I'm So Tired Of Fake Hair

[Rocky91]

I say this sitting here with a sew-in and signed up for a weave challenge
yes yes I know, pot kettle black.

But for real tho I'm at an event and I think I can count on one hand the number of black women wearing our own hair. I think we've jumped the shark at this point. I honestly miss the days sometimes when we would have those basic wraps.

I can't just put it on all protective styling at this point. /rant over

 

[Evolving78]

I say this sitting here with a sew-in and signed up for a weave challenge
yes yes I know, pot kettle black.

But for real tho I'm at an event and I think I can count on one hand the number of black women wearing our own hair. I think we've jumped the shark at this point. I honestly miss the days sometimes when we would have those basic wraps.

I can't just put it on all protective styling at this point. /rant over

That's all I see. It's a crutch. Put on this drag makeup, wear gaudy lashes, sew in a pound of weave, etc.. nothing natural looking anymore. I believe drag culture has completely taken over.

 

[quirkydimples]

I came to the hair forum because I was contemplating buying a wig...as a crutch...because I'm lazy.

No, but for real...I start a new job in a couple of months and am picking up on running first thing in the morning, so...does it count if the wig looks like my hair (neck length bob)?

 

[Country gal]

Me too. I have a sewN in. I have gotten so dependent on my weave. I want my hair to thrive again.

 

[Napp]

i agree. As much as I like crochet braids i hate seeing women with like 8 pounds of havana twists. I say this in the same breath as i plan on putting in a tapered twa crochet braids next week.

 

[miss stress]

Weave in general doesn't bother me. I just often wonder why people get it in unrealistic lengths and textures. I long for the days when weave wasn't so obvious.

 

[Black Ambrosia]

I'm wearing a sew in myself but I've been contemplating going back to my own hair. I see most of us wearing weaves. Sadly they don't usually look that great. I sat behind a teenager in church this morning and literally saw three of her tracks. I thought to point it out but knew it would be seen as shade.

Anyway, it started as protective styling for me but I've gotten lazy. Summer heat, workouts, and the general ease of lower maintenance hair has lured me in. I'm still searching for hair I really like. It's been hit and miss so far. I might go back to crochet braids but I really think I'm allergic to the kanekelon used to braid the hair down. When I get crochet braids my scalp itches something fierce for a week and then it's all good. I think it's the hair because it stops itching once I have enough new growth where the braids aren't sitting directly on my scalp.

But back to this weave epidemic... I don't know what to say. Since I'm in a glass house, I won't cast any stones.

 

[Rocky91]

i agree. As much as I like crochet braids i hate seeing women with like 8 pounds of havana twists. I say this in the same breath as i plan on putting in a tapered twa crochet braids next week.

Girl.
Those too bulky crochets kill me! They look kinda silly to my eye.

 

[vevster]

I say this sitting here with a sew-in and signed up for a weave challenge
yes yes I know, pot kettle black.

But for real tho I'm at an event and I think I can count on one hand the number of black women wearing our own hair. I think we've jumped the shark at this point. I honestly miss the days sometimes when we would have those basic wraps.

I can't just put it on all protective styling at this point. /rant over

I hate seeing all these wigs...... also.....

 

[Colocha]

I'm used to seeing them, I just wish people would blend them better. I thought the point was for it to look like your own hair.

 

[LdyKamz]

Funny I joined this forum all those years ago because I didn't want to wear weave for the rest of my life. Lol I'm natural now and I don't see weave that much anymore. A lot of women in my area are natural and wearing their own hair too. I have to travel maybe to Midtown for a night out to see more weaves and wigs. And even then most of them actually look really good, expensive and professionally done.

Oh wait my subway ride in the morning when I catch the connecting train I see a lot of bad lace fronts with weird parts. But they're coming from a different part of Brooklyn.

