Everything Zen
Well-Known Member
I might have already caused a mess.
We were friendly flirty associates for over a year before dating. First date he talks about our second child over dinner- I lost my appetite. We've been together 9 months. I hate bringing anyone home that isn't gonna stick around becasue I'm super picky and because you know how family can latch on to a guy like vultures even long after you're not together. He meets all of my criteria and goes above and beyond what I ever expected.
1. Is okay with no sex until I'm ready (married). I'm a reluctant virgin with a painful past and he understands and has walked me through a lot of bumps along the way. This man held my hand through my first gyno exam. (very traumatic)
2. Supports my goals in life. He understands that there are so many things that I want to do before settling down and having a family. He is even okay with adoption if I wanted to go that route.
3. Charming thoughtful and more loving than anyone I've ever met.
To the point of being annoying sometimes! He cooks, begs to rub my feet, helps with my hair... I don't always feel like going along with his playful googley (sp?) banter. What do you want MAN!!!
4. Met the family and they adore me. He's white so I consider that clutch. Mom is letting us stay at her condo for a week while she's out of town next month.
5. Our time together has been very much like the courtship thread. Every action has basically been about our future together. No ambiguity. We've started looking at houses, joint savings accounts, he's talked about the ring... I'm so surprised I never thought I would ever be in a situation like this so fast- if ever!!!
Okay so how do I bring someone home like that now? Any advice ladies?
Thanks in advance...
We were friendly flirty associates for over a year before dating. First date he talks about our second child over dinner- I lost my appetite. We've been together 9 months. I hate bringing anyone home that isn't gonna stick around becasue I'm super picky and because you know how family can latch on to a guy like vultures even long after you're not together. He meets all of my criteria and goes above and beyond what I ever expected.
1. Is okay with no sex until I'm ready (married). I'm a reluctant virgin with a painful past and he understands and has walked me through a lot of bumps along the way. This man held my hand through my first gyno exam. (very traumatic)
2. Supports my goals in life. He understands that there are so many things that I want to do before settling down and having a family. He is even okay with adoption if I wanted to go that route.
3. Charming thoughtful and more loving than anyone I've ever met.
To the point of being annoying sometimes! He cooks, begs to rub my feet, helps with my hair... I don't always feel like going along with his playful googley (sp?) banter. What do you want MAN!!!
4. Met the family and they adore me. He's white so I consider that clutch. Mom is letting us stay at her condo for a week while she's out of town next month.
5. Our time together has been very much like the courtship thread. Every action has basically been about our future together. No ambiguity. We've started looking at houses, joint savings accounts, he's talked about the ring... I'm so surprised I never thought I would ever be in a situation like this so fast- if ever!!!
Okay so how do I bring someone home like that now? Any advice ladies?
Thanks in advance...