroom???" She is beyond mad. He lives in a HUUUGE house, its so big it has 4 sets of steps (yeah, that big) so for them to be hanging out in his room to her is unnaceptable, he has 3 living rooms, including one with a pool table and big giant tv (the obvious choice to hang out in you would think). They were supposed to come to Greece with me and my fiancee, but she has canceled them going and basically broken up with him. He keeps calling me telling me she's over-reacting, and I do feel bad for him, b/c he is a really nice guy and he really does seem to love her 100%. He says why would he take the pic and send it to her if antything was happening, but she says he was just to dumb to realize. He also says he was just making music (he has a studio set up in the corner of his room) but she's not having it. She feels why would you make music when you haven't seen your friend in a year?
I don't know what to tell them!! I want them to work out, but then I really don't know what to say about the situation to either one of them to help.
sitting on his bed. I personally would have a difficult time being in a relationship with a man who had that cushy a relationship with any woman, not to mention an old flame with whom he'd had a wild sexual history with.
erplexed Ain't nothing in there that another woman needs to see. As someone has previously stated, it's not always about what's going on, but about how something looks. And that looks just plain bad. Why would she need to be in his bedroom? AND on his bed? I wouldn't be surprised if something went down after the photo shoot. 