 

[quirkydimples]

I really think I'm allergic to the kanekelon used to braid the hair down. When I get crochet braids my scalp itches something fierce for a week and then it's all good. I think it's the hair because it stops itching once I have enough new growth where the braids aren't sitting directly on my scalp.

The same thing happens to me which is why the longest I've been able to wear crochets is two weeks. I never thought about possibly being allergic to the hair...

 

[Black Ambrosia]

The same thing happens to me which is why the longest I've been able to wear crochets is two weeks. I never thought about possibly being allergic to the hair...

I honestly thought the braids were too tight or it was too much manipulation on my scalp. It wasn't until my sister mentioned it that it started to make sense. She complained to her stylist and he told her that some women are allergic to the chemicals used to treat kanekelon. I found a link that suggests soaking the hair in ACV and water and then rinsing to remove the chemical. I haven't tried this yet but I'm sure I will at some point.

The Synthetic Hair Nightmare! What You Need you Know

 

[Rastafarai]

Weave in general doesn't bother me. I just often wonder why people get it in unrealistic lengths and textures. I long for the days when weave wasn't so obvious.

This.

I'm a natural head with enough length to wear my own hair, but as I'm starting a new job soon there is no way I would be able to reach my length and healthy hair goals and look the part for corporate America. I plan to get a customized wig that looks realistic.

Something like this:



I know I will have to pay a decent some for a custom look, but wigs, like weaves, are just versatile and easy to slap on or maintain to get that quickly polished look. Not everyone has time in the day to meticulously handle and style their hair to look presentable.

I chose wig over weave because I need daily access to my scalp and weaves drive me mad with the itching.

 

[Rocky91]

Weave in general doesn't bother me. I just often wonder why people get it in unrealistic lengths and textures. I long for the days when weave wasn't so obvious.

This. The high school students I teach do minimum 22 in and never a texture that blends well.
Even yaki from the BSS used to blend more than some of this exotic Malaysian hair.

 

[quirkydimples]

This.

I'm a natural head with enough length to wear my own hair, but as I'm starting a new job soon there is no way I would be able to reach my length and healthy hair goals and look the part for corporate America. I plan to get a customized wig that looks realistic.

Something like this:

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I know I will have to pay a decent some for a custom look, but wigs, like weaves, are just versatile and easy to slap on or maintain to get that quickly polished look. Not everyone has time in the day to meticulously handle and style their hair to look presentable.

I chose wig over weave because I need daily access to my scalp and weaves drive me mad with the itching.

I'm relaxed, but this is my plan too and those are my reasons for wig over weave.

 

[Evolving78]

This.

I'm a natural head with enough length to wear my own hair, but as I'm starting a new job soon there is no way I would be able to reach my length and healthy hair goals and look the part for corporate America. I plan to get a customized wig that looks realistic.

Something like this:

View attachment 401583

I know I will have to pay a decent some for a custom look, but wigs, like weaves, are just versatile and easy to slap on or maintain to get that quickly polished look. Not everyone has time in the day to meticulously handle and style their hair to look presentable.

I chose wig over weave because I need daily access to my scalp and weaves drive me mad with the itching.

Is this what it's coming down to for black women? We have to rely on wigs and weaves to look presentable? A lot of us, including myself have had to grab a wig, for that very reason. We gotta rely on weave to work out, we gotta rely on weave to look decent for work, we don't have time to deal with our own hair..

 

[Nightingale]

I often wear a wig when meeting clients or going into the office. I don't believe I need to wear a wig but since I'm in the middle of a grow out process and working out regularly, my hair is not neat and perfect at all times ("neat and perfect" meaning styled in wash and go or braidout).Usually its plaited and fuzzy at the roots. Slapping on a wig, is easier for me at the moment and allows me freedom from styling. Once I reach my goal length, I don't see myself wigging it as often.

 

[cocosweet]

I can't talk too harshly about store bought hair. I cut my hair over a year ago and kind of wish I hadn't. Anyway, I'm installing twist extensions. I plan on using extensions etc. to grow my hair out. It will probably be a year and a half before I start wearing my own hair again. I feel like I am seeing more natural hair than ever before, so that's a positive.

