This thread is hilarious to me. I'm sure it's an AGE Thing. I will be 50 next birthday but growing up, you were considered "COUNTRY", not cosmopolitan if you didn't relax. I would hear so many times...."Girl, you are not going to get anywhere in life....if you don't RELAX your hair." Girls would actually point and giggle about other girls who "needed a relaxer."
This is my perspective.....having natural hair at one time had so much negativity.. the popular girls were "light-skined (red bones) and had "good hair" by means of a relaxer or natural. We've come a long way baby, and Black women are not only redefining what is considered beautiful, but has gained a lot of self-confidence with their natural appearance...curvy physical attributes, full lips, and kinky hair.
I don't think I was ever a catty type person, so when I "suggest" that there are options other than a relaxer, it's because what that person is doing is not working for them by their own admission and I suggest they get to know their "real" texture.
I'm not going to say that I'm always so highbrow, because I think applying a relaxer to anyone under the age of 15 is downright criminal. Plus, I hear so many women saying that they want Hawaiian or Indian silky STRAIGHT hair. Hell, have these people actually taken a look at many of the "non-negroid" races and seen that NOT EVERYONE has STRAIGHT, STRAIGHT HAIR. I would love for these guys to visit Israel and take a look.
I lived in Japan for years, and I was a CELEBRITY because I had kinky-curly hair....something they wanted! This is definitely an age POV thing!