INTIMIDATED BY MARRIED FRIENDS??

[Choclatcotton]

Any single ladies in particular feel intimidated by married friends? I have quite a few married friends at my age, "with my foot in the door of 40", and when I go visiting I keep in mind to make sure its before the husband gets home. Then when I am introduced to a couple I always shake the ladies hand first out of respect. WHen I speak to the couple I always give more eye contact to the wife. There are some singles my age but there sometimes seems to be and undercurrent of competition and uptightness.
My married friends are so like family to me, but I dont over stay my welcome. I babysit when needed and mind my own bidness. I just feel a bit intimidated in their presence like they are in an exclusive club.

 

[Te'TahHead]

I think the things you do are ways of showing respect for those women and their marriages.

 

[Makenzie]

I do similar things as you but wouldn't call it intimidation. I think it's just respect for the woman. If I am friends with BOTH spouses I definitely feel more comfortable in their presence. If I am friends with just the husband, I try and befriend the wife because I know how I would feel if that were my situation.

 

[LivingDoll]

Intimidated? No. Respectful? Yes.
I do similar things...I actually find that married women my age sometimes give me the stank face or don't speak (i.e., other moms at daycare, etc). I don't know what that's about. There's this one that NEVER speaks when she sees me on the subway train but when we get to the daycare she kinda mumbles hello under her breath. She doesn't speak at all when her husband is around. He's really friendly though. Every year she invites my DD to her son's birthday party. I didn't take her this year. If you can't speak to me, you're not getting a gift outta me.

 

[FluffyRed]

Intimidated? No. Respectful? Yes.
I do similar things...I actually find that married women my age sometimes give me the stank face or don't speak (i.e., other moms at daycare, etc). I don't know what that's about. There's this one that NEVER speaks when she sees me on the subway train but when we get to the daycare she kinda mumbles hello under her breath. She doesn't speak at all when her husband is around. He's really friendly though. Every year she invites my DD to her son's birthday party. I didn't take her this year. If you can't speak to me, you're not getting a gift outta me.

Her man might have a crush. I have a cousin, when she got married, she must have asked him who he thought was attractive. He said, I think your cousin is really pretty. My cousin told me this like she was accusing me of something. ( I had only met dude ONCE) I have never been comfortable around them since.

Mind you, she was the cute one growing up. Long thick hair and dimples. Now she just refuses to do any maintenance. It ain't my fault.

I'm only jumping in here to say, never feel intimidated by someone because they're married. They might be wishing they were single. You never know what kind of hell they are going through.

I got married because I succumbed to social pressure. Folks can have some horrible marriages. Some are great, as well. But the designation of "married" on its own is not something to be intimidated by.

 

[LivingDoll]

Her man might have a crush. I have a cousin, when she got married, she must have asked him who he thought was attractive. He said, I think your cousin is really pretty. My cousin told me this like she was accusing me of something. ( I had only met dude ONCE) I have never been comfortable around them since.

Mind you, she was the cute one growing up. Long thick hair and dimples. Now she just refuses to do any maintenance. It ain't my fault.

Maybe you're right...like you said, it ain't my fault...she shouldn't be rude to me.

 

[NappturalWomyn]

I am not intimidated by my married friends, or engaged friends. I am happy for them, completely. It just isn't my time yet, but that gives me no right to hate or be shrinked by their marriage. I am looking forward to it when it is my turn, but I am also content with my single status right now.