What's the benefit to a woman to have multiple sex partners?
anybody wonder why STD's are rampant in our community?
What's the benefit to women or men to have multiple sex partners? People do it anyway
Why? He was being upfront and honest. He didn't string her along. I get that she's hurt but I would value his honesty more than anything. It would be better if both men and women say what they really one and allow the other person to make a conscious decision instead of pretending.
anybody wonder why STD's are rampant in our community?
Every situation I have ever known like this the men always cacth feelings and start acting like it's a relationship more than the women.
The men get crazy.. deranged.. lol
Sex gets Men caught up. Every. Time.
Lord, how did I end up in this thread?!
I've said it before, and I'll say it again, but women aren't particularly wired for this type of "arrangement." You can only do the do with someone so many times before you start to feel connected with them.
Sounds like a waste of time. Why spends time catering sexually to a f**k buddy when you could find someone who really wants to be with you and build something serious.
Keep getting your yearly paps and you're safe I suppose.
I honestly do believe it's totally possible to be successful in that endeavor. Especially depending on your mental state. I mean sure, if you're looking for a husband and being all marriage minded and stuff, then nah this ain't gonna work for you! Lolol.
You're saying it's not a relationship, but I think once you make it exclusive, it IS a relationship. It's just not a traditional one.
To me, what you ladies are looking for is not sex but a relationship where you don't risk getting hurt emotionally. Most women who just want sex just go out and have sex and it's not this complicated.
No, just looking for sex without the responsibility of the relationship. Going out to find someone new to have sex with every time you want to have sex is way too much work. That probably works for a person that is willing to sleep with anyone. I can't even imagine that.
I don't really think I can explain it to people any more than my girlfriend could explain to me why she was so excited to get married. It's just two different worlds.
But it seems you would have responsibilities even in this arrangement. If you decided you didn't want to have sex for a year, that guy is going to end the relationship arrangement. Or if the sex wasn't satisfying to you, I'm sure you'd end it. Just like in any other relationship, if you don't keep the other person happy they are not going to stay in it.
And I am going to have to disagree that it's a lot of work for a woman to get sex whenever you want it if it's clear that's all you want. I am still amazed at how ready guys are for sex. Any sex. I think as women we tend to underestimate their sex drive.
But it seems you would have responsibilities even in this arrangement. If you decided you didn't want to have sex for a year, that guy is going to end the relationship arrangement. Or if the sex wasn't satisfying to you, I'm sure you'd end it. Just like in any other relationship, if you don't keep the other person happy they are not going to stay in it.
And I am going to have to disagree that it's a lot of work for a woman to get sex whenever you want it if it's clear that's all you want. I am still amazed at how ready guys are for sex. Any sex. I think as women we tend to underestimate their sex drive.
You're saying it's not a relationship, but I think once you make it exclusive, it IS a relationship. It's just not a traditional one.
To me, what you ladies are looking for is not sex but a relationship where you don't risk getting hurt emotionally. Most women who just want sex just go out and have sex and it's not this complicated.
No, just looking for sex without the responsibility of the relationship. Going out to find someone new to have sex with every time you want to have sex is way too much work. That probably works for a person that is willing to sleep with anyone. I can't even imagine that.
I don't really think I can explain it to people any more than my girlfriend could explain to me why she was so excited to get married. It's just two different worlds.
But thats just it, in a FWB situation you don't want a relationship, you don't want to build something! All you wanna do is zoom a zoom zoom zoom and a boom boom.
i think this is simultaneously laughable and also kind of pitiful, because it sounds as if you literally cannot imagine it being possible that a woman could and would want to use a man for sex the same way many men use women for sex. not every woman is constantly at risk of "getting hurt emotionally" with EVERY SINGLE DUDE she deals with, are you serious? you can like a guy in a lot of ways, or very few ways, and know firmly that your feelings for him are going to be completely limited. there is no reason for a woman to form an emotional attachment to every man she meets, dates, or sleeps with, and i think its sad that so many of the responses in this thread talk as if this is not possible. it demonstrates a very low opinion of women and their emotional intelligence.
additionally, no offense, but you clearly don't know anything about having sex casually, like, at all. because it is a WHOLE lot of work. not in the sense of "it's hard to get a man to sleep with me" in any way. but you have to get up and get dressed and go out, which is a huge effort in itself. finding and actually picking up a good conquest at a bar? girl please. and even if you decide to just find someone online you still have to pull yourself together to meet him in addition to having to go through the same process of choosing a guy that's not a waste of time. and with online, say you pick a guy, there is a very real possibility that he's not even going to look like his photos and an even bigger possibility that his equipment and skill with it is not going to match up to your expectations.
there is a very specific place you have to be mentally in order to enjoy sex under these circumstances. say you just met some guy at the bar and youre gonna go home with him. it's awkward, and there is no guarantee you're gonna get what you want. say what you really want is a guy to go down on you, then hold you down while he pounds away at you. what's your strategy for making sure you've found a complete random who's gonna do that, and do it right? and you know what, having to talk to this random person about "do this and do that" is a hassle and takes you out of the moment and makes things awkward and unenjoyable. that's assuming you're even in the mood to be assertive in the first place. there is so much more from even WANTING to have sex under these circumstance to actually enjoying it and having it worthwhile than "go out and have sex, it's not complicated." that's completely laughable. have you ever even done that before? you must just be talking about finding a pole to fit the hole - again, demonstrating very low opinions of women.
which is fine for you, whatever, get down how you live, it ain't affecting me none. but your opinions on this subject do not sound based in actual experience at all.
point blank, what's going on in this thread is symptomatic of a larger need for certain kinds of women to dictate what is an acceptable relationship. or, tbh, more accurately, the need to "hate" on any relationship with a man that seems successful if it is not something the person in question would do. you would also see this in sugar baby relationships, may december relationships, and of course with this forum specifically, interracial relationships. people do not like hearing about the idea of a fwb relationship working because then it would mean other women are capable of doing something that they cannot do, and they want to frame it negatively so that relationships exist on a plane they are comfortable with. some women here really do not seem comfortable with the idea that a man can like and choose a woman in many other circumstances than whatever the current party line is (see also fat women with attractive men). it is more comfortable to believe there are certain things a woman needs to do to get a man, because it's not fun to think some women can have whatever man they want in any way they want him.
However, unlike men, women don't have to beg for sex.