I Need A Transitioning Buddy! 6-12 Weeks Post Please!

[Evolving78]

i decided to transition, but I feel so alone! There are ladies that have been transitioning, or long term stretching for months and I can't relate to that! They are on another level! That is some Jedi Knight stuff that I have yet to experience! Anyone just starting out? Need some support? Just need to rant/vent/brag?

I'm 11 weeks post, but my last relaxer didn't take at all. Not even texlax!

 

[Evolving78]

I will just hang out here for awhile!
So I'm having trouble with finding time to style my hair. I want to try some hairstyles that will blend the two textures.

 

[Evolving78]

I'm also having to use thicker and creamier products on my new growth, and different products on my relaxed ends.

 

[Evolving78]

Still waiting!
Going to go workout tomorrow. Guess I will wear my hair in a bun. I will have to tie my roots down though.

 

[Evolving78]

Ok lesson for today is only style on wash day! I flat twisted my hair on the sides and put my hair in a little bun. Parting my new growth was a beast. I did have a bit of breakage.... I won't do that again. Well my hair looks a little better now. I will try this style again. I need some hair clips for my sides, since these bobby pins are snatching my hair out no matter how careful I am.

 

[jerseyhaircare]

Hello. I'm going through a long term transition/stretch. Last perm was the 1st week of October so I'm about 28 weeks post. I'm doing mine because I'm pregnant, plus I don't know what I want to do with my hair. When I get perms, initially my hair looks great but about one year later, it's long but stringy and thin. I would love to try natural hair, but afraid of the extra work so that's why I'm on the fence. I did the same thing during my last pregnancy-10 months without a perm. When I relaxed, hair looked great for about 18 months then post partum shedding wrecked havoc on my locs.

Currently, I wear my hair in buns because there isn't much I can do with it. I'm down to washing/deep conditioning once a week and tying my hair down in the am in order to make it look presentable. Tomorrow, I'm going to get braids which I will keep in till June. Then take out for 2 weeks then braid again (I'm due at the end of June) and will make a decision about my hair by September. I won't be a good buddy because I'm too tired to stress about my hair. However, my long term plan is to find a natural hair salon that will be able to transition me if I decided to continue with this path (I've seen some lovely work with thermal silkening but I have to do more research). Best of luck with your transition!

 

[tiffers]

Just came in here to give you hugs and wish you luck!

 

[Guinan]

Aww, I hope you find a buddy. I used to LOVE the relaxer buddy thread. It was very helpful and fun.

 

[Evolving78]

Hello. I'm going through a long term transition/stretch. Last perm was the 1st week of October so I'm about 28 weeks post. I'm doing mine because I'm pregnant, plus I don't know what I want to do with my hair. When I get perms, initially my hair looks great but about one year later, it's long but stringy and thin. I would love to try natural hair, but afraid of the extra work so that's why I'm on the fence. I did the same thing during my last pregnancy-10 months without a perm. When I relaxed, hair looked great for about 18 months then post partum shedding wrecked havoc on my locs.

Currently, I wear my hair in buns because there isn't much I can do with it. I'm down to washing/deep conditioning once a week and tying my hair down in the am in order to make it look presentable. Tomorrow, I'm going to get braids which I will keep in till June. Then take out for 2 weeks then braid again (I'm due at the end of June) and will make a decision about my hair by September. I won't be a good buddy because I'm too tired to stress about my hair. However, my long term plan is to find a natural hair salon that will be able to transition me if I decided to continue with this path (I've seen some lovely work with thermal silkening but I have to do more research). Best of luck with your transition!

I think the braids will help out a lot! Do you plan to do any major trimming during your pregnancy? I had some serious PP shedding as well. I ended up cutting my BSL hair to neck length! I relaxed during my pregnancy though.

 

[Evolving78]

Another reason I am transitioning is due to not wanting to stretch relaxers anymore, and not being able to go to the salon like I want for touch ups. I never have the time! It's always a hit or miss when I self relax. I love relaxed hair though. I'm not interested too much into wearing my hair loose as a natural. Been there, done that! I would like to straighten it! I'm a sucker for length! I would have to grow 5 years of natural hair to at least have NL-SL shrinkage!

 

[Evolving78]

Thanks ladies for the encouragement and bumping! It's rough out here! Lol

 

[flyygirlll2]

Sorry hun, I did'nt respond since I'm close to 7 months post and I understand you need someone closer to where you are now in terms of weeks post to relate to. The struggle is real though when it comes to stretching. I have not yet committed to transitioning yet, I'm just cruising along lol. Hope you do find someone to buddy with

 

[jerseyhaircare]

I think the braids will help out a lot! Do you plan to do any major trimming during your pregnancy? I had some serious PP shedding as well. I ended up cutting my BSL hair to neck length! I relaxed during my pregnancy though.

No trims during pregnancy but will definitely need one after I straighten it.

