Ice Breaker: Have you ever saw someone picture album and wanted to laugh?

[angellazette]

I only have a few inmy album and Ima beginner but my hair has been way worse and I refuse to post those pictures,LOL. My hair was very dry and was looking like some pineapple leaves. I put myself out there because I want honest opinions. I dont wanna go around thinking I look cute when Im not. I dont laugh at anyone though. I know I dont always have a good hair day.

That's me also...I mean I look at my photos and go but I leave my comments open for a reason. I did have one person leave an honest opinion, she actually left two but I accidently deleted the photo during a renovation of the album which deleted the comment too. Actually her second was to tell me good luck! I should've "accidently" deleted the first comment...

 

[honeycomb719]

No, I have never laughed at anyone album. I laugh at my own, and sometimes think I'm a bit gutsy to post some of the pics that I have, but thats me. I dont care if someone laughs or dont like what they see. For me journaling my grow out progress through pics is to show and remind myself where I have been and where I want to go, and if by chance my album is an inspiration in the process to someone then that makes it all the better

 

[SandySea]

I agree with most of the ladies' comments. I would never laugh at someone else's hair misfortune or at their choice of style--especially because I have been through so many changes myself. Not everyone here is going to start out with long, thick, luscious hair (in fact most don't); but we're all heading toward our own individual goals. I think that everyone here has something to offer without ridicule from others.

 

[hopeful]

Okay, this thread has been getting on my nerves all day. First of all, no, I have never laughed at anyone's album, ever. Most of the albums showed me the light and gave me hope. Big ups to the lady who started the thread for apologizing after she realized there were some hurt feelings. And big thanks to those who spoke up immediately and said to laughing at albums. This place is my refuge. I hope it stays a sweet place to be. All my life I've come across criticism and meanness. This is one of the few places I've come to where I wasn't the prissy one, the perfect one, the neurotic one trying to figure things out. Most of ya'll are crazy like me, sensitive and yes dangit, sweet. So next time someone bring up something non-LHCFish I'm gonna speak up right away. Good night!

 

[BAILEYSCREAM]

I dont post negative comments. If I like a style, I will definitely say so.

I have seen some hair in some albums that I wanted to suggest a technique or a product...but I remember, if they didn't ask for my advice or help, then it is not my place to give it.

Something to keep in mind though...people have the comment feature open on albums because they want comments. However I dont think that is a liscence to give unsolicited advice or leave rude remarks.

I totally agree and that is why I am always flaming mad when people post in albums under anonymous and leave their rude, tasteless, pathetic comments in people's Fotki accounts and then they are so upset they have to make threads about it. That's annoying!

Also, if people ask for advive I give it. If I see something nice I say so, if not I move right along. I wouldn't want people leaving rude remarks in my ?Fotki if I was trying to share my hair pictures with others to show progress and motivate others.

So.....in answer to the question post in your title....NOPE.

 

[zigzag1]

NO. The only hair pictures I laugh at are the adverts for DR Miracles hair products.

 

[kizzylonghair]

OMG Laughing at other peoples Albums, NO WAY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LHCF is place where we can come and encourage and help each other on their way. NEVER to discourage. If I need people to laugh at what I consider progress then I am finding another Web site.
I posted some progress pictures from Dec- March just to say thank you to the board, and what I got was 7 PAGES OF ENCOURAGEMENT!!!!!!!!!!!.
That’s what I needed, My family and friends have seen the madness I have been doing to my hair and may have not noticed it. But all the ladies who I have never met in my life sure did.
Those kind words will keep me on track to continue and get to my goal.

Bludacious do you have an album you would like to share with the forum.
Because I am sure even if it took you a year to retain 1 inch of growth over 99% of this forum would not offend you.

Kizzy

 

[Blossssom]

I laughed when I saw the title of this thread. You might want to revise it as well

I hate to think what your post said originally! LOL!

 

[Blossssom]

I agree with what DSD said!

OffTopic--- sylver2, your hair looks great in your signature!

I agree. Sylver's hair is beautiful.

God knows I have had my "feere sheere" of bad hair days. Fortunately, now that my hair is long, even on bad hair days my hair still looks good. I don't know how, but it does. It didn't always, though.

I'll never forget 6 years ago when I stopped wearing braids and wore my natural hair to work for the first time in 2-1/2 years... all the stares. I felt like an alien who had just landed. Yikes!

 

[LadyChe]

Wow I really feel dumb. When I first read this post, I thought she was talking about when folks do things on purpose to make you laugh - like include funny captions or shades with the SUPER diva pose.

 

[ElecEngnr]

Wow, everyone is being so...goodytoshoes-ish. I have laughed a couple times, not at the overall health of the person's hair but some of the (IMHO) whacky hair styles. What's cute to me might not be cute to someone else and vice versa.

Your hair can be very healthy and funny looking at the same time.

