PrissandPrim
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Since DH's mother divorced his father (who's now deceased) 10yrs ago and retired she has bounced around living with each of her children. As far as I know she has lived with DH on three separate occasions for extended periods. She is in her 60's, in good health, has her own car and can pretty much take care of herself. Her children have tried to discuss helping her get her own place but she avoids the subject and refuses to share how much money she's receiving from social security.
Currently she is living with one of her daughters and grandchild in a one bedroom apartment. The daughter has recently been talking about moving her boyfriend in and telling DH's mom that she needs to find other living arrangements. Yesterday DH's mother called him complaining about the boyfriend moving in and how they can't all stay in a one bedroom.
DH and I are newlyweds and in the process of buying a new home. I recently found out that I'm pregnant so lately I've been apprehensive about all the big changes happening in our life. We currently also live in a one bedroom but will be moving into a two bedroom house with a small bonus office/room.
I'm pretty certain that his mom will try to move in with us and especially because we have a baby on the way I know that her angle will be to watch the baby. I have considered this being one plus in her living with us but I honestly don't think the trade off is worth it.
I do not hate my mother in law but she has a very strong personality and can be controlling . I can foresee this being a problem with us living under the same roof especially with us trying to get settled into our new life together.
I have brought this up with DH and he agreed that more than likely she will try to do this. At this point in time it seems like DH is on board with not having her move in with us but I know his mom has a way of getting in his head.
Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this? Am I being insensitive? Any advice is appreciated....
Currently she is living with one of her daughters and grandchild in a one bedroom apartment. The daughter has recently been talking about moving her boyfriend in and telling DH's mom that she needs to find other living arrangements. Yesterday DH's mother called him complaining about the boyfriend moving in and how they can't all stay in a one bedroom.
DH and I are newlyweds and in the process of buying a new home. I recently found out that I'm pregnant so lately I've been apprehensive about all the big changes happening in our life. We currently also live in a one bedroom but will be moving into a two bedroom house with a small bonus office/room.
I'm pretty certain that his mom will try to move in with us and especially because we have a baby on the way I know that her angle will be to watch the baby. I have considered this being one plus in her living with us but I honestly don't think the trade off is worth it.
I do not hate my mother in law but she has a very strong personality and can be controlling . I can foresee this being a problem with us living under the same roof especially with us trying to get settled into our new life together.
I have brought this up with DH and he agreed that more than likely she will try to do this. At this point in time it seems like DH is on board with not having her move in with us but I know his mom has a way of getting in his head.
Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this? Am I being insensitive? Any advice is appreciated....