If a guy who is not religious refused to sleep with you, would you think it was odd?

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SincerelyJane

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My friend is dating this guy that won't sleep with her. They've been dating since Dec or so? She initiates everything. He won't even spoon with her and refuses to take his shirt off. She fell asleep on him he got up and left her on the couch and went to bed.

He is very fit with a nice body. He's not religious. He says he is waiting for his soulmate. He is in his 30s.

Would you find it odd?
 
Re: If a guy who is not religious refused to sleep with you, would you think it was o

If he is waiting for his soul mate then it seems like it must not be her. Maybe it is time for her to move on.
 
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He keeps pursuing her though. I don't blame her for being confused. I'm starting to wonder if he has something that's not curable.
 
Re: If a guy who is not religious refused to sleep with you, would you think it was o

i would assume he had an std, to be totally honest.
 
There are too many confusing signs. Why didn't he give her the bed and sleep on the couch? Maybe he doesn't think she is the one but she is still providing the emotional connection he craves at the moment.

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He is a sicko with a porn, stripper, prostitute addiction lol! She need to let gim and gis issues go...
 
Re: If a guy who is not religious refused to sleep with you, would you think it was o

I would think that he wants to use sex to control the relationship.


Not that I advocate jumping in bed with someone etc.
 
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SincerelyJane said:
He keeps pursuing her though. I don't blame her for being confused. I'm starting to wonder if he has something that's not curable.
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Yeah, his excuse is very lame. If he's a guy who is attracted to the person he is with, he'll want to smash.
 
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Really? Maybe he just isn't ready yet. Not all guys want to hit it and quit it.
 
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Maybe he doesn't want to jump into bed with her but his actions are still confusing. If he is waiting for his soulmate and he expressed this to her then I'm confused about the way he is treating her. He left her sleeping on the couch while he got up and went to the bed? Very strange.
 
How is he pursuing but she has to initiate everything? Anyway, she needs to leave him alone. Nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex but she needs to quit chasing him and they aren't on the same page.
 
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RocStar said:
Really? Maybe he just isn't ready yet. Not all guys want to hit it and quit it.
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He won't cuddle though, that seems odd. He left her on the couch and didn't give her the bed.

Have they kissed OP?
 
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I would drop it and take it as a sign to make an exit if that is important to her. Sounds like he may be hiding something, and I don't know that I would stick around to find out what it is.
 
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I'm not religious but I'm choosing to be celibate :look:. I've met dudes with small junk who were still trying to get laid, so I won't think it's that :lachen:. And obviously STDs, curable and otherwise, haven't stopped men and women from having sex and spreading what they got :nono:. Maybe he likes her company, but isn't physically attracted to her. Been there done that, tried to make it work, and it just didn't :ohwell:. Either way, she should stop pursuing him and back off. Obviously, she doesn't do it for him.
 
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bunnycolvin said:
i have a low opinion of men, not of women dearie. sorry that is not your reality :grin: (i wouldnt expect it to be :yep:)
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Umm, so yeah...I don't have a low opinion of men. That is totally my reality.
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You have exposed me for not being a low expectation/opinionator of men. :look:
 
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Keshieshimmer said:
He won't cuddle though, that seems odd. He left her on the couch and didn't give her the bed.

Have they kissed OP?
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I don't know, the whole thing seems a little odd...but maybe he thinks cuddling will lead to sex.
 
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bunnycolvin said:
i have a low opinion of men, not of women dearie. sorry that is not your reality :grin: (i wouldnt expect it to be :yep:)
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You don't have to have a low opinion of men to think that. It's natural for a man to want to have sex with the girl he is with, given he is attracted to her.

The OP's friend's boyfriend is avoiding sex and intimacy but insists on keeping her around. Very fishy and not worth trying to figure out.
 
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RocStar said:
Umm, so yeah...I don't have a low opinion of men. That is totally my reality.
:yep::yep:

You have exposed me for not being a low expectation/opinionator of men. :look:
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i dont have a low opinion of BLACK men either but i do believe ALL men have very strong sexual desires and are usually not shy about expressing them with a women especially one in close proximity to a bed.


...as for ole girl it has to hard to be rejected especially by someone you really like i would leave out of sheer embarrassment
 
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Re: If a guy who is not religious refused to sleep with you, would you think it was o

Has she seen baby pics of him? I would investigate.
 
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I wouldn't think it's odd. I know guys who avoid cuddling or being alone with the women they date because they want to avoid temptation and stay celibate. It's almost sad that people think it's weird for a guy to try being abstinent as an adult :nono:
 
sounbeweavable said:
I wouldn't think it's odd. I know guys who avoid cuddling or being alone with the women they date because they want to avoid temptation and stay celibate. It's almost sad that people think it's weird for a guy to try being abstinent as an adult :nono:
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But why not to tell her he's celibate? His avoiding the issue is what sounds off.
 
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