I guess....

[Blue_Berry]

So, I knew this girl for awhile now and assume she doesn't like me at all. (From the facial expressions she been giving me.) She smiles in my face, but then she gives me these mean looks. To get to the point, I have a friend that her friend. At first, both of them two didn't believe my hair can grow and didn't believe black hair can grow. I try to share information with them, but they didn't buy it. (This was at the time I was good with the girl) Now that my hair went from ear length all the way to shoulder length they both want to know how to grow hair. The girl that seem to be pretending seem to acting real secretive from me and I been absorbing it. I don't mind telling my friend, but she may tell the other girl. Should I tell her still about healthy hair care? I thinking about telling her the basics still, because I don't want to be selfish and my friend is real generous person. The only problem I have is a hard time being selfless to people that just seem like that just want to use me. I don't really talk to the other girl that much, but she does talk to me when it seem like she want something from me.

 

[ms.blue]

Just give them basic info about hair health and see how your friend and the other chick respond to it. Some people act like they want to know but don't want to put in the work for healthy hair. If they do respond well, then it is up to you if you want to tell the other chick more info.
Or you could just tell them about this site and let them fend for themselves.

 

[Leesh]

I personally want all us "BW" to achieve lengths not believed to be attainable by Non-Black Women, just a short time ago, There's power in numbers, I want to prove them wrong by all means necessary. But at the same time, you don't want to start a "Friendship" that you don't want, or need for that matter. I personally don't believe in "Frienenemies", it's either your my "Friend" or not, there's no Grey area for me. Cause eventually you will wind up being hurt. That's what it sounds like your in for if you start anything with this girl. Sounds like she has a "Green" streak toward you for whatever reason, which doesn't matter. It's that she showed you her colors early enough in the game to know what you'll be working with. Do share with your Friend-Friend, I'm sure she'll pass the information on.

 

[sweetlaughter]

Tell the friend you trust about the basics and keep it as simple as possible. Like protective styling, scarves for bed, and some vitamins. With vitamins I usually just tell them Biotin, B Complex, and C to keep it simple.

Things like cowashing and no mineral oil or petroleum jelly will have them looking at you cross-eyed at first.

 

[orangepeel]

I don't understand why you would tell them to use Youtube or even link them to the site (or a similar type). Sometimes the best way to deal with people who hate is kill them with kindness and to show them how to be the better person. Life to short to hate haters.

 

[Blue_Berry]

Tell the friend you trust about the basics and keep it as simple as possible. Like protective styling, scarves for bed, and some vitamins. With vitamins I usually just tell them Biotin, B Complex, and C to keep it simple.

Things like cowashing and no mineral oil or petroleum jelly will have them looking at you cross-eyed at first.

Lol, this is true. I told my her this and a lot of other people. They looked at me funny. My friend did listen to me though and she did take in the advice, but I think she thinks her way is better. My other friends just thought that if they don't grease it their scalp it will be dry. I told them about not using a lot of harsh sulfates and use gentler cleansers. They thought it would leave their hair dirty.

 

[Kerryann]

Just direct them to the site its not that serious u just continue being u and growing ur hair

 

[Blue_Berry]

I don't understand why you would tell them to use Youtube or even link them to the site (or a similar type). Sometimes the best way to deal with people who hate is kill them with kindness and to show them how to be the better person. Life to short to hate haters.

I show them the site, youtube, and other hair sites before. That way they didn't believe the stuff was real at first.

I tried being nice to the girl, but it only seems like it get worst and it like she want to take advantage of it.

I just ignore her now. I don't hate nobody and I don't like being hateful, but I don't like being use for anything either. (not only this)

 

[Platinum]

Lol, this is true. I told my her this and a lot of other people. They looked at me funny. My friend did listen to me though and she did take in the advice, but I think she thinks her way is better. My other friends just thought that if they don't grease it their scalp it will be dry. I told them about not using a lot of harsh sulfates and use gentler cleansers. They thought it would leave their hair dirty.

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. You have already given links, what they do with the info is up to them. They don't have to follow your advice if they don't want to. Just do what you don for your hair and let your progress speak for itself.

 

[tropical-punch]

Share the info with your friend. What she does with it is out of your control.

Sent from my HERO200

 

[silenttullip]

I wouldn't worry much about it especially when you're young people will take your kindness for weakness tell them the basics and leave it

 

[loulou7]

I agree with the ladies about not losing any sleep over this issue. If you gave them the link to this site and they weren't convinced by all the beautiful healthy heads here, let them revel in their ignorance.

 

[divachyk]

Share with your friend and let it be. If the pretender asks, provide the basics only. You cannot control what the friend shares with the pretender.

 

[Bublin]

Just provide the very basics because, like another poster said, they will go crossed-eyed after a couple of minutes.

A good friend of mine routinely asks me what i do with my hair, especially when i wear a braid-out. I tell her i spray my hair with water/avj then i moisturise, then seal with oil, then i........she starts to huff and puff and says that's too much work. I await a few weeks to go by when she asks me again.