How to introduce your child to your SO...

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FluffyRed

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...once you know you're serious about someone?

The divorce happened two years ago and the kids have not seen the parent with anyone else. How do you introduce them in the least traumatic way possible?

I'm assuming it should be away from home? Out at an activity? For a relatively short period of time?

I really have no idea.
 
Go to the park or somewhere were your child and your SO will play and interact with each other. But dont tell the child that he is your SO. See how they interact. Then after a couple more meetings or a few more days ask the child what they think about ?From there you can tell your child that he is your SO and ask them how they feel about it. HTH
 
Qualitee said:
Go to the park or somewhere were your child and your SO will play and interact with each other. But dont tell the child that he is your SO. See how they interact. Then after a couple more meetings or a few more days ask the child what they think about ?From there you can tell your child that he is your SO and ask them how they feel about it. HTH
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I don't think this is a good idea at all.

I'm assuming (and hoping) most parents will have taught the child not to speak to strangers.
 
Depends on the age of the child. I introduced my son to 2 boyfriends and one guy I was dating.

When my son was 2, I was involved in a serious relationship. We went out to get something to eat and ended up at his play mom's house. He had a good time and just thought he was someone fun to play with. The relationship was about 5 years.

I introduced my son when he was 10/11 to another guy I was dating. I introduced them pretty early. We went to dinner with my son and his daugther. I was not affectionate with him so he thought it was just a friend. I wanted to see how they interacted. I was in a relationship with this person for a couple of years.

I am currently dating someone and he has met my son. It was kinda cute how they met. My son and brother went to hang out. My friend stopped by to bring me some soup from his hometown. I saw the boys go in the house because I was outside in the car talking to my friend. Next thing I know they come right over to the car. We have hung out a couple of times with my son.

For me, it's important for me to see how my son interacts before I become completely serious with someone. My son is a big part of my life and if he can't get along with the guy I want to settle down with than it is a deal breaker for me.
 
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MzLady78 said:
I don't think this is a good idea at all.

I'm assuming (and hoping) most parents will have taught the child not to speak to strangers.
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Ms. Lady I think she means don't tell the child you are dating the person or they are a significant Other. I guess downplay the relationship. I have done this myself.
 
Qualitee said:
Go to the park or somewhere were your child and your SO will play and interact with each other. But dont tell the child that he is your SO. See how they interact. Then after a couple more meetings or a few more days ask the child what they think about ?From there you can tell your child that he is your SO and ask them how they feel about it. HTH
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My SO introduced me by me bringing my little cousin. who is his children's age, to his parents house so they could all swim in the pool. First he introduced me as his friend and it worked out beautifully.
 
I misread the post, I apologize. I'm a little slow today. :look:

That is a good idea. :yep:
 
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^^^ I can't remember the last time I saw a Chuck E. Cheese, LOL.

I didn't think they still existed.
 
Kids, I'm getting married on *insert date*

And then depending on their age(s) take them somewhere they should interact.
 
When DH first introduced his son (who is 9) to me we just went to a movie. (I think it was just to get him used to be around me.) The second meeting I spent the weekend with them. By day 2 he was asking me to play with him and I was getting good night hugs (with no urging from DH). I think it depends on the child's personality and maturity level.
 
It's easy. Just say:

"_______ (insert kid's name here), this here is Mandingo. He's your new Daddy, now go make him a sandwich." :lachen:

No seriously, when my mom first started dating my stepdad, she just kind of eased me into him. I tagged along on a few of her dates with him, and we had dinner at his house a few times. Before long I considered him a friend, and shortly thereafter I considered him a Dad. When he and my Mom decided to get married, they sat my sister and I down and asked for our approval. (Not that they needed it, but I think they wanted us to feel involved in the decision) Granted I was 12 yrs old at the time, and old enough to process everything, but I think the way they handled the situation as adults was impeccable.

We all get along like the Brady Bunch, so they must've done something right.
 
Don't do it til their in their late teens! Lol It could become a parade of uncles if you don't watch yo self. Kids can sense your trying too hard at a early age and rebel.
 
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