Kinkyhairlady
Well-Known Member
Let me explain....I met a really nice 21 yr old back in 2006 at church. Looks wise and personality wise he was everything I wanted but age wise was a problem since I am five years older. Well time passed we continued to talk for months and I decided I don't want to be with a younger man but then I saw his brothers picture who happens to be my age and I was automatically attracted to what I saw. I straight told him well you are too young I would like to get to know your brother. Well one day his brother called me and introduced himself to me over the phone. Problem here is the brother lives in another country but I continued to talk to him but it got expensive buying calling cards all the time to call so after a few months I backed off but he would call periodically. During that time I dated other men but nothing worked. Fast forward end of 2007 I decided to give the younger brother a real chance and we started dating. He treated me like a queen but I was so pressed on his age I ended up treating him poorly and I hurt him a lot with certain things I would say to him. The relationship lasted like 2 months we broke up in Jan. of this year. Since then the older brother and I have rekindled our friendship and started talking everyday and he has confessed his feeling for me and I have very strong feeling for him as well. Recently the older brother has been granted a visa and is coming to U.S next month and I am freaking out because I have no idea what I am going to do. When I see the younger one at church I still have those feelings in my heart and he told me the other day he is still in love with me. I know all this sounds pretty shady and trust me I am trying to do the right thing but it is so damn hard cause I am attracted to both and they both are interested in being with me but i have to make some sort of decision. I am praying on it currently and maybe I just have to leave both of them alone but it is like leaving my dream men alone and is harder to do. I would also like to add the younger brother and I only kissed it never went further then that. I am asking God for direction in this time but I was curious as to hear if anyone has experienced this and what they ended up doing.