CaraWalker
Well-Known Member
I dont know how to separate my feelings like that. Hats off to the ladies who do this easily. None of it makes sense to me. Im either in 100% or out 100%. I like relationships....whole ones.
thats a good point. there is certainly a large element of self centeredness inherent in these kinds of relationships. i do it precisely because im in a phase where i dont want to devote myself to a relationship 100%. and on the whole i do generally prefer "half" relationships with almost anyone. my relationship with myself tends to take up most of my time. more often than not i dont have a whole lot to give to someone else when too busy thinking about myself... because when im in a relationship, its too overpowering. i cant do that frequently.
i dont understand whats supposed to be so complicated about this concept though. its the same thing we see with most of the relationships women on this board have. the person who wants the other person is willing to commit to them; the person who doesnt will either not commit or allow just enough to shut them up its exactly the same thing as women chasing a man down hoping for a relationship and he's not giving it up, except the guy is chasing the woman down. the reason why most women agree to it is the availability of sex and limiting her sexual risk factors (which, no matter what kind of bleach has been deliberately consumed in this thread, everyone knows that fewer partners = fewer risk).