If he wants kids I guess I could pop one out...

Plus there are many ways of being a "care giver" without having biological children. Maybe look into mentoring a child. Or tutoring etc. Or just helping out a young person that needs help from time to time. Take in a boarder.

My great aunt had no children but she had a very loving husband and many children in spirit that she cared for in some way over the years. She was nearly 100 when she passed and all of the children she helped along the way (now adults and many with grandkids of their own) were still in her life. She was very fulfilled.
 
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Well, I told him and it did not go well. He tried to negate everything I said. It was so upsetting that I had to tell him I didn't want to talk to him anymore because he was stressing me out. Right after I hung up, I had the overwhelming urge to go to sleep. That's bad. Whenever that happens it means that a mild episode has been triggered. It just proved my point about how bad kids would be for me. If a conversation can cause a small episode what would a baby do??
 
Well, I told him and it did not go well. He tried to negate everything I said. It was so upsetting that I had to tell him I didn't want to talk to him anymore because he was stressing me out. Right after I hung up, I had the overwhelming urge to go to sleep. That's bad. Whenever that happens it means that a mild episode has been triggered. It just proved my point about how bad kids would be for me. If a conversation can cause a small episode what would a baby do??

:bighug:

Looks like it was a good thing to bring up now if his reaction was that strong. Sorry it went badly though. Different wants are different wants. I think he should have respected your opinion at this early stage in the game. What else can you do.
 
Well, I told him and it did not go well. He tried to negate everything I said. It was so upsetting that I had to tell him I didn't want to talk to him anymore because he was stressing me out. Right after I hung up, I had the overwhelming urge to go to sleep. That's bad. Whenever that happens it means that a mild episode has been triggered. It just proved my point about how bad kids would be for me. If a conversation can cause a small episode what would a baby do??

:bighug: I know it was tough but I think you did the right thing for yourself.
 
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