I have a friend going through it right now. She's been putting on a brave face since she and her SO parted ways in August. We're in contact daily but she keeps her relationship highs and lows close to the vest. The breakup occurred when another friend of all of ours(closer to me but knows my friend and my friend's SO) told me that the SO was trying to holla at her big time. He was requesting nude pics, wanting to naked facetime etc, constantly making sexual references. She said she had to tell him to knock it off because it was making her uncomfortable. She resides in another state and wasn't aware that the SO was dating my other friend for the past couple of years. I told her and let her know that I felt like our friend needed to know what the SO was saying to her. She gave her blessings and I shared it with our other friend. Understandably, our friend was upset and confronted dude, who ended up ghosting. He continued to contact the out of state friend, apologizing to her for making her feel uncomfortable but kinda played my friend that he was dating like take it or leave it.
Fast forward to yesterday, my in town friend calls me from outside of homeboy's apt, drunk, and tells me that she went in and broke all of his dishes while he wasn't home. He lives an hour and some change from us and she said it was her plan to drop in on him. I had no idea she was in such turmoil. When we would talk about him she wouldn't hesitate to say, "Oh, I'm good. That's a wrap. I'm done." Even though she would say that, she was posting stuff on social media that indicated otherwise. But, in our conversations she played it like was nothing. How should I comfort her from here? How would you want to be comforted, if at all, during this time?
Fast forward to yesterday, my in town friend calls me from outside of homeboy's apt, drunk, and tells me that she went in and broke all of his dishes while he wasn't home. He lives an hour and some change from us and she said it was her plan to drop in on him. I had no idea she was in such turmoil. When we would talk about him she wouldn't hesitate to say, "Oh, I'm good. That's a wrap. I'm done." Even though she would say that, she was posting stuff on social media that indicated otherwise. But, in our conversations she played it like was nothing. How should I comfort her from here? How would you want to be comforted, if at all, during this time?