 

[Evolving78]

Sorry hun, I did'nt respond since I'm close to 7 months post and I understand you need someone closer to where you are now in terms of weeks post to relate to. The struggle is real though when it comes to stretching. I have not yet committed to transitioning yet, I'm just cruising along lol. Hope you do find someone to buddy with

I wish I could post pics! I saw a member's new growth on a blog and her six months looks like my 3 months! But like I stated before, my last relaxer didn't take! Have you had to change your products, or methods? I thought about growing my hair out, cutting off of the old relaxing ends to start fresh with a new relaxer. But I'm just gonna stick to transitioning right now.

 

[Nightingale]

I'm too far along to be your buddy, but good luck transitioning.

 

[flyygirlll2]

I wish I could post pics! I saw a member's new growth on a blog and her six months looks like my 3 months! But like I stated before, my last relaxer didn't take! Have you had to change your products, or methods? I thought about growing my hair out, cutting off of the old relaxing ends to start fresh with a new relaxer. But I'm just gonna stick to transitioning right now.

@shortdub78 self relaxing has been a miss for me, my hair doesn't straighthen easily anyway. Yeah I've had to switch up products since my new growth is on 100 about now lol. I was wearing two strand twists in the beginning but for now I just wear it in a bun.
Things are not too terrible right now surprisingly. I mean, I still get ssk's here and there with some tangling but nothing that is making me beg for a relaxer. Now I just use a spritz; AVJ/water mixed safflower oil, camellia oil, rice bran oil, and a few drops of Ceramide Complex that I got from Amazon.

So I use that for the most part and I also use BBD Stretch Growth Cream as a leave in for my rollersets since it's supposed to be heat activated. My last wash day I used those in addition to Komaza Coconut Moisturizing spray and Kerastase Oleo Relax serum and blew out my roots on cool after roller setting. That was on Monday and I haven't M&S my hair since then because my hair doesn't feel dry, and that's saying a lot because my hair usually feels like a Brillo pad at this point lol.

 

[Evolving78]

I just gave myself an oil treatment. I plan on washing and deep conditioning today. My hair needs the water! I also dusted my ends again. I think I will buy some new shears soon.

Is there anyone that is transitioning with SL, or shorter?
Anyone transitioning due to some form of alopecia?

 

[Evolving78]

For those who might have had damaged, or overprocessed hair, how is the managing of two textures going?

 

[divachyk]

@shortdub78 anyone in the transitioning without BC thread close to your weeks? It has been beneficial for me to chat with those further along to help me as I hit stretching challenges since they've been there and done that.

 

[Evolving78]

@shortdub78 anyone in the transitioning without BC thread close to your weeks? It has been beneficial for me to chat with those further along to help me as I hit stretching challenges since they've been there and done that.

You would be the closest, I think? Lol folks are just about ready to BC in there! I read that entire thread! Most have also gotten braids or a weave. I can't do anything of those things right now. I thought about getting braids, but I would have to wait for more growth in my problem area.

 

[divachyk]

@shortdub78, I don't mind being your buddy. I think @flyygirlll2 and @Saludable84 are a tad behind me. Please drop me a note whenever you need.

 

[Evolving78]

@shortdub78, I don't mind being your buddy. I think @flyygirlll2 and @Saludable84 are a tad behind me. Please drop me a note whenever you need.

Thank you for looking out! I might straighten today to do a length check. I need to see where I'm at! I got some serious shrinkage going on and my hair looks like a rat's nest when wet! The two textures don't look good together! Lol

 

[Saludable84]

Well hello. I have no idea how many weeks post I am. I think I'm around 27-28 weeks now.

 

[Evolving78]

I'm at the 12 week mark. Tried to flat iron my hair.. Started on it, but had to stop. The sections I finished, roots are starting to revert from sweating at night. Think I'm just wash and DC. I have a shampoo cream that works well for my new growth. I may do a protein treatment first. Just use Aphogee 2 min. I will put my hair in sections and just rock some ceilies, or try bun and twists on the sides style.

 

[Evolving78]

Well hello. I have no idea how many weeks post I am. I think I'm around 27-28 weeks now.

I forgot how you style your hair? Was the 3 month mark easy for you?

 

[Evolving78]

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This is my hair at 11 weeks stretched.

 

[Saludable84]

I forgot how you style your hair? Was the 3 month mark easy for you?

My hair doesn't become a ishtstorm until 20 weeks. I was rollersetting but stop due to DS. These I just blow it enough to stretch it and bun it.

 

[Evolving78]

My hair doesn't become a ishtstorm until 20 weeks. I was rollersetting but stop due to DS. These I just blow it enough to stretch it and bun it.

I have never stretched past 14 weeks. And the first time I did it, it was a breeze. My hair was growing out from a neck length cut. My ends were nice, and my hair was healthy!

 

[Saludable84]

I have never stretched past 14 weeks. And the first time I did it, it was a breeze. My hair was growing out from a neck length cut. My ends were nice, and my hair was healthy!

I'm gonna be your buddy if you don't already have one.

 

[Evolving78]

I'm gonna be your buddy if you don't already have one.

Thank you! I need some support! I know Divachyk got me too!
Do you do protein treatments all over, or do you focus on your relaxed ends?