I'm all for positive encouragement and would never post a nasty comment in someone's album.

I'm the type of person that laughs at everything, I'm very giggly.

 

[hopeful]

Wow, everyone is being so...goodytoshoes-ish. I have laughed a couple times, not at the overall health of the person's hair but some of the (IMHO) whacky hair styles. What's cute to me might not be cute to someone else and vice versa.

Proud member of the goodytoshoes club!

 

[Vintagecoilylocks]

I have not had the nerve to post pictures so when someone else does I say "thats a girl". Most people explain their photos and I feel proud they are sharing a very personal part of themselves with me. The good and the bad. The successes and set backs. When I see the early pictures I sometimes jot down the album and wait to see the great success later. Its sharing and I love it. I just heven't had the courage my self.

 

[brownhaired_bonanza]

Can't say I've ever laughed at someone's pic, nope.

 

[Jewell]

No...I haven't had a reason to laugh at someone who is trying to perfect their hair care, and get healthier/longer hair overall, regardless of the hairstyle. That's like laughing at someone who wants to be in good health, who exercises or takes vitamins. I live by the following: "Whoso mocketh the poor reproacheth his Maker: and he that is glad at calamities shall not be unpunished." Proverbs 17:5. I'm careful at what I say, in regards to what happens/what is going on with other people...it always comes back! Plus, if I don't have anything good to say, I try not to say anything at all.

 

[Avaya]

Sorry your thread was taken the wrong way (it happens sometimes... ok alot of times ).

I don't laugh at anyones photo albums. Not because of any moral or ethical reason (you can't always say nice things, sometimes "mean" things have to be said in order to help somebody out*); I'm usually to busy writing down products and methods to add to my "to try, to buy" list .

If someone looks a mess, which I haven't really seen on the boards, I wouldn't tell them one way or the other (lie and say they look good or critcize them and say they look a mess). I don't think it is fair to tell a person something is good when it is not and a lot of people can't take criticism even when it is constructive (this is me at times). If someone askes me directly, however, then I will tell the truth good or bad and I will try to offer suggestions (you can't just tell someone something is broke without telling them how to fix it).




* Example, I had my hair in box braids, a little past chin length, and the front bit kept fallen in my face so I put the front part in two ponytails on either side. A good friend of mine told me my hair looked like two puppy dog ears and she was right ! I was walking around looking crazy! Then she showed me a better way to keep my braids from falling in my face. Didn't quite appreciate being compared to a pooch but it was for my own good .

 

[HairQueen]

Errr no...

I am not here to laugh at other people I am here to encourage and be encouraged.

I think all the ladies on here are so encouraging and that we support each other.

Anybody who laughs at someone elses pics - I do not understand that. I wonder would they go to a gym and laugh at people in there who are overweight -?? Everybody has to start somewhere we are all here because want healthy hair so obviously most of us did not start with healthy hair when we first posted our pics which is the whole point of this forum in the first place otherwise we would not be here!!!



HQ

 

[BLESSED1]

No, but I've looked at some albums and wanted to cry because their hair was so beautiful (shout out to Kha, Babyblue, Southern Girl)....ok thread hijack is over

 

[xippy]

I'm a new member and in the past two months I've looked at quite a few albums. I have not had any reason to laugh at what I've found. I came to this site for support, encouragement and information. And that's what I get from each and every album that I've viewed.

In fact, I think the women are very brave to put themselves out there for public viewing/comment.

Thank you, ladies.

 

[Enchantmt]

I have been shocked and saddened at damage, and felt sorry for someone, like the woman with the relaxer burns who is suing the relaxer company for example, but its not a humorous situation. I have never felt the urge to laugh at anyones album and I do understand the spirit of your question. Hair care, damage and breakage however is a sensitive topic and so I also understand why people would be offended by the question, especially if they come from a back ground where their hair was riduculed.

I am actually inspired by the women who are brave enough to be honest and say "my hair was jacked up, this is what it looked like, this is my progression, this is where I am now. I got here, YOU can get here too. Here's how." They are a guideline for the rest of us on the journey to healthy hair. If it weren't for women like this there wouldnt be a LHCF. I love this board because the women are for the most part warm, unspiteful, and they want to succeed and help others to also. To be honest, I didnt take pics of my hair during transition because I knew the relaxed part was damaged because of neglect and I didnt want a witness...lol. I'm not normally so vain but I KNEW better and had just let caring for myself and my hair go. Thank God I found this forum and got a wake up call.

You are also right, you never know when someone is posting for actual honest feed back or validation where any suggestion for their hair would be misconstrued so its best to err on the side of caution. The latter type of people will take any kind of comment other than outright praise poorly but I think the majority of women KNOW what condition their hair is and those that want honest feedback normally start a post asking for help with the regime or a particular problem.

 

[katie]

I've never laughed at anyone's pics.Ever.