TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
...so I had another GREAT conversation with my crew over the weekend and thought I would post here to get more input.
As a woman who went through some credit challenges in my younger years as a result of a lay off and living off credit cards until things turned around, I vowed NEVER to be in the paycheck-to-paycheck pool again and did the work to make that happen.
Though very comfortable salary wise, I live well below my means and have learned to be disciplined enough to use credit as a TOOL rather than a CRUTCH. Though not completely debt free yet, I have an ample emergency fund and pay cash for as much as I can.
Honestly, I would want to "mate up" with someone that shares these financial values... which most likely has contributed to my "singlehood" (though I'm good where I am. I would rather wait for the right person than settle for the wrong one).
I'm the type of chick that doesn't get excited when I see a guy pull up in a nice car or wearing an expensive suit. In the back of my mind I'm thinking "Can he really afford that lifestyle". I'm of the school of thought that a brother with a Honda and low debt could get my number WAY before someone with a Benz that is a paycheck away from bankruptcy. Sometimes a high salary doesn't equate to high equity. Sadly, the norm in African American culture is to spend frivolously on depreciating assets and not think about the future until it's too late.
Of course, I was crucified by my female counterparts (who have less-than-stellar credit themselves) who think that the good salary is enough when choosing a potential partner.
So... what say you? Would you date or get involved with someone who isn't financially responsible?
As a woman who went through some credit challenges in my younger years as a result of a lay off and living off credit cards until things turned around, I vowed NEVER to be in the paycheck-to-paycheck pool again and did the work to make that happen.
Though very comfortable salary wise, I live well below my means and have learned to be disciplined enough to use credit as a TOOL rather than a CRUTCH. Though not completely debt free yet, I have an ample emergency fund and pay cash for as much as I can.
Honestly, I would want to "mate up" with someone that shares these financial values... which most likely has contributed to my "singlehood" (though I'm good where I am. I would rather wait for the right person than settle for the wrong one).
I'm the type of chick that doesn't get excited when I see a guy pull up in a nice car or wearing an expensive suit. In the back of my mind I'm thinking "Can he really afford that lifestyle". I'm of the school of thought that a brother with a Honda and low debt could get my number WAY before someone with a Benz that is a paycheck away from bankruptcy. Sometimes a high salary doesn't equate to high equity. Sadly, the norm in African American culture is to spend frivolously on depreciating assets and not think about the future until it's too late.
Of course, I was crucified by my female counterparts (who have less-than-stellar credit themselves) who think that the good salary is enough when choosing a potential partner.
So... what say you? Would you date or get involved with someone who isn't financially responsible?