shellzfoshizzle
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My stylists recommends that I get a professional relaxer. Okay, Big Whoop. I permed my own hair in January 2005 with a Dark and Lovely perm and it tootallllllllllly dried my hair out. Which is why it's falling out on the sides and nape. Box perms don't do it for me (because of the No-lye). So I went to my stylist to get a good protein treatment. At that point, conditioner washers, ApHogee, Surging, Hot Oil Treatments, you name, it failed me. However whatever she used to "treat" my hair, it worked. It looked like I just had a fresh perm! She was asking me what products I use when I do my hair and I also told her that it had been 10 weeks since my last relaxer. Which is THE longest I have ever withheld. When I told her that, I could kind of tell by her expression and demeanor she was thinking "why would someone do that!?"
Although I am proud of myself for stretching it (also a big thanks to LHCF ladies for advice), I kind of don't want to get a relaxer JUST YET. I don't even see any newgrowth since she did my hair. I guess cause she rolled it so tightly. I know I have it, it's just not thick, wavy, course, noticable and unmanagable, which is why I want to hold out. I want to give my hair a chance to recover from the damage I did and take a break from chemicals.
Now don't get me wrong, this is the first that I've had in my life that I truely believe gives a damn about my hair. She knows her stuff people, knows how to do any kind of hairstyle you request, is prompt with appointments and I don't be in there all damn day long. I honestly like her. I was reading the other thread...something along the lines of, "why are we intimidated by hair stylists"...and I thought about that. When she told me that I should go ahead and get a relaxer (because the Lye is going to condition my hair and stop it from shedding) I wanted to dial up a LHCF member and tell her what she just told me lol. I told her that since I am in college, I'd fly back home (cause yes she is that good) in two or three weeks and get one. I don't really want to though. I'm a little hesitant. I feel like when I tell her I want to hold off a little more, she will not care as much about my hair since I'm not following her request or think I am being cheap. I don't want to look like an idiot and explain all the things I've learned from LHCF and my reasons for stretchng.
It probably doesn't seem like a big deal to many of you, but we all know that our hair is a big part of who we are cause if it wasn't, we couldn't be on LHCF all day long checking for updates every hour! And when our hair is looking a hot mess, we have a bad day and just want to go run and hide in the corner. So I'm really thinking hard about this should I or should I not get a relaxer ordeal. Yes, it is a big deal to me...
Feel free to leave comments. Thanks!
Although I am proud of myself for stretching it (also a big thanks to LHCF ladies for advice), I kind of don't want to get a relaxer JUST YET. I don't even see any newgrowth since she did my hair. I guess cause she rolled it so tightly. I know I have it, it's just not thick, wavy, course, noticable and unmanagable, which is why I want to hold out. I want to give my hair a chance to recover from the damage I did and take a break from chemicals.
Now don't get me wrong, this is the first that I've had in my life that I truely believe gives a damn about my hair. She knows her stuff people, knows how to do any kind of hairstyle you request, is prompt with appointments and I don't be in there all damn day long. I honestly like her. I was reading the other thread...something along the lines of, "why are we intimidated by hair stylists"...and I thought about that. When she told me that I should go ahead and get a relaxer (because the Lye is going to condition my hair and stop it from shedding) I wanted to dial up a LHCF member and tell her what she just told me lol. I told her that since I am in college, I'd fly back home (cause yes she is that good) in two or three weeks and get one. I don't really want to though. I'm a little hesitant. I feel like when I tell her I want to hold off a little more, she will not care as much about my hair since I'm not following her request or think I am being cheap. I don't want to look like an idiot and explain all the things I've learned from LHCF and my reasons for stretchng.
It probably doesn't seem like a big deal to many of you, but we all know that our hair is a big part of who we are cause if it wasn't, we couldn't be on LHCF all day long checking for updates every hour! And when our hair is looking a hot mess, we have a bad day and just want to go run and hide in the corner. So I'm really thinking hard about this should I or should I not get a relaxer ordeal. Yes, it is a big deal to me...
Feel free to leave comments. Thanks!