Tenacious
Member
I've enjoyed being on this forum. I've enjoyed all the comments you ladies have made, the inspirations, the help and advice; it has all helped me achieve one of the many things I wanted to do. I just think it's best for me to take all the knowledge I know, use it, and take a break from hair care.
This board proved to me that I am obsessed about my hair and that it's a problem that needs to be addressed. It's one thing to have a hobby or favorite thing to do, it's another when it consumes everything about you. I've wasted money on trying to keep up with regimes, and that's my own fault. I am now throwing all the products and elixirs away and going the basic route. Since we all can agree that less manipulation = more hair, then I think leaving the forum can will allow me to get past the hair drama and it could, in turn, be better for the hair. For me, being here so much isn't exactly healthy.
I'm not leaving in a bitter manner. I understand that this forum was designed partly to help ladies defeat the negative stereotype that women of color cannot grow hair long, and I think that's great. But I feel that I'm doing nothing more than reinforcing another stereotype that all black women care about is our hair.
Sometimes, I just want to "let my hair down", and not being so bent about proving someone wrong. By the time I grow my hair to my waist, that person that stereotyped me will have forgotten what they said and moved on with their life. I realize that I need to move on with mine. I just know that those that judge me do not control me and I can't believe I let my hair care get so far as to make a political/ethical statement. Shame on me.
This obsession about hair I've developed proved what people said/think about me has controled the person I am. Only if I ignored what people said about black women and our hair, I wouldn't be spending so much time and money to try to prove them wrong. I'm not obligated to prove this. If my hair's long, it's long; if it's not, then it's not. I wont cry over it because I'm not the only person on earth that's ever had a split end. I want to give this a rest, stick with the basic stuff I know and step back from trying to find the "secret" to growing long hair. You ladies have already proven this possible for me, so I've realized that I need to chill. So thanks ladies for all your help and support
This board proved to me that I am obsessed about my hair and that it's a problem that needs to be addressed. It's one thing to have a hobby or favorite thing to do, it's another when it consumes everything about you. I've wasted money on trying to keep up with regimes, and that's my own fault. I am now throwing all the products and elixirs away and going the basic route. Since we all can agree that less manipulation = more hair, then I think leaving the forum can will allow me to get past the hair drama and it could, in turn, be better for the hair. For me, being here so much isn't exactly healthy.
I'm not leaving in a bitter manner. I understand that this forum was designed partly to help ladies defeat the negative stereotype that women of color cannot grow hair long, and I think that's great. But I feel that I'm doing nothing more than reinforcing another stereotype that all black women care about is our hair.
Sometimes, I just want to "let my hair down", and not being so bent about proving someone wrong. By the time I grow my hair to my waist, that person that stereotyped me will have forgotten what they said and moved on with their life. I realize that I need to move on with mine. I just know that those that judge me do not control me and I can't believe I let my hair care get so far as to make a political/ethical statement. Shame on me.
This obsession about hair I've developed proved what people said/think about me has controled the person I am. Only if I ignored what people said about black women and our hair, I wouldn't be spending so much time and money to try to prove them wrong. I'm not obligated to prove this. If my hair's long, it's long; if it's not, then it's not. I wont cry over it because I'm not the only person on earth that's ever had a split end. I want to give this a rest, stick with the basic stuff I know and step back from trying to find the "secret" to growing long hair. You ladies have already proven this possible for me, so I've realized that I need to chill. So thanks ladies for all your help and support
I was gone for for years and I came back. Just kidding. Good luck on your journey.
HHG
that was funny.
If you feel like you need a break then do so, but that doesnt mean that you can't be a strong black women with short ( averge length )hair. Some of us to get to caught up on hair care. Taking it too seriously, even bashing oneanother for not agreeing on hair care tips, hair types and pictures!! I was thinking about this today in abnormal psy class I spend too much time on my hair not on my studies, Body, Health etc. Most importantly my relationship with God. I know he much be disappointed that I'm willing to stay on this site for hours on end but not will to study the bible and become a better christian. I hope you find what you need. God bless you Hun *muah*
I can't hear u. No, You cant leave. you're just going through 
.....Im, just messin with ya, lol.
And the ponytail gives me "no worry" hair throughout the day. 
Girlie, I feel you 100%. I have an obsessive personality so I know that I need to direct the energy I put into this into other things. I initially started my hair journey 'cause of my unhealthy hair. But chasing length has taken over. I too plan to take a hiatus from the boards soon to concentrate on some other things. 
