Okay, the situation is: I have a 4 years old son, he is the most handsome, extraordinary child I've exer met, of course I may be partial because I am his mother Anyway, his father basically abandoned us and never tried to even see him. I was only 2 1/2 hours away from him for the first three years of my sons life and the firsttime he saw him was when my son was 7 months old. For some odd reason we are now working together again in the same place where we met before but he is different... Now when I started this job again in January, I had a boyfriend and we were going to try to make it through our being physically seperated but it didnt work, I am not sad about it though, more relieved, he was very controlling and hot tempered. Anyway, he initiated contact via email and I told him since we are here together, he needs to man up and talk to me face to face. He did and he was completely honest with me, I can tell because it was the first time he was completely honest with me so I can tell the difference. He told me things that hurt but it was the truth so it put me at some sort of ease ( I dont know if that makes any type of sense to any of you ladies) Well, the basic scenario is when we worked here previously, he met someone a few weeks before we met and he was trying to be a "player" . He was dating both of us at the same time, I ended up getting pregnant though. Neither one of us wanted the baby but when I went to the abortion clinic, I passed out and the doctor wouldnt let me do it then, after that I decided it was a sign and I kept him, best decision I ever made; anyway I left before him and we were supposed to get married but he changed. I had the baby, and I find out later on that he got married. He told me everything and over the months we got closer than I ever was to anyone. His wife wants a divorce and keeps threatening him with one and he was waiting until he was home to tell her so they can go draw up the papers. She found out about me and now she wont give him a divorce. She has flat out told him some meant nasty things a wife shouldnt tell their husband but now she is acting like everything was fine. There is more to the story but I dont want to bore you ladies and it is a small world so I dont want to hurt or offend anyone. What should I do? He wants to be with me and I want to be with him but the situation seems impossible, i should feel like I am doing wrong but I dont, I know right from wrong and i dont see us as wrong. I have loved this man for the past 5 years and I cant let it go, even when he put us through so much I still loved him. He is the only person I have ever seen myself being with for life...