How to Get (And Keep) a Man 101

Guapa1 said:
Oh! Like Princess Diana right? Mmm, doesn't work either, I look like a serial killer eyeing up my next victim! :lachen:
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Blu217 said:
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I hadn't noticed this lack of lippage before, so I'm in the midst of compensating for the unbalanced ratios when my guy starts gnawing my face off. I mean, he wasn't kissing so much as chewing with his mouth open or something. I couldn't find the rhythm, couldn't get control of the moment so you can forget the sensuality.

I've been kissed like this before. First they take over, then they take your face over. Now, sometimes you can recover, slow him down, take the lead and not say a word. But sometimes they just don't know what the sam hill they're doing but are bound and determined to do it anyway!

Just sayin. The art of the kiss isn't always so simple. If anyone knows how to tame the Beast of Bad Kissing, I'd love to hear suggestions to get the sexy back on track.
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Dag, being sexy is hard and sometimes dangerous. :lol:
 
Blu217 said:
Most recently I kissed a man I'm extremely attracted to. I was patient, let him lead into it and make the first move. I was ready to put it ON him! But then something bad happened. First, I'd never kissed any lips so thin (white guy, tho hardly the first), just barely there it seemed. I hadn't noticed this lack of lippage before, so I'm in the midst of compensating for the unbalanced ratios when my guy starts gnawing my face off. I mean, he wasn't kissing so much as chewing with his mouth open or something. I couldn't find the rhythm, couldn't get control of the moment so you can forget the sensuality.
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BAWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHA :lachen: :lachen: I had the same problem (?) recently......virtually no lippage :lol: whats a girl to do???
 
how is this not being yourself? if you really think you are a prize, then YOU pick the man you want, instead of waiting to be picked, and YOU decide to keep the goodies locked up and when to dole them out. Fliriting is flirting, its not "dumbing down" like you'd think some of the posters seemed to read it. Roz's advice shows how women can be in control, instead of giving in to whim or what your peers do. It's about having your own life and not being too available, which, really, all of us should already be doing. so what's the problem? now go out there and get your man!
 
Since we're on the subject of kissing, anyone has advice on how to keep a tongue rhythm going? You know, where your and his are in harmony without it being a battle of the tongues? :sekret:
 
Parvathi said:
Since we're on the subject of kissing, anyone has advice on how to keep a tongue rhythm going? You know, where your and his are in harmony without it being a battle of the tongues? :sekret:
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Go left:look: Your left:look:
 
Parvathi said:
O...K....:look:

that's it?

If so, I've tried and it doesn't work...:(
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That's alls I gots:look: You should be able to figure out which direction he's head from the movement of his top lip. But when you have to start choreographing(sp) kissing somebody...You may not need to be kissing up on that person:lol: Maybe it's them...Not You!
 
Guapa1 said:
Oh! Like Princess Diana right? Mmm, doesn't work either, I look like a serial killer eyeing up my next victim! :lachen:
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Princes Di! The only person I could think of was Veronica Lake, and I know most of you might not know who she was. Yes, Di had the under-the-lashes look down-pat.

As for the bad kissers, fortunately, most men take instructions well. Just redirect. If he's gnawing your face off, by all means stop him. Then demonstrate the way you prefer to be kissed. If he doesn't take the hint, then tell him.
 
Aww man I can't believe I missed this thread...
I agree with poster who said that Black women are least likely to be married. So while we sit around and "wait" for that special man to come into our lives, other races of women are scoooping them up in droves. Get real, anything worth having is worth the extra work. :yep:

And to all the posters who kept men by being themselves,without anyone's advice in their entire life: Congratulations! :clap:

P.S. Rozlips , please keep the advice coming for us youngings......I enjoy it
 
imready4change said:
Aww man I can't believe I missed this thread...
I agree with poster who said that Black women are least likely to be married. So while we sit around and "wait" for that special man to come into our lives, other races of women are scoooping them up in droves. Get real, anything worth having is worth the extra work. :yep:
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I agree...
 
The man who falls in love with you and you with him would love you for you all your faults and all your peace. To me it's not about "keeping" him it's about keeping each other, the person that attracted him in the first place is what is "keeping" him all along don't change who you were when you got together down the line if you were this stay at home woman don't start going out or you did your hair all the time and then all of a sudden stop he loved those things about you. this is what I told my dh when we got together "I'm nice with a twist" and to this day he says that was the truth:yep:
 
Great thread OP!! I agree with your entire post.

Ladies who think this is BS, keep it moving. This thread isn't for you anyway.
 
A great thread. :yep: I'm a divorced woman in my early 30's who, by no means is 'desperate', most definitely taking notes. Certain points I will be implementing because I think they will be useful.

Thanks, Rozlips. Good job.
 
This is a great thread. I think that looking through your lashes thing is doing what Princess Jasmine and all those other Disney princesses do with their eyes!
 
rozlips said:
Note, the ego-stroking is part of what you do after you've already got the man, and you're married. Not in the dating/mating stage. At that point you are still single, and he should definitely know that he doesn't have you on lock. That requires marriage.
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Did this, and my fiance totally felt unloved. He's one foot out the door because he thinks I don't love him and am not as invested as he is. Since he's one foot out, so am I. But since he made the commitment and he shelled out hella money over the course of the relationship, I've been doing doubletime to let him know he's got it all wrong. But that's about to end really quick.
 
I love her tips!

I noticed this was dated in 2006. I'd change one thing... it seems that the biggest enemy now to relationship progression is text messaging (in place of in-person meetings). Shoot, it's too much to even get a man to talk on the phone these days... and to think THAT was the biggest problem not too long ago.
 
I had to send a thanks and I am already married... great advice. Of course this isn't the only way, but it sets a good foundation to find a man that knows his position is to pursue you...imho
 
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