 

[PJaye]

It wouldn't be so bad if the wigs and extensions looked decent. The wigs all look like they belong in a Motown Revue, and all of the extensions look the same - center or side part while extending down 92 inches in some drunk curls that are pulled forward over the shoulders. The last time I saw a decent one was on Tasha whatsherface in that Tyler Perry movie. I don't want to appear as if I'm bashing wigs and extensions, but it's just so disheartening to see, especially since I know that there's some fantastic hair being imprisoned under them.

 

[Black Ambrosia]

Since we're talking about hair, what brands and textures are you all buying? I'm a straight haired natural when I'm not donning a PS. I want it to look natural and not have issues with hair tangling. Any suggestions?

 

[Rastafarai]

Since we're talking about hair, what brands and textures are you all buying? I'm a straight haired natural when I'm not donning a PS. I want it to look natural and not have issues with hair tangling. Any suggestions?

I'm still trying to find the perfect brand, but I'm considering Italian Yaki or Kinky Straight textures. I really loved Onyc Kinky Curly and Relaxed Perm when I wore weaves. The texture was very manageable, with no major shedding unlike some other brands I tried (Indique, in particular).

For that reason, I'm considering her Fro-Out texture:

 

[Dayjoy]

I looked around church today and had THE SAME feelings as you, OP. I think I could count on my hands and feet (it's not a small church) the number of ladies with real hair. Even little girls having real hair is a crapshoot these days. Then I started looking at nails too...and eyes...it's like that bit on Fresh Prince when Tisha Campbell started taking off all her fake stuff and had a little pile...

 

[Destiny9109]

This is why I had to renew my subscription here, I started to fall off with my regimen and was relying on fake hair for length. That totally went against why I joined this forum in the first place.

 

[Destiny9109]

I'm used to seeing them, I just wish people would blend them better. I thought the point was for it to look like your own hair.

This is my biggest pet peeve with weaves today. I guess people are going to wear whatever length they want but the texture and cut is most important. I wouldn't question this:

 

[msbettyboop]

The same thing happens to me which is why the longest I've been able to wear crochets is two weeks. I never thought about possibly being allergic to the hair...

It's something about the chemicals used to treat the hair. It used to make my scalp crazy then I started soaking the hair in a solution of vinegar and lukewarm water for 15 mins then rinsing. Solved the problem. If you do it, some white filmy stuff should float to the surface of the water. HTH.

 

[Lucie]

Thanks OP. I have cornrows in at the moment and a few ladies at the salon were surprised I did not add hair.

I'm not a fan of weaves/wigs that are obvious. I like natural looking hair. And for spiritual reasons as well I am not a fan. It seems like this trend is never ending.

 

[MilkChocolateOne]

Girl.
Those too bulky crochets kill me! They look kinda silly to my eye.

ditto and I hate seeing them on children.

 

[lindseyerinc]

I'm still trying to find the perfect brand, but I'm considering Italian Yaki or Kinky Straight textures. I really loved Onyc Kinky Curly and Relaxed Perm when I wore weaves. The texture was very manageable, with no major shedding unlike some other brands I tried (Indique, in particular).

For that reason, I'm considering her Fro-Out texture:

I really enjoyed Fro-Out hair. I thought it looked very natural and it was very versatile, I straightened it maybe once in the 6 weeks I wore it, and did braid outs the rest of the time. The wefts still look like new.

 

[Alta Angel]

It is true. Whether I am at church, school, or out and about, most Black women and girls I see are wearing wig or weave. My 10 year old said that two of her friends did not believe she didn't have "weave" in her twists. My older daughter was approached by a woman in Ulta and asked what type of hair she used for her bun. They have long, 4a/b hair that used to be the norm back in the day.

There is no way I could make it with a wig or a weave in this southern heat. My scalp would literally be a hot mess...