empressri
Well-Known Member
I was so happy to read this.. I'm really glad you said something, and I loved @Nonie 's response on page 2, or 3..
Why couldn't either of you have been there when one of my mum's friend's rude sister was asking:
"What happened to your hair?"
She went on to say:
"I mean you've always had bad hair since you were a child.."
"Why don't you straighten it like *sister*"?
"Oh so you just wanna keep it natural. You don't want to put a weave in or anything" (said all while smiling!)
Okay, granted my hair was in a bun.. it wasn't smooth or "tight" at all, and my nape wasn't combed through.. there's nothing that irritates me more than the person who feels they just "have" to say something or keep it "real", particularly when you haven't seen them in x or so years, or you didn't ask! She just happened to see me when my hair wasn't "done", not that anything actually 'happened' to my hair.
Anyway, she's heavily pregnant so I couldn't say the first thing that came to mind. Commenting on her visible blackheads (even with foundation on) would have been a bit personal as well. The ONLY plus was that I didn't get defensive or anything. I only really said "how am I supposed to answer that?" while laughing. I said "I'm gonna go to the loo", then left her standing there, and "I like having my (own) hair out"..
I still allowed what she said to irritate me though.. believe me, I was irritated for a good day or two, while she prolly went home w/o a care in the world.
And this is why when someone says something out of pocket, I get into that a$$ right then and there, cause I'll be damned to go home still pissed cause I was mad that I didn't put them in their place.
Oh no. I feel like this- if you're bold enough to come out of your face, then you'd damn well better be able to handle what I throw back, cause I cuts DEEP. I can and will throw all tact out of the window.