msdeevee
Well-Known Member
I don't know all of your complaints don't sound like deal breakers to me.
I've been married for 20 years and believe me there are a lot worse things that can be happening in a marriage than what you have stated.
Not to belittle your concerns because you have valid points to be concerned about but in reading your posts you say you love him so much and that he loves you. He's not a drunk or druggie. He is not cheating on you. He doesn't abuse you.
Maybe he is emotionally distant which can be very hard to deal with . Is that the case?
You will find as you get older and maybe re-marry that all men have 1 issue or the other some are deal breakers some are not. Your marriage seems like it is worth saving to me just going by what you have said.
I know that you said that you have talked to him but I suggest before you make the move of separating from your DH that you sit down with him and have a serious, serious talk with him and tell him that you are out of there and if he doesn't want you to leave he is going to make some serious commitment to do the things that to you are most lacking. Marriage is so throw away now. You seem like you have an otherwise good man. How will you feel if you leave and he starts dating someone else?
Do you really want to be with someone other than him? Can you picture yourself without your DH? when you think of the future is he there?
As for the sex, it is not the most important thing but intimacy in a marriage strengthens the bond.
Think hard and pray hard before you give up on your marriage.
I've been married for 20 years and believe me there are a lot worse things that can be happening in a marriage than what you have stated.
Not to belittle your concerns because you have valid points to be concerned about but in reading your posts you say you love him so much and that he loves you. He's not a drunk or druggie. He is not cheating on you. He doesn't abuse you.
Maybe he is emotionally distant which can be very hard to deal with . Is that the case?
You will find as you get older and maybe re-marry that all men have 1 issue or the other some are deal breakers some are not. Your marriage seems like it is worth saving to me just going by what you have said.
I know that you said that you have talked to him but I suggest before you make the move of separating from your DH that you sit down with him and have a serious, serious talk with him and tell him that you are out of there and if he doesn't want you to leave he is going to make some serious commitment to do the things that to you are most lacking. Marriage is so throw away now. You seem like you have an otherwise good man. How will you feel if you leave and he starts dating someone else?
Do you really want to be with someone other than him? Can you picture yourself without your DH? when you think of the future is he there?
As for the sex, it is not the most important thing but intimacy in a marriage strengthens the bond.
Think hard and pray hard before you give up on your marriage.