HipHopPoetics
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My SO proposed on August 9th. (We were bumming around my apartment, watching all 3 Matrix movies, and right before Neo goes to the Machine City in the last movie, he paused and said "Will you marry me?". Not a typical proposal, but we're weird like that.)
Now, it was no surprise that he was going to propose. We'd talked about getting married for a couple of months now. We even started planning the wedding and set the date (we're kinda backwards).
I picked out my engagement ring about 3 months ago. When he asked, he hadn't bought the ring yet, so after I said yes, he went online and bought it (he hates going to stores). We're such backwards people.
Anywho, because I know jewelry, I pretty much knew what to expect. I'm not the kind of girl who likes big, shiny or ostentatious jewelry, so this ring is PERFECTION for me.
So it arrives at his apartment via UPS. He didn't want to open it, I guess he wanted me to have the thrill of opening the little box, blah blah blah. Well, I was geeked when I got it, and put it on immediately and was a veritable ball of excitement.
But..... He looked disappointed. He knew I loved the ring and that it was the perfect one for me, but he said he thought the diamond would have been bigger (given the price). I told him that he was paying for the name, not the diamond. He says he knows that, and he's glad I'm in love with the ring, but he still wishes that it was bigger.
When I asked why, he said, "Because, when other dudes approach you, I want them to see that ring a mile off and be like, 'Dang, I can't do that for her', and then they'll leave you alone. Plus, I know I can afford something more expensive."
I told him that was ridiculous for 2 reasons. First, I love this ring, and I don't like big flashy stuff, so it's perfect for me, and I'm thrilled that he got me exactly what I wanted.
Second, I'd rather he take the additional money he had been expecting to spend, and buy me a good refrigerator or washer and dryer. I don't need bling, but I need clean clothes and a refrigerator that can store party platters.
He said he appreciates my frugality, but it's a "man thing". What does that mean??
FYI, here's a pic of the ring.
Now, it was no surprise that he was going to propose. We'd talked about getting married for a couple of months now. We even started planning the wedding and set the date (we're kinda backwards).
I picked out my engagement ring about 3 months ago. When he asked, he hadn't bought the ring yet, so after I said yes, he went online and bought it (he hates going to stores). We're such backwards people.
Anywho, because I know jewelry, I pretty much knew what to expect. I'm not the kind of girl who likes big, shiny or ostentatious jewelry, so this ring is PERFECTION for me.
So it arrives at his apartment via UPS. He didn't want to open it, I guess he wanted me to have the thrill of opening the little box, blah blah blah. Well, I was geeked when I got it, and put it on immediately and was a veritable ball of excitement.
But..... He looked disappointed. He knew I loved the ring and that it was the perfect one for me, but he said he thought the diamond would have been bigger (given the price). I told him that he was paying for the name, not the diamond. He says he knows that, and he's glad I'm in love with the ring, but he still wishes that it was bigger.
When I asked why, he said, "Because, when other dudes approach you, I want them to see that ring a mile off and be like, 'Dang, I can't do that for her', and then they'll leave you alone. Plus, I know I can afford something more expensive."
I told him that was ridiculous for 2 reasons. First, I love this ring, and I don't like big flashy stuff, so it's perfect for me, and I'm thrilled that he got me exactly what I wanted.
Second, I'd rather he take the additional money he had been expecting to spend, and buy me a good refrigerator or washer and dryer. I don't need bling, but I need clean clothes and a refrigerator that can store party platters.
He said he appreciates my frugality, but it's a "man thing". What does that mean??
FYI, here's a pic of the ring.
Appreciate it. 
. Yea!!! Second, it's a male ego thing. He'll come to grips with your choice.
Bring it on....we need to see.
