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How soon do you let a guy know where you stand as far as sex is concerned?
If you're the kind of woman who has to wait until she's in a relationship to be sexually intimate with a guy, do you tell him that from the get go, or do you just fend off his advances until you're ready to give in?
I recently communicated to a guy that I wanted to wait until I was in a relationship with him before I had sexual contact with him because kissing. I tried (although I don't know how effectively) to let him know that I wasn't attempting to use sex as a bargaining chip - no hurry on my end to get a guy to commit. But just that that's where I stand with things. I kinda feel like I was bumbling in the communication department - he's the first guy that I've gone out with since I went off of my self imposed dating hiatus, and I am honestly quite new at being so forward in setting sexual boundaries. So my fear is that I might have come off as really wanting to clamp down on him in the relationship department (which isn't the case...I love spending time with him, but there are still some significant questions as to whether or not he's a good match for me that can only be resolved with time).
If you're the kind of woman who has to wait until she's in a relationship to be sexually intimate with a guy, do you tell him that from the get go, or do you just fend off his advances until you're ready to give in?
I recently communicated to a guy that I wanted to wait until I was in a relationship with him before I had sexual contact with him because kissing. I tried (although I don't know how effectively) to let him know that I wasn't attempting to use sex as a bargaining chip - no hurry on my end to get a guy to commit. But just that that's where I stand with things. I kinda feel like I was bumbling in the communication department - he's the first guy that I've gone out with since I went off of my self imposed dating hiatus, and I am honestly quite new at being so forward in setting sexual boundaries. So my fear is that I might have come off as really wanting to clamp down on him in the relationship department (which isn't the case...I love spending time with him, but there are still some significant questions as to whether or not he's a good match for me that can only be resolved with time).