Ivonnovi
Well-Known Member
First I admit that I have my own, but this post is not about them.
I recently started dating a guy that “seems” to embody all the characteristics that I like and am attracted to. We’ve known each other about 3 years, he’s been divorced for 1.5yrs(he divorced her), and he treats me well so far ….
Well we’ve been talking for about 2 weeks now, and he’s presently at home 8hrs away to attend a funeral. I offered to ride with him as he’s going there for the service and returning immediately. He tells me he doesn’t want drama from the ex-wife, and eventually goes into how he’s considering getting a restraining order against her.
During the above conversation, he relates to me how “if it wasn’t for the kids he would not have to deal with her. She’s told him that she does not want her kids around xyz. If she hears about a relationship, she will do what she can to drive them off, make his life miserable….blah, blah, blah.” & he was wondering how to tell me about this.
My problem: My feelings is that “she” can’t drive me off, but his actions in handling this mess and her can. I’ll wait til he returns before I share this view/concern....
erplexed I see/imagine other red flags with this disclosure, but I’m a rookie at this BS; I’d like to hear from those of you all who have been on both sides of this type of situation.
I know my LHCF sisters will give me the Good , the Bad, and the Ugly; “straight no chaser"
I recently started dating a guy that “seems” to embody all the characteristics that I like and am attracted to. We’ve known each other about 3 years, he’s been divorced for 1.5yrs(he divorced her), and he treats me well so far ….
Well we’ve been talking for about 2 weeks now, and he’s presently at home 8hrs away to attend a funeral. I offered to ride with him as he’s going there for the service and returning immediately. He tells me he doesn’t want drama from the ex-wife, and eventually goes into how he’s considering getting a restraining order against her.
During the above conversation, he relates to me how “if it wasn’t for the kids he would not have to deal with her. She’s told him that she does not want her kids around xyz. If she hears about a relationship, she will do what she can to drive them off, make his life miserable….blah, blah, blah.” & he was wondering how to tell me about this.
My problem: My feelings is that “she” can’t drive me off, but his actions in handling this mess and her can. I’ll wait til he returns before I share this view/concern....
erplexed I see/imagine other red flags with this disclosure, but I’m a rookie at this BS; I’d like to hear from those of you all who have been on both sides of this type of situation.
I know my LHCF sisters will give me the Good , the Bad, and the Ugly; “straight no chaser